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Premature ejaculation
We're here to find out if premature ejaculation is an issue.
Why does it happen,
do men find it embarrassing and what do their partners think?
How would you feel if someone ejaculated prematurely?
I would feel understanding of it. I know it's a common problem.
As long as the quality's good, I wouldn't be disappointed.
- Has it ever happened to you? - I've been too keen a few times.
It's a bit taboo still, I'd say.
Why are men embarrassed about premature ejaculation?
You don't need to talk about any past experiences.
What actually is premature ejaculation?
Well, let's start with ejaculation.
Technically that's the squirting of semen from the penis
during orgasm, sexual climax.
In everyday language it's when a guy comes.
So premature ejaculation is when a guy comes too quickly.
Premature ejaculation, is that just very quickly or before?
How do classify what premature is?
For every guy, how long it takes to climax is different.
If it was five minutes I think that's quite good.
A guy may have entered his partner, he may be getting ready to enter
or he may not have even got his clothes off before he climaxes.
If it goes on past 10, 15 minutes it drags on a bit.
Why do you think it matters...
But if it's really good, time isn't really a matter.
It's only if that's a problem for him that he needs to seek some help.
- What do you think causes it sometimes? - Too excited.
Pressure, trying too hard.
You're there before the race is over.
Just getting a bit excited, overexcited.
You're just in the moment, you just want to get straight to that point.
What are the causes?
Well, for the most part it's a psychological problem.
But it's a very common problem. Most men will suffer this from time to time.
If it's happened to a man once and worried them, it could get worse?
If it happens once and a guy gets into this downward spiral,
"It'll happen again," and it does happen again,
then yes, it's likely to get worse.
It's not something they're in control of, so I guess they should seek help.
Maybe... Is it like an illness?
If there's an underlying medical problem that's responsible,
diabetes, hypertension,
it might be because he's drinking too much, using recreational drugs,
or it might be because he's stressed.
If it's down to lifestyle,
cut down the alcohol and don't use recreational drugs.
If it's down to anxiety and problems within the relationship,
couples counselling might be a good idea.
It is something that I know is embarrassing for men
and it is seen as a problem
because obviously then sex doesn't last as long
and they feel they haven't satisfied the woman.
Why do you think you'd be embarrassed?
Because nothing's happened yet and it's all over before it's started,
so it would be embarrassing.
Would you be embarrassed to admit it had?
I wouldn't be... I mean, if it's happening now I would be.
It's not something they'd discuss with their friends.
You wouldn't discuss that with your male friends.
This is something men find embarrassing and that makes matters worse.
It affects all men at some stage in their lives,
and if it gets to be a problem
a guy shouldn't be embarrassed about asking for help.
The GP isn't going to be embarrassed.
I wouldn't berate them for it or anything.
It's obviously an issue that they probably feel quite bad about anyway.
I feel quite complimented because I'm that hot.
When things are new you get a bit excited.
Just chill out a bit.
If you are going to do it in the first five seconds,
just make sure you build up again.
Just have a go with themselves before they go out.
- That's a trick. - That's a bit of a trick, yes.
It might make them stay a bit longer.
Do you know of any tricks men can do to stop getting so excited?
All the TV programmes say you should think of really dull subjects.
For anybody watching this who's worried about it
and thinking it may be a problem, what can they do?
If you worry about it it's likely to get worse.
There are some self-help tips.
If you're using condoms, try and use a thicker condom
because that will decrease the sensation and make things last longer.
The squeeze technique, where a partner is masturbating the guy
to the point where he indicates that he's about to climax.
He or she then squeezes the head of the penis for 10 to 20 seconds
and then resumes masturbation about 30 seconds later.
Essentially that calms down the ejaculation reflex.
Sometimes all it needs is to be told that everything's normal
and how to deal with it.
I wouldn't be too bothered. It would be something to work out as a couple.
- Has it ever happened to you? - It might have done.
(laughing)
Yes.
It's not anything you can't get over in 20 minutes, when you've both recovered.
You just get up and do it again, don't you? It's not an issue.
