How can I encourage my child's confidence and self-esteem? (all ages) 

Health visitor Pam Schultz talks about the things you can do to encourage your child's confidence and self-esteem.

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How can I encourage my child’s confidence and self-esteem?   Pam: “High self-esteem forms the foundations of lifelong relationships. So if a child from a very young age learns to internalise positive feelings about themselves, it will enable them to cope with life's trials and difficulties and feel more positive and optimistic about dealing with things that they're going to encounter. As a parent, you must never forget how important you are in that child's life, and you can enable them to build a high self-esteem from a very young age.   How you can do that is by lots of praise and lots of love and attention and also lots of play. Play is very important in a child's development. The secret, really, to maintain high self-esteem is to praise wherever possible, and if you do have to correct the child, to do it in a caring way.   It's important not to ridicule or shame the child when they're exhibiting behaviour that you don't want to see, because this can be damaging to their self-esteem. And the way to perhaps approach this is to model the child or to show to the child the behaviour that you do want to see.   Distraction often works very well, so perhaps remove them from the situation. That also keep them safe, but they learn that there are boundaries in place.   It's never too late to build your child's self-esteem, and perhaps if it has been difficult in the early months, and you feel you need a little bit of support, as to where to go to build your child's self-esteem, then do contact your health visitor who will be able to help with that.”    


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Adriano61 said on 01 July 2015

This type of direct praise only works your quite young children, up until around 3-31/2. Just telling children they are good and what they do is good does not build self-esteem in the long run. Children need to build self-esteem based on their ability to succeed at tasks, tell a child they are good will not make them better at maths. Practicing will and achieving will boost self esteem. See “ The Effects of Praise” 2008 Gwen Dewar for more detailed information.

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