'Cherubism and me'

Victoria Wright

Victoria Wright was born with cherubism, a rare genetic disorder which causes an over-growth of fibrous tissue in the face.

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She has been called names like fat chin, Buzz Lightyear and Desperate Dan. At school, a girl threatened to punch her eyeball "back into place".

Yet, despite the difficult years she has had growing up with her condition, her self-assurance is clear on meeting her. Victoria Wright speaks engagingly and with humour about living with a facial disfigurement.

“A girl used to draw pictures of me in class and share them around,” says Victoria from London.

The tormenting only made her more determined to stand up for herself. “I have a very strong sense of who I am and how I want to live my life,” she says.

“I don’t want to hide at home, afraid to go out and afraid of other people. If they have issues about how I look it’s their problem, not mine.”

First signs

Victoria was about four years old when the first signs of cherubism appeared. “My mum was brushing my teeth and she noticed my teeth weren’t in the right place.”

Cherubism, named after the chubby-cheeked, angelic figures in Renaissance art, runs in Victoria’s family, although in a much milder form.

It was thought Victoria's condition would regress after puberty but it didn’t. Instead her jaw grew larger and it began affecting her eyes.

She had surgery to relieve pressure on her eyes, which saved her eyesight. But she still suffers from headaches due to her impaired vision.

“Cherubism isn’t a painless condition,” she says. “I do get twinges of pain. My head is very heavy. Doctors say it’s as heavy as a bowling ball.

“I’ve been offered surgery on my jaw to make it smaller but I don’t think it would improve my appearance,” she says. “I’m used to the way I look.”

Victoria has been falsely portrayed in the media as being anti cosmetic surgery because of her decision not to have the size of her jaw reduced.

She is not against surgery and says: “I’m certainly not against people with disfigurements having surgery, but I’m fine with the way I look. Why should I have the surgery for other people?

“I’m happy with my face most days. After all, I’m a woman and no woman is completely happy with the way she looks. But I’m not going to change myself to make other people happy.”

Unsettling stares

Victoria has never got used to the stares although she understands it’s a natural human reaction. “I try not to take it too personally. We all stare, even me," she says.

“As a teenager, I used to get angry but that doesn’t do any good to you or the person staring. It just reinforces the stereotype that people with disfigurements must be angry, tragic, or scary.

“If I find myself being stared at in an aggressive way, it can be unsettling. But I don’t let it get to me. That’s because I’ve got a good sense of who I am.

“If someone’s staring out of curiosity, I just smile and nod to show them I’m a human being and there’s nothing to be scared of.

"Most of the time, people smile back. That’s a good feeling, because I know I’ve made a small connection with them.”

The support she’s received throughout her life from family, friends, teachers, and Changing Faces, the disfigurement charity, has been crucial.

The charity recently launched a website called iface for young people to discuss disfigurement, offer and receive advice and share personal stories.

“There are fantastic role models at Changing Faces,” she says. “Lots of staff members there of all ages have a facial disfigurement.

“As a teenager meeting them, I felt, 'Wow, you can have a career, and be happy and confident with a disfigurement’.

“Sometimes you can feel isolated, especially if you have a rare condition. It’s difficult if you don’t see anybody else in the street like you. Getting peer support is so important.”

Changing perceptions

Victoria is studying law part-time and plans to be a solicitor, perhaps representing people who have experienced discrimination.

She says that 50 years ago, the world was a much harder place for people with disfigurements. “Now, we have people with disfigurements with successful careers and we are no longer hidden away.”

Legal protection through the Disability Discrimination Act and awareness campaigns led by Changing Faces are helping to change public perceptions.

“I would strongly encourage anyone with a disfigurement who feels they need support to get in touch with Changing Faces,” says Victoria.

“I know it can feel as though life is hard if you have an unusual appearance. You just have to be brave and take that first step out of the door.

For every person who stares, there are a hundred others who don’t and who will like and respect you for who you are.”

Cherubism: Victoria's story

Victoria Wright talks about her life with cherubism, a facial disfigurement, and how she handles people's reactions.

Media last reviewed: 20/08/2013

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APiko said on 31 May 2012

Very impressed. What a cool person....

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Nero12 said on 12 August 2011

I have had thoughts that people are staring at me and you have inspired me your comments were really interesting kept me reading through

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Clarabeebensteck said on 06 November 2008

What an amazing woman you are, and a fantastic source of inspiration.

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User50585 said on 06 November 2008

Good for you, Victoria!! Inspired by your self confidence....

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