Menopause - Symptoms 

Symptoms of the menopause 

The menopause can cause a wide range of physical and psychological symptoms.

The first symptom is usually a change in the pattern of your monthly periods.

The start of the menopause is known as the perimenopausal stage, during which you may have light or heavy periods (menorrhagia).

The frequency of your periods may also be affected. You may have one every two or three weeks, or you may not have one for months at a time.

Other menopausal symptoms include:

If you experience the menopause suddenly, rather than gradually, your symptoms may be worse.

Symptoms will usually last between two and five years before disappearing, although they can last longer. Vaginal symptoms, such as dryness, can sometimes persist and get worse with age.

Hot flushes and night sweats

A hot flush is a sudden feeling of heat in your upper body. It can start in your face, neck or chest, before spreading upwards and downwards.

The skin on your face, neck and chest may become red and patchy, and you may start to sweat. You may also feel a change in your heart rate. It may become very rapid, or it may be irregular and stronger than usual (palpitations).

Hot flushes that occur at night are called night sweats. Most hot flushes only last a few minutes, and they're most common in the first year after your final period.

Sleep problems

Many menopausal women have trouble sleeping because of night sweats. Sleep disturbances may also occur, as a result of anxiety.

You may find that a lack of sleep makes you irritable and that you have problems with your short-term memory and ability to concentrate.

Vaginal symptoms

During the lead up to the menopause, you may experience vaginal dryness, itching or discomfort. This can make sex difficult or painful (dyspareunia). These symptoms combined are known as vaginal atrophy.

About a third of women experience vaginal atrophy shortly after the menopause, with slightly more women having them later on. In some cases, vaginal atrophy can last for more than 10 years after your final period.

If you have vaginal symptoms, it's likely they will continue or get worse unless they are treated.

Urinary symptoms

During the menopause, you're more likely to have recurring lower UTIs, such as cystitis. You may also feel an urgent and frequent need to go to the toilet.

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bakingqueen said on 29 August 2014

Stumbled across this site & its been a good send. I thought I was going mad, every bit of me aches,itches or is thinking about it ! I have visited my GP so often I'm sure I have my own revolving door, no one can come up with a plausible explanation for my symptoms . I have had PCOS & Endometriosis since I was 15, never carried a fetus beyond 16 weeks , fybriods & heavy periods.Having spent years in different Gyni clinics I have learnt to trust my own body not the word of any Doctor. So here I am at 49 with the most horrendous period pain & no period for 4 months, mood swings that will eventually hang me , hot flushes to power a small town & body that just does its own thing.. Its so nice to read these comments ,we are not alone, we are individual so not all our symptoms will be the same but one theme that dominates is the stolic way we just 'get on with it' ....Well done Girls ...Can you just imagine the fall out if it were our poor menfolk who had to go through it ??

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Mrshaggis said on 27 August 2014

Wow! And I thought I was suffering alone! The metallic taste in my mouth was the thing that bothered me most, in case I had some awful gum infection - it would appear unlikely! I spend days feeling as if I have the flu, I ache so much, then the next day, I'm fine again. The hot flushes are just hideous, especially at night. I've not slept so badly in years. Even our light summer duvet is too hot for me. I feel ninety, some days, even though I'm only 48. I'm tired by 7pm, but then sleep poorly because of the heat I generate. Honestly, you could run the central heating off me! I have had brain fog for over a year, which worries me that I'm going to get Alzheimer's, like my poor mum. I do find that Evening Primrose Oil helps tenderness in the bosom region, if that's of help to anyone. I'm off to see my doctor tomorrow to ask him if he'll confirm that what I'm suffering is indeed menopause. Then watch out world - I shall use it to the utmost advantage!!!

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shawliz64 said on 25 August 2014

I'm so glad I found this website. For the last few weeks I've thought my head was going! I had breast cancer in 2008 and took chemo as an option. Periods had been perfectly normal up to chemo but didn't take another one following chemo and during five years of Tamoxifen. Five years up last November, taken off Tamoxifen and told that my periods 'could come back'. Three months ago had very tired spell, full blood tests all normal but showed was in menopause. Following month tired again and felt as if was taking period for a week. Last month period turned up for four days. Was bloated and tired for couple days leading up. Old symptoms, feelings etc. Then it disappeared after four days. Fully accepted it as had been told it could happen. Had noticed similarly that from about three months ago I had sore lower back and sore buttocks, sore legs and sore feet - particularly if I wore high heels or sat for a long time. didn't associate it with anything. Doc sent me bone density scan to see if osteoporosis but not. Then developed pain in left hip/pelvis area - felt like a ripped or torn muscle. Unfortunately got locum doctor who said 'well, let's face it, you're susceptible to cancer, you have been taken cytotoxic drugs and you've had large amounts of carcinogenic mammograms etc so it could be linked to your lower back. Felt like walking out into the traffic by the time he had finished. Am waiting to see if period turns up this month again but have gone from just accepting it to worrying myself sick. When I read here about how many people have developed joint and muscle pain it has lifted my mind considerably. Am being sent to gynae to make sure nothing wrong but I honestly feel that I have (a) menopause symptoms and (b) return - for however long - of periods as had been initially told when was taken off Tamoxifen. From what I've heard and read about over the last couple of months I feel that a new book about the menopause symptoms people DON'T usually talk about is required!

