Bullying: how to stop it

If you’re being bullied, you may feel isolated or frightened. You may find it hard to make friends or to talk to people your age. You don’t have to put up with bullying.

To stop the bullying, speak to someone. Asking for help is not a sign of weakness, it's the first step to resolving a situation that's not acceptable. Everyone has a right to feel safe at school, and your school is obliged to prevent all forms of bullying.

There are many people who will listen and help. Tell someone you trust, such as a parent, carer, teacher or friend. If you feel you can't talk directly to any of these people, write them a note.

Sometimes, people think that talking to a teacher or parent will make things worse. If you’re worried about this, call ChildLine in confidence on 0800 1111, explain the situation and ask for advice. ChildLine advisers will help any child or young person whatever the problem, and they won’t judge you.

ChildLine also gives the following advice on its website:

  • Keep a record and save any nasty texts or emails that you've received.
  • If possible, stay away from the bullies, or stay with a group when you don't feel safe.
  • Ask your mates to look out for you.
  • Try not to fight back, as you could get into trouble or get hurt.
  • Ask your school about its anti-bullying policy. This will tell you what your school should do about bullying.

Listed below are several helplines and organisations that can help you stop the bullying.

Who to contact for help with bullying

ChildLine

Call ChildLine in confidence on 0800 1111, explain the situation and ask for advice.

ChildLine 0800 1111

ChildLine is a helpline and website for young people and children. You can call ChildLine confidentially at any time of the day or night to talk about any worries. Calls are free from landlines and mobiles, and they won’t appear on a phone bill. You can also chat online to an adviser, or contact ChildLine by text, email or message board. ChildLine's website has a useful section on how to cope with bullying.

Bullybusters 0800 169 6928

Bullybusters operates a free anti-bullying helpline for anyone who’s been affected by bullying. It also has a website and message board, with sections specifically for kids and young people.

Kidscape

Kidscape's website has lots of advice on bullying for children and young people, including tips on what to do if you’re bullied, on moving schools and making friends. 

Bullying UK

Bullying UK offers extensive practical advice and information about bullying for young people, and you can send them an email if you want more help.

BeatBullying

On the BeatBullying website you can speak to a cybermentor. Cybermentors are young people you can chat to if you're being cyberbullied or bullied in any other way. They will help you work out what to do next.

GOV.UK: bullying

The government website has a section on bullying for young people, including information on what to do about bullying.

Help for specific types of bullying

This isn't a full list. You can find many more anti-bullying organisations on the Anti-Bullying Alliance website, which contains all the important sources of anti-bullying information and support. Remember, you can call ChildLine in confidence on 0800 1111 to talk about any type of bullying.

Bullying related to race, religion or culture

ChildLine's website has a section on racism and what you can do if you encounter racist bullying.

Bullying of young people with a learning disability

Don’t Stick it, Stop It!, set up by Mencap, campaigns against the bullying of young people with learning disabilities.

Homophobic and transphobic bullying

EACH is a charity for young people and adults affected by homophobia and transphobia. It has a telephone helpline for young people who are experiencing homophobic or transphobic bullying. You can call the EACH actionline on 0808 1000 143 on weekdays, 9am to 4.30pm. Calls are free from landlines and most mobiles.

Stonewall is a charity that campaigns for equal rights for lesbians, gay men and bisexual people. Their Education for All campaign tackles homophobia and homophobic bullying in schools across the UK. On the Education for All website you can find case studies, facts and figures about homophobic bullying in schools, as well as advice for young people and teachers.

Bullying of young carers

Young Carers Net has advice on what to do if you’re being bullied because you're a young carer.

Cyberbullying

For information on cyberbullying and where to get help, see How to deal with cyberbullying.

Page last reviewed: 03/06/2013

Next review due: 03/06/2015

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