When is it safe to have sex after a miscarriage?

You can have sexual intercourse again as soon as you and your partner feel physically and emotionally ready. However, it's best to wait until you have finished bleeding to reduce the risk of infection. It's also best to wait until you've had your first period.

After a miscarriage, there is a possibility that you may bleed for a few weeks. The bleeding should not be heavier than a normal period. Contact your GP if the bleeding becomes heavier or you notice smelly or discoloured discharge.

If you've lost your baby during pregnancy or birth, having sex again can involve a number of conflicting emotions. It's very common to experience difficulties in your sexual relationship following the loss of a baby. You may need time to regain trust in your body or you may need the emotional closeness that sex brings. Remember to talk with your partner about how you are both feeling, be patient and understanding with each other and seek bereavement support if appropriate for you.

You or your partner may be concerned about the possibility of another pregnancy resulting in miscarriage. If you wish to wait a while before trying to get pregnant, make sure that you visit your GP or local family planning clinic to decide what method of contraception is suitable for you.

If you're experiencing difficulties in your relationship and would like to talk to someone about it, then contact Relate on 0300 100 1234. They offer a counselling service for couples or individual partners who are experiencing problems in their relationship.

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Page last reviewed: 22/04/2013

Next review due: 21/04/2015