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Fairy15 said on 25 August 2014

Hello all fellow menopause sufferers!!
I was so relieved to find this forum and discover that my symptoms were common to most other people on this site. The flushes/flashes are awful, the mood swings quite debilitating at times and the weight gain really depressing. I found a website today that listed all the possible symptoms of pre menopause and there are 34 of them. I have 16 of those! But the worst one for me has to be the pains and stiffness in my joints and muscles. Within the last few months, I've gone from a reasonably fit, healthy and active 48 year old to a decrepit old woman who, when I sit for any length of time can barely walk when I get up.

This really started about a year ago in my hands. After a particularly heavy gardening session my hands really hurt in the mornings and I was barely able to move them. My doctor at first said that I must have muscle strain but then it continued for too long. I had many tests to ascertain the problem but my doctor drew a blank. I just assumed it was something I had to get used to. Then my back stated to ache at night and I bought a memory foam mattress which did help but not cure it. I kept thinking that it must just be part of the ageing process.
In the middle of all this, I was diagnosed as pre menopausal. I also had an op to remove fibroids, which has sorted out my frequent, heavy and painful periods. They are now light and infrequent.
Then about 2 months ago the aches and pains went into my feet and ankles. I honestly thought I must have some awful disease (and I am not prone to hypochondria) and I kept putting off going to the doctors. Then I found this site a couple of days ago. What a relief. I'm not going mad! All my symptoms are normal for a pre menopausal woman! Hurrah!!
I am sharing this because hopefully it will help someone else.
There are several websites which give information on how to deal with all these symptoms and they all suggest a healthy diet and exercise which I have yet to try!!!

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isobel47 said on 22 August 2014

Hi I can relate to a lot of you Ladies.
I am 47 and started going through the menopause at the age of 37 .I have had no period for 6 years.But all I do is cry my joints are all sore vaginal Dryness Horrendous moodswings ,Tiredness ,lack of energy and depression .
I have had to opt for an antidepression to help as due to family historys with cancer HRT was not advised.
But the last month my memory is terrible I have misplaced money now I cant remember where,cant remember the names for things nor can I remember what I have done the previous day .So most of the time I sit and cry.My Gran had a nervous breakdown whilst going through the menopause and had to get electric shock treatment.I just feel totally useless .Does anyone else feel the same.And thank you for reading

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sj52 said on 21 August 2014

Hello All, Its so great to read all your comments and realise that I am not going completely mental. That said, I am sitting typing in floods of tears, with all the listed symptoms,feeling faintly suicidal, and that the whole world is against me and everything is sooo overwhelming that I am just going to not do anything and lie on my sofa all day crying.
Had a hysterectomy about a year ago after years of heavy, heavy bleeding, gross anaemia, Mirena coils being put in, lost, looked for, replaced. Had more Tranexamic/mefanamic tablets, monthly artificial menopause injections than i can shake a stick at and none of it helped, eventually they operated after I had sorted out my one -parent life, 3 kids and job which i had to change.No-one primed me for any of this. Will message again with something more positive and helpful when feeling better. Best wishes.

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Lou m s said on 18 August 2014

Hi, well today my doctor announced that I'd started the dreaded menopause. I've read all the comments and decided it's not happening.

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mb55 said on 17 August 2014

Hi. I am 59 years old and started the menopause about 5 years ago. I was very interested to read about the lady who felt she had something in her throat. I too have that and have had a camera down-nothing was found. My worst symptom at the moment is very itchy feet when hot or wet. I also have eczema. I was prescribed cortisone cream which to doctor told me was only a temporary treatment as it would return. I use aqueous cream everyday for skin dryness. I keep active and eat healthily.

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Msgrace70s said on 17 August 2014

Hi Ladies, I am over the moon to have found you all and realise I'm not on my own. I'm 54 and experiencing at least 4 of the symptoms of menopause but strangely enough I've been to my Dr, had blood tests to be told it's not the menopause but my symptoms so far are just like what you are all describing. It's another trip back to the Drs for me I think. The one symptom that really bothers me is the palpitations it's hard to describe so can anyone out there help me by describing it to stop me thinking it could be something more sinister. Sorry if I sound pathetic but I'm really worried, hope the nightmare all comes to an end for you soon x

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Missmissie said on 16 August 2014

I notice from all the posts that you are all youngsters, 40's and 50's. Surprise surprise, I'm 60 and having a terrible time. I only started menopause at 54. Set into depression, hot flushes, panic attacks etc around 56. Ended up on a Heart monitor like one of the ladies below, for fast heart beat. Then I was prescribed an antidepressant, Thyroid and Cholesterol tablets. Where will it end.

