Many different behaviours can become addictive, and sex addiction and love addiction can develop.
Sex addiction is described by the relationship counselling service, Relate, as any sexual activity that feels out of control. Sex addiction could involve sex with a partner, but it may also mean activities such as pornography, masturbation, visiting prostitutes or using chat lines.
For many people, these habits don't cause them a problem. However, sex addicts are unable to control these urges and actions despite the problems they may cause in their relationships and to their finances and professional lives.
This addiction is similar to substance abuse because it is caused by the powerful chemical substances released during sex.
Love addicts, on the other hand, become dependent on the emotional stability provided by romantic partners. Love addicts often have low self-esteem and lack self-identity, and their addiction can result in obsessive, controlling behaviour.
The cause of love addictions and sex addictions is often rooted in childhood or adolescence. Early trauma, neglect or depression may be factors.
The consequences of sex addiction and love addiction are varied. Sex addicts and love addicts will typically have long-term relationship and intimacy problems, but the addiction can also affect them financially, professionally, physically and socially.
The recovery process for sex addicts and love addicts is similar to that of substance addictions. It involves identifying and changing behaviour that's painful and damaging.
Could you or someone you know have a problem?
Relate offers advice, relationship counselling, sex therapy, workshops, mediation and consultations. It provides support face-to-face, by phone and through its website. Read Relate’s advice on recognising the signs of sexual addiction.
‘I was a love addict’
Read how Clare Catford’s problems with love addiction began in her teens and how she got help to treat the problem.
Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous follows a twelve-step model similar to that of Alcoholics Anonymous. Visit the website for more information and to find a meeting in your area.
Cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) is often used to treat addiction. Find out what it involves, and watch a video of an expert explaining how it can help.
If you are concerned that you or someone you know has a sex or love addiction, see your GP for further help and advice.