Child sexual abuse is any sexual
behaviour directed towards children...
adults, male and female,
and by young people themselves.
And it can
to the most
outrageous sexual offences,
such as rape of children.
also now involves
sexual behaviour online.
And this is a growing concern.
On the research today,
approximately one in six children
of sexually abusive behaviour.
So we have a serious issue.
We know that very few tell us.
Often they feel shame, guilt,
abuser will often put
the guilt onto them for the behaviour.
And impacts can be extensive.
The hardest thing for us as adults
is to try to come to terms with the fact
might be harming our child.
what do we do about it and
how do we talk to our child about it?
So I would
say first of all, if you do
think someone's harming your child,
for whatever reasons...
It may be nothing to do
with your child's behaviour,
with someone around your child.
Very difficult to
But if you do feel that,
thing you need to do
is talk to someone about it.
is a helpline that all adults
can go to to talk about any issues
that maybe their child is being abused.
And why we need to talk about it is,
it feels such a huge step to take
of sexually harming a child.
probably fearful to do that.
And that's understandable.
But we must make sure
protect and keep all children
safe in our society.
When you talk to children
you have to
bear in mind their stage of development.
And if you're talking
to a five-year-old,
your approach is going to be
quite different to a 14-year-old.
So you need to know your child
of the best way
to approach them on the matter.
Children are going to be holding
a whole lot of guilt
because of the grooming process
probably close relationship they
have with the person who's harming them.
going to come out
and say, "Yes, this has been happening."
need to know that you won't
be too shocked by what they might say.
about how you give permission
to the child to talk about anything.
interrupt the child. Just
let them tell you in their own words
their own way
what has happened.
that the child is alright.
You might want to ask a question or
but don't endlessly question the child.
Just let them
in what we call free narrative,
tell their tale,
let them do that.
What you need to do is be reassuring.
Try not to be too shocked
or to show that you're shocked.
let them know that you will
look after them, keep them safe,
will probably have to take
some action about it.
You will need to phone
either the social services department,
and / or the police,
them know you have this concern
and why you have this concern,
will make an appointment to
see you or ask you to go and see them.
A big step, I know,
you think about if you don't
do that, then this abuse will continue
child or children concerned
will then be affected
for the rest of their life.