At the moment I feel terrible pressure from my chest right up to the top of my head. Like a tube of toothpaste being squeezed....... with the cap on........

I have a funny tingle in my left temple now and then so my GP put me on steroids for a week. I can't say I feel any better. I still have a blurry head and find it so hard to concentrate.

I was always very active especially in my work but lack of energy now is just so frustrating. I can't wait to get back to bed in the evenings.

I know my mother was also late starting Menopause and I would say it went on for her for 15 years. I hope that's not my fate too......


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Jus1 said on 16 August 2014

Hi Ladies, it's great reading all your comments at last I feel like I'm not the only one. I've just turned 40 and in the last few weeks I've started having hot flushes any time of the day and at least 3 or 4 times during the day. I've started having to take a change of clothes to work with me (not good) I'm also struggling with joint and muscle pain, headaches and I cry at the slightest thing. I am on the contraceptive pill but it stopped my period so I can't tell if they've changed. Everyone keeps telling me I'm to young for menopause but I am starting to think if its not that = what is it

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Blondie000 said on 15 August 2014

Hi ladies great to read the comments, I'm 45 have been feeling strange for the last couple of years palpitations dizzy spells slowly getting worse although these symptoms have passed I think I'm going mental my nurse has swapped my contraceptive pill back to a normal 21 day pill I was put on mini pill for to high blood pressure having lost 4st in weight this is now back to normal, mood swings are a nightmare but it's my insecurities that are the worst I'm convinced my hubby is going to run away with a younger model! He loves me so much I know this when I've got my sensible head on but god help me when I've got my peri meno head on!!! As for sex well that's out the window! I have no interest in it whatsoever doesn't help that I keep getting a nagging itchy feeling down below bubble bath bothers me sex when we have it bothers me, anyone any advice on that?? Periods are fairly normal due to the pill I think and no night sweats up to now although my sleep pattern is a nightmare to, someone tell me I'm not mad.

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fuzzyhead said on 14 August 2014

Hi Girls, just found this site and read all of your comments after trawling the web. Thank God, i thought i was going crazy!. There are ladies out there in the same predicament as myself. I'm 49 years of age and have been suffering with a lot of the symptoms mentioned. I started having the hot flushes July 2013 with a vengence, every half an hour and so embarrasing at work, so had to get myself a mini USB fan, (not good). They got slightly better after a few months, but still having the odd one or two. It's now the metallic throat thing going on with the aching neck and joints and the dry eyes, thining hair......ohh i wish i was 18 again. I laughed, (cos if not i would cry), and told my husband, that if there is an after-life, i'm coming back as a man!!. Thank you all.

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fancyfull said on 14 August 2014

Hi Everybody
This is my first time on this site and have found it helpful. I am 56 and have not had periods for a year now and have just recently started to have hot flushes and have read about other symptons I might have to suffer. I have trigeminal neuralgia and am on medication known as Lamotrogine, this is also used for epileptsy, which calms the nerve from 'firing' and causing unbearable pain. Some of the side effects are the same as the menopause, but was unsure of the metallic taste in my mouth as this is not one of the side affects. I am glad to found this is probably one of the side affects of the menopause as was beginning to worry about it, reminded me of when I was pregnant!

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monkey68 said on 14 August 2014

Morning all, went to see Dr last week after weeks of bleeding and at least 18months of horrific mood swings, my poor husband. She was very nice, but there is not a lot they can do unless you want drugs eg HRT. We have to weather the storm I am afraid, but there are herbs such as Agnus Castus which are great for mood swings.
To Willowprawn, yes I also have a metallic taste in my mouth, I remember having it when I was pregnant as well, everything tastes odd. Most people in their 40's apparently are going through perimenopause which last about 4 years and then the menopause starts.
Also Willowprawn, go to see the Dr just for piece of mind :) good luck!

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Heckie said on 13 August 2014

I have heard there is now a quick test that can be performed by your GP to ascertain whether you are going through the menopause - be it early, late or about time (if you'll pardon the pun).

So, I don't think there is a way to establish the situation without a visit to a health professional.

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MrsBee88 said on 12 August 2014

Good evening ladies. I'm 45, have the Mirena coil fitted, haven't had a period since 1998, as have being using the coil since my daughter was born that year, so how do I tell if I am going through the menopause? My sex drive has gone out of the window, but have also had vaginal dryness when I have had the urge! My moods are terrible, so my husband has suggested I go to see the doctor, but thought I would see if anyone has any ideas before I see my GP.

