Learning how to make friends is one of the most important things your child can do. If your child learns at an early age how to get on well with other children and adults, they’ll be better prepared for starting school and will generally be happier and more confident.
It’s never too early for your child to start making friends, especially if they're an only child. Even babies and small children like other children’s company, although to start with they’ll often play alongside rather than with each other. Ask your health visitor if there’s a group for new parents in your area. Getting together with other parents can be good for you too. Find out more in Meeting other parents.
There are a number of groups that you and your child can get involved in before they’re old enough to go to school. Whatever type of group you choose, make sure it’s registered with Ofsted. This is a sign that it meets safety and quality standards and satisfies the Early Years Foundation Stage (EYFS) for early learning and care.
Parent and toddler groups
Once your child starts to crawl and walk, you can try a parent and toddler group or a ‘one o’clock club’ (a group organised by the local council, where young children and their parents can come to play and socialise). It’s a great way for toddlers and children aged up to about three to burn off energy and for you to relax and chat to other parents.
Ask your health visitor or other parents you know about groups in your area. Look at the noticeboard at your clinic and in shop windows. Your local library will probably have information too. It may also run story sessions for pre-school children.
Playgroups, pre-schools and nurseries
To start with, your child will want to know that you, or another trusted adult, is nearby. But by the time they’re about three, they'll be ready to spend time playing with other children without you being there.
There are playgroups and pre-schools in most areas. They vary in what they offer and how they’re run. Some are free, while others charge a small fee.
Sometimes, you’ll be able to leave your child for a couple of hours once or twice a week. Sometimes, you’ll be asked, or might want, to stay and help.
Playgroups are often run by parents. To find out about local playgroups or pre-schools, contact your local Families Information Service (FIS, formerly known as the Children’s Information Service) on 0800 2 346 346 or the Pre-school Learning Alliance.
A nursery class is part of a primary school. A nursery school is a separate school. The services they offer vary. Some provide sessions of about two-and-a-half hours a day. Others offer extra services. Ask what’s available and whether there are any costs.
Find out as early as possible about playgroups, pre-schools and nurseries in your area as there may be waiting lists. It may be a good idea to put your child’s name down for more than one group.
Free early education
All children are entitled to some free early education from the age of three until they start school.
These free sessions are available in a variety of settings in the public and private sectors, including nursery schools and classes, day nurseries, childminder networks and playgroups. To find out how to join in your free sessions, contact your local FIS on 0800 2 346 346.
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