Oral sex is stimulating the genitals with the mouth, lips and tongue, by kissing, sucking, licking and nibbling. Many people use oral sex as foreplay or a substitute for intercourse, because it can be just as important and enjoyable as full sex.
If you'd like to try oral sex with your partner, you should make sure you're clean first. Although don't forget that the natural taste and smell of your body might be what attracts them most, so don't cover up with perfumes or deodorant. A good tip if you're concerned about how you or your partner smells, is to suggest taking a shower together.
When you're clean and fresh, you'll feel more comfortable. If you're worried about the way you look, try dimming the lights and lighting candles to boost your confidence.
Remember to try different techniques until you find out what your partner likes. Some people prefer gentle oral sex, with plenty of kisses to the areas around the genitals first, whereas others favour a firmer approach! Just listen and look for signs of appreciation - then you'll know you're doing something right.
A little gentle guidance during sex can go a long way but don't be pushy or upset if they're not ready.
Protect yourself
Oral sex is the same as any other sexual practice. Although there is no risk of pregnancy, you can still catch some very nasty infections.
Many sexually transmitted infections (STIs) such as gonorrhoea, herpes, hepatitis B, chlamydia and HIV can be transmitted through oral-genital contact. It's also possible for a woman to pass thrush to her partner, while they perform oral sex. If a male ejaculates in his partner's mouth during oral sex, then the risk of catching an STI becomes higher.
Don't have oral sex if you think you might have an STI, because your partner may catch it. Wait until you have seen your GP or someone at your local sexual health (GUM) clinic.
Most STIs are treatable if detected early enough, but if left untreated, STIs are not only uncomfortable and embarrassing, they may also affect your health and fertility.
For oral sex on a woman, use a latex barrier (a small sheet of latex which acts a barrier between the vagina or anus and mouth) to prevent spreading HIV or other STIs. Latex barriers (known as 'dental dams') are available at some UK pharmacies and can be purchased online.
Condoms should be used when performing oral sex on a man. Some people complain that condoms have a rubbery taste and lessen the sensation on the penis, so using thinner or flavoured ones may help. Also, using a small amount of lubricant inside the condom could help increase sensation - but only use water-based lubricants on latex condoms. Oil-based lubricants such as petroleum jelly will weaken them.
If you have any sores or cuts in your mouth, you should avoid oral sex. Also, don't brush or floss your teeth right before you have oral sex. This could tear the lining of the mouth, and increase your risk of catching any viruses that may be present. If you want to freshen your mouth first, try mouthwash or mints instead.
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