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Willowprawn said on 12 August 2014

Hello girls! I am 47 and been on the 'change' for a year or so now, last period was earlier this year. Even though I am not having regular periods anymore I sometimes feel as though I am about to start one and have tender/achiness around my abdomen front and back. For some bizarre reason a heightened sex drive! Plus a metallic taste in my mouth.... am I the only one feeling like this? Please tell me others do too, I feel as though if I go to the doctors they will just wave me away telling me it is 'Just' the menopause. :-(

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monkey68 said on 04 August 2014

Good Morning Ladies, I am 46 and am so relieved I have found this site. Does anyone suffer from very tender and swollen breasts? I have also been bleeding for the last 2 weeks, I am on the verge of going to the doctors, but after seeing what some of you ladies have written about I am recognising myself. Like a lot of other ladies have stated, I am sitting here with tears in my eyes as I thought I was going mad. Have been to the doctors several time over the last couple of years as I was crying over nothing and getting angry also have also had cysts/boils down below, but thankfully now gone. They seem to think I am too young for menopause but my mum was in her early 40's and I have told them this. You start to think you are wasting the doctors time and stop going. My body also aches a lot but I have started Yoga as well as lots of walking and exercise and it is helping. I find that Yoga or low impact exercise is better than high impact as that just leaves me feeling more achy. I have always eaten healthily so I think that may help. As for mood swings I think I may start taking Agnus Castus as I have seen very good results first hand from this. Do not take if you are on the Pill. The thing I find with all these symptoms is that when you go to the doctor and they say there is nothing wrong and the symptoms persist you being to fear the worst which makes you more weepy and depressed. So chin up girls we can get through this together, this site is a tonic :)

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fublin said on 03 August 2014

HI I'm 44 and my periods started coming more frequently when I was 37, I then fell pregnant and things sorted themselves out for a while after having the baby, but about 18 months ago they started coming earlier again to the point that I was having them every 18/19 days or so - heavy and long lasting, I went to the Dr's over symptoms and turned out I was anaemic. I have now been on Mefenamic Acid for the past year for the heavy periods which has helped, the GP did blood tests and sent me for a scan, they said that bloods didn't indicate peri menopause and all 'normal' and have left it at that. Last month it was 40 days between periods, and then in July had two periods, but quite light. Also, I've noticed something that I haven't seen others mention and that is that I seem to be suffering with BO which I've never had before, I can smell myself and I'm mortified! Is this a menopause sign? I work at a school and I've noticed a couple of the kids taking the micky behind my back :-( - I shower daily and washing my clothes daily, not sure what to do? I am also a bad tempered witch and that has been going on for sometime, I really pity my children as they take the brunt of it :-(. Don't like myself very much at the moment. Surely if all was normal with my bloods this shouldn't be happening?

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bellbean said on 03 August 2014

I ache! I do have hot sweats, palpatations and a little dizziness but I can cope with those. I am also more aware that I feel "down" at the time that a period would have occurred in my cycle. However, it is the stiff back, legs and crunchy shoukders and neck that worry me most. I have such stiffness that I have been to the doctor who has run a myriad of tests and only come up with the early stages of Osteoperosis, which doesn't cause pain. I do stretching exercises every morning and go to the gym which both help. As I get moving through the day the stiffness gets better but if I sit for any time it returns. Bending is the worst: I have to steel myself to garden, which I would like to enjoy. My doctor, who is very good, dismisses the idea it could be the menopause but friends and these posts suggest otherwise. Is there anyone out there who can recommend anything thaf helps or confirm that the aches go away with the other symptoms? ?... please?

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Mary001 said on 29 July 2014

Carole I had exactly the same problems as you describe. I ma 52 and the problem started in late 2012. I was prescribed Tranexamic Acid to help with the bleeding but it wasn't very effective - eventually I became anemic.

I was also at one point prescribed Norethisterone to help reduce the bleeding which was better than the Tranexamic Acid.

I subsequently went into hospital to have a procedure called Endometrial ablation but was unable to have it due to the position and size of the fibroids but they did fit a Merina Coil which came out after 6 days due to the heavy bleeding/clots etc.

I then opted for a procedure called Embolisation which involves having a Pelvic MRI Scan before the procedure. I won't go into all the details of the Procedure but it was straight forward but I was in hospital for two days.

My periods stopped for about 2 months then came back gradually and are now very light. I had a followup Pelvic MRI in February this year and the fibroids had shrunk quite significantly.

I hope your Doctor/Gynae can do something for you.

