Keeping your emotional health in check needn’t be embarrassing or ‘unmanly’. It can bring real benefits to your day-to-day life.
Looking after your emotional health is more important than you might think. Feeling in control of your emotions and keeping your stress levels down may protect you against depression and other mental health conditions.
Check out these tips to help you maintain your emotional health.
Get talking
Talking about things that are important to you is an important first step. A lot of men aren't used to doing this. Talking openly can help you to build stronger relationships with the people you care about and help you to keep your problems in proportion. Start to open up to those closest to you and it’ll get easier over time. “Talk to someone who won’t judge you, and who has your best interests at heart,” says clinical psychologist Isabel Clarke.
Manage stress
Keep an eye on your anger and stress levels. If you get angry regularly or feel aggressive, it’s time to make changes. If people are telling you that you're too angry, they’re probably right. Anger is a negative use of energy. Get rid of that extra energy in a more positive way by going for a run or doing deep breathing exercises. See Anger management for more advice.
Get some help when life gets tough
There are many sources of help for dealing with emotional problems. Your GP is a good place to start. You may be surprised at how many options are available. Many areas now have access to computerised cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT). There are also telephone helplines such as the Samaritans on 0845 790 9090.
Keep a routine
Sometimes life can be unpredictable and you may feel a bit lost. If you’re out of work, or you’ve split up with your partner or no longer have kids living with you, you might suddenly have lots of spare time. “Retaining a routine is important for keeping your emotions in check,” says clinical psychologist Linda Blair. Try to structure your day. If you have lots of free time, fill it with the jobs around the house that you’ve been meaning to do for ages. Or try the hobby you didn’t previously have time to do.
Don't drink too much
Alcohol may make you feel slightly better for a short time but it increases the risk of depression and is potentially addictive. If you choose to drink, don't exceed the recommended limit (no more than three to four units a day for a man).
Make sensible choices
Evidence shows that keeping active and eating healthily has a positive impact on your emotional and physical health. Change your daily life and make room for some exercise and a balanced diet. Eating five portions of fruit and vegetables every day is a good way to start. See Food and diet and Fitness for further tips.