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Carol5358 said on 28 July 2014

I am 56 and have had fibroids for some time I was told that as I approached the menopause they would shrink.. After going through all the peri-menopausal symptoms I had no periods for over 12 months, then I began bleeding again with a vengeance! When bleeding I did not dare to leave the house, luckily I was not working at the time. I became so miserable and tired all the time. I went through the usual tests and was told the fibroids had not shrunk, I had the merina coil inserted but still had problems, the coil had moved so it was removed and a new one put in. I have now started bleeding again after 6 months. I have read that this coil should not be used following a PE or if taking anti-epileptic drugs - both of which apply to me! I am going back to my GP but frankly I am not hopeful for a resolution to my problem based on my previous experiences. After reading the experiences of others this site has reassured me that I am not a hypochondriac.

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nicives said on 27 July 2014

I am so pleased that my hubby found this site for me...he is wonderful bless him. I have been in the peri menopausal stage for several years, though I think that I started going through the menopause a couple of years ago. My gynae finally told me I was earlier this year...such fun. My gp wont prescribe hrt due to my hx of ovarian cysts - which may also be caused by the mirena coil, which I had removed over five years ago. I am currently px Clonidine for the hot flushes, but this hot weather at the mo, is a nightmare and the combined with the hot flushes = poor sleep and constant cold showers. I was medically retired from mental health nursinf in 2011 due to my episodes of depression becoming more frequent and severe and with the added menopause, I find myself struggling more. I also have hypothyroidism - so many of the symptoms of that are also shown in the menopause. I have recently been getting a lot of gi problems too and had a colonoscopy last week, though the initial results look good. I didn't even know that gi problems were prevalent with the menopause, nor did I know that aches and pains, dizziness and tingling in the feet and hands were also related. I actually thought that I was going mad. All my bloods have come back within the normal range for various ailments and I was starting to think that I was imaging my symptoms - that's the way the menopause makes you think. However after reading your posts, it makes me feel human again and that there are others who are in the same situation - so thank you:) x

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MenopausalKatBat said on 25 July 2014

This is the first time I am joining an online conversation!! I'm 56 and have over the past 4-5 years experienced all the usual hot flushes, mood swings, depression etc that comes with menopause. What I'm experiencing now though is just horrendous and in fact I would never have related it to menopause had I not been looking up the endless symptoms on google and come across other women complaining of the same thing - aches and pains all over my body, every single day! They are random and come and go in my fingers, hands, arms, legs, ankles and feet. I feel stiff all over and really weak! This is not me!! I have always been active and sporty - now I can hardly walk, never mind run. These pains wake me at night and are there from the moment I open my eyes. I am on Levothyroxine for my thyroid but my latest blood test showed my readings to be good so that can't be causing the pain. My doctor has just taken a blood test for rheumatoid arthritis and I'm waiting for results.
Could this be hormonal??????? I'm very tempted to give the Lady Care Magnet a try - my brain tells me it's highly unlikely it will make a difference, but hey, I'm desperate!!

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JMB1964 said on 24 July 2014

Hi,
I am 50 years old and for the past two years have not felt right.
I have always been a worrier but this seems to be spiralling out of control my worst fear is dying and as I have so many aches and pains at the moment I am constantly thinking im dying!
I have pain all over my body, back ache, arm ache, leg ache, headaches, feel sick ,belly ache, feeling of something in my throat (which ive been to hospital and had a camera down) cant sleep, eat too much, have become very anti social would rather be indoors alone, forgetful, tearful.
I have not had a period now for 14 months so know Im in my menopause.
Have just received a letter to attend my 50+ mammogram and am absolutely terrified, have already given myself breast cancer feel sick even as I write that and had a sleepless night last night thinking about it.
HELP!!!!

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Tessy 136 said on 20 July 2014

Hi Jules 555. Reading your comment was like looking at something I could have written. I am 52 and had the mirena coil fitted to help with heavy periods as I was told I was peri menopausal. That's helped a lot and although I get hot flushes they are not uncomfortable. The main thing I have noticed of late is my mood. I also find myself crying at the drop of a hat, find I have no confidence in myself and very insecure. I also have become very anxious about everything. My husband says I don't seem happy anymore and am angry at everything. I sometimes have trouble sleeping and feel very depressed most of the time. I could really do with some advice as I'm scared that it will affect my family life.

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Penny R said on 15 July 2014

Hi All,
I am 51 years old, I had a thyroidectomy 2 years ago, on iron tablets and diabetic. I eat a healthy diet on the whole. I do not have hot flushes but I do have bouts when I have severe tiredness and find it hard to do the simplest things. I used to love exercise but not only do not have the motivation I don't have the energy! I would like some advice. I do have a stressful job and children. However I manage these on the whole very well. Its just recently that I feel this way. I do have pressure in my chest and have had heart traces...which were fine. Just frustrated on how to combat this now :-(

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Sujuhoo said on 14 July 2014

Hi Ladies after reading all these stories, I write to advise 2 products that I have turned too and can't be without.
My age is 54 and had many of the same problems until I read in the healthy book about the lady care magnet which you wear in your pants, just go onto the website and believe me when I say the stories you read I can relate too, and have been wearing the magnet for the last 4 yrs. Best money I have spent.
Also look on the Wellsprings website, this is a cream you rub on morning n night and really does work the one I use is Twenty two one with both hormones in, would love some feedback if anyone else has tried these, they have made such an impact on my life. The cream lasts me about 3 months.

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Jacky51 said on 14 July 2014

Hi Jessica12345
I have been having joint pains for quite a few months now. I had a hysterectomy at the age of 42 but kept my ovaries so havent had periods for years and felt fine up until about 18 months ago, when I started having gastro-intestinal disturbances and hot flushes. (unsure if the GI symptoms were due to the menopause but they seem to coincide). Also I started having joint pains, mainly in my ankle, which got so stiff in the night I could hardly nobble out of bed in the morning. The pain seemed to move around my body, into my knee and then my hip but now I have a pain in my elbow and shoulders and neck which I have had for a couple of months and it doesn't seem to be abating. I have been to see a chiropractor as I had trouble with my neck a few years ago and the chirpractor treatment helped, I did put it down to bad posture as I sit at a computer all day. This time though it hasn't helped at all. Sometimes it feels like a nerve pain running down my arm and also my joint crackle when I stretch them, especially my neck. The hot flushes seem to have disappeared but I'm not sure if they have been helped by the bio isoflavines I am taking, along with the numerous other vitamins I have started to take. The joint and muscle pains are really starting to get me down as I am constantly aware of them. I am on verge of going onto HRT, although am very reluctant but I feel more like a 90 year old than 51. Also I'm not sure how far into the menopause I am as I haven't had periods for years because of the hysterectomy. If I knew that I was going to have these joint pains for years I would definately go onto HRT to see if it helped, but I keep putting it off in the hope that things will get better!

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jasper17 said on 12 July 2014

My symptoms started when i was 43, im now 47. Still having irregular periods which are now heavy. I get angry, mood swings, feel faint, headaches, shoulder & neck pain,frequent hot flushes - so embarassing, night sweats, feel lighthead, tearful, no confidence & bad anxiety. A friend was on hrt but when she stopped at 60 all her symptoms started again so dont want to take them. Prefer to go down natural route, friend told me about Agnus Castus and have been taking it for 6 months with no side effects, plus taking vitamin B complex. Many symptoms disappeared! No night sweats, fewer hot flushes, not angry & feel more confident & not anxious, not tearful. Also do pilates which sorts out neck & shoulders, Rarely get headaches and my energy has returned. Exercise really helps. Chocolate cravings havent stopped so now need to diet, lol.

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jessica12345 said on 12 July 2014

I wonder does anyone else have severe muscle and joint pain, to the extent where i am having difficulty walking? I have spoke with my mum and she thinks it maybe something else, although i do have all other symptons, i am 49. I feel rather foolish going to the docs as it doesnt stay in one limb and extends to others with no warning, some days are better than others. Any help would be greatly appreciated.

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redhead59 said on 11 July 2014

to shay1111 don't panic i've been where you are and it scared the life out of me.it is all menopause related and if you see your doctor he/she may put you on HRT Hormone replacement therapy which can help with some of the symptoms so don't feel like you are on your own.hope I have been of some help to you.

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shay1111 said on 07 July 2014

I have been having flushes and irregular periods for about 18 months and no other problems.....last period was november but the last couple of weeks i think im going mad.....palpitations and chest pain,..dizzy spells where i feel like im going to faint tingling hands and feet anxiety (am suddenly scared to fly) and headaches.....a few days ago i got dark brown discharge but nothing like a period and its still ongoing.... I dont know if its all of these things are menopsuse related or i have something terrible wrong with me. Do these symptoms sound menopausal. Im starting to feel like im a hypochondriac as i have so many symptoms. Im 48 now and feel about 80....help : (

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discodot said on 07 July 2014

Good site, nice to know not alone. :-)
Hot flushes, who invented those ?
Going to try to get through them (2 minutes at a time.)
recent periods:- Christmas Morning……Easter Sunday…
Looking forward to the Harvest Festival ?? WooHoo

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Topcat171 said on 06 July 2014

It's taken me some time to actually realise I was going through the change since doctor said I was too young to be menopausal. Since Christmas I have been suffering with depression through family issues, periods stopped just like that about 4 months ago and the hot sweats have come thick and fast. Not used duvet in months either, I feel like a furnace and I'm gonna combust. Suffering from anxiety and sharp chest pains, miserable, tired, feel like I'm fighting against everything and everyone which I have ultimately been putting down to the depression. Blood test confirmed I am well into menopausal change, it can last for years I am told and just gotta get through it. Advised can take HRT however can cause blood clots which then can put strain on the heart, ultimately could lead to heart attack. Think I may try herbal remedies any recommendations.

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gladys21 said on 05 July 2014

hi all im 51 and not sure weather or not im going threw premenopause ive had irregular periods for years now id have a period then may miss 1 or 2 months but they are normal periods never heavy or light but these last 3 months ive had a period every month about 8 months ago I thought I was starting with the pre menopause with upper body sweats this only happened twice then stopped people told me I was going threw the change I wasn't sure then I started with anxiety attacks palpitations etc but thought I was strting with depresstion went to the dr he said I was gong what he called pre menopause but refused to do a blood test and that they dont them any more but these last few months I ve started getting warm but not getting the sweats just go warm this happens when I have my periods too is this the start of the menopause

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jules555 said on 04 July 2014

Hi everyone, i am reading these comments with tears in my eyes, some of them are like reading about myself. I am 51 and my periods have not been right for about a year and half but with no other symtoms and i thought ooo maybe this is all ill have to put up with, how wrong i was, for the last two months now i have been having hot flushes (im having one right now lol). Cant sleep my quilt is on off on off on off so must be getting about two or three hours sleep and then have to get up for work, all this is bad but the worst of all is how im feeling about myself, i have always been bubbly and always happy but i feel so down i feel so old and ugly, what can i do, i cry and couldn't tell you the reason why, i feel sad all the time and feel that this is a young persons world and i no longer fit in, my husband bless him is good as gold is anyone else feeng this bad.

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DebbyF said on 03 July 2014

I don't really know where to start, I have been feeling 'not right' for nearly a year and with symptoms that have been getting worse and slightly changing, in December I had a 24 hour heart monitor done due to rapid heartbeats and doctors advised me to see a cardiologist (worrying time as they thought it was VT) and I saw two as needed a second opinion due to the frequency of. symptoms, had loads of tests including MRI for heart and angiogram, all of which came back clear, have had loads of blood tests and all come back clear. Doctor at a loss and puts it down to possible menopause (although nothing shows on blood tests) or anxiety.
My symptoms are....
Heavy chest - feels' like pressure there
Palpitations
Irregular heart beats
Racing heart
Getting really hot at any time
Tingling in hands and feet, at times been all over
Mood swings
Stress & anxiety due to the symptoms and just not knowing what is happening
Loss of motivation to do exercise, i used to love the gym and cycling but know rarely do anything as I sometimes feel 'not right' after
Which results in me putting on weight and not feeling great in myself

At a total loss as the symptoms are really scary


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Galinsky7 said on 03 July 2014

I have just turned 41 and get huge bouts of tiredness particularly just before my period (which seems to have become much lighter but lasting for up to two weeks)...The tiredness hits me out of nowhere and doesn't appear to have a cause so I'm sure it must be hormonal - my body feels physically exhausted at times. I also get horrible overheating in my upper body every morning (I am generally a freezing cold person). Last year I had a couple of blood tests and was told it was not an early menopause but apparently the tests were meant to be done on a certain day of my period which was impossible because they start and then can stop for a day or so and then start again.... So I suspect the tests showed nothing but I am quite sure I am menopausal (or peri-menopausal). I also feel very angry sometimes. Does anyone else? I'm sure it's my hormones changing...

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Lynda9123 said on 25 June 2014

I'm 54 and been having heavy periods since January tried medication but had side effect of acid build up. So now been advice to try a mirena coil has any one had a coil at this age and did it help? Don't think I started menopause yet as not got any symptoms.

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oldagerocker said on 18 June 2014

This site was recommended by the Nurse at my GP surgery (so far so good). I have suffered menopause symptoms for about 8 years. Not being able to sleep properly because of horrendous night sweats, and then getting up at 06.00 for a 12hr shift (LD Nurse). I was fast losing my patience and scared I may start to make mistakes. I started HRT in 2011 and it was fantastic, I also take antihistamine for itchy skin. All was going well; my plan was to stay on HRT until I retire at 55. This year I turned 50 and went for my first mammogram then my plans suddenly changed. Called back, biopsies and surgery for DCIS. I can't use HRT now so all those vile symptoms have returned. I have taken to sleeping in the spare room, so I can have the windows open full and my mood has dipped. I am already anxious about returning to work, only 2 weeks post op. After reading your comments I will have a go at some of the natural remedies (after checking with my breast care nurse of course). This forum has been great just to get my thoughts down and I will return, hopefully to pass on some gems of wisdom as you have. Good luck to you all, stay cool ;-)

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Bikebabe said on 16 June 2014

I'm 52 and share many of the complaints listed. Here is my advice to try which I hope may help some of you. Get your weight within the normal range, get a mirena coil fitted - no more heavy periods, take general vitamins with iron, exercise vigorously if you can it really helps with energy and mood, cut caffeine, wheat and sugar right down, tell your friends and family to give you some leeway, remember on your bad days that things will get better, make no important life changing decisions on a bad day, forgive yourself, get out and see people and do things! This is our only life!

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almaca said on 14 June 2014

I'm 53 and had my last period exactly a year ago. For the last 8 months I've had the most horrendous and continuous sweats. On a good day, they will come every hour and on a bad day every 5 minutes - day and night. Please someone tell me this will soon stop! I'm sick of being soaking all the time and actually feel sick with it all.

I also have other serious health problems and now don't know what symptoms belong to what condition. Basically, I feel pretty ill all the time and don't know what to do about it. After having managed to improve some of my other problems, I feel I've suddenly gone backwards. I have no appetite, feel sick when I eat and pass lots of gas in both directions. I'm very sleepy, weak and out of condition and feel really depressed about it all. Since depression can be a symptom of the menopause, I even wonder if it is due to that or due to the fact that I've been very unwell and increasingly disabled over the last 20 years. However, I should be improving now so can this all be due to the menopause and how is it likely to last at such an extreme level? I feel I'm not going to survive much longer if things don't pick up.

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Savvycat said on 07 June 2014

Mank, I would seriously consider seeing your GP. I don't wish to frighten you, but a friend of mine had a period out of the blue after going through the menopause and it turned out to be a cancer. It may NOT be in your case, but its always best to get it checked.

I've just started going through the menopause so I'm getting the sudden and unexpected hot flushes and very red face, but it is normal so I suppose I'll have to deal with it as best I can. I've never been friends with sleep anyway so the insomnia will be a riot!

As for the night sweats, I guess it'll save on the central heating.

With all the challenges our bodies throw at us, I think the only thing we ladies can do is try to see the humour in it all.

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toffina said on 07 June 2014

I started Missing periods about 7 years ago and every year they tested me as my mum was young when she started the menopause. It turned out iron levels low. Then was tested two years ago again and hormone levels changed drastically in one month and was told I could safely say I had started the menopause due to family history as well and had then missed another six months. I now suffer headaches pmt which I never did before, lose of libido, hot flushes not too bad, but trouble sleeping and I'm only 43. Doctor asked me if I wanted to go on hrt, which I haven't and asked how i felt about it all. I said great at least I know why I'm missing periods and like others kept doing pregnancy tests knowing there was no way I could be pregnant but just wanted to prove to the doctor when I got asked every time could I be pregnant which gets a bit boring lol after a while. I'm quite happy with it and can't wait for periods to stop as never know when I'm going to come on. It doesn't bother me being young going through it. So not the end of the world for us younger ones as my mum points out just as well I had my children a while back as may have had trouble having them later as going through this at a younger age. I personally think mine started a few years ago all my symtoms.

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Grrrrrrrrrr said on 31 May 2014

Diamondlil, I feel the same. I'm 46, and started getting extremely angry one minute, then want to cry cause I hate myself feeling like that. My periods are very late this month and I just feel so tensed up a lot of the time. Slightest things annoy me and I'm very tired too. Please is there anyone who can offer ways to help mood swings?

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jac27 said on 31 May 2014

Hi ladies.
I have have read so many of your stories and some have brought me to tears. I am in my fourth year of menopause and it has taken me some time to come to terms with all of the ever changing symptoms. I finally decided that my body was meant to endure the menopause - after all it is a natural progression. Accepting it is half of the battle. I only use natural supplements to help me throuh: Sage is terrific! St Johns Wort etc all help me to achieve a copeable balance, only loosing the plot on the odd occasion. I can't beat the fatigue but if I can't sleep then I just stay in bed and rest. I don't look at the time I just relax and think of lovely things.
It's very important to remember that underneath your ageing skin remains the strong a beautiful woman that you have always been, you are still there so look in the mirror, hold your head up high and tell yourself that you can do this, it is a temporary stage so embrace it and help your mind and body through it. If I can do it, anyone can!

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diamondlil said on 31 May 2014

Hi All, I am 48 years old still having periods changing slightly but nothing significant but have night sweats occasionally leading up to periods and very very bad tempered I mean really bad tempered I take it out on everyone I am really short tempered with the kids I just feel such a bad person I am constantly tired have no motivation at all some days and yet buzzing and can't stop other days is this normal I want to speak to docs about it but don't know if I want to go on hrt or if it is even signs of menopause .

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Mank said on 28 May 2014

Hi everyone I'm so glad I have found this site I'm 54 i had all the normal things hot flushes etc I had my last period oct 2011, the hot flushes have got less over the last two weeks then this week I have stared to spot again can anyone tell me if this has happened to them don't want to go to see my doctor if this is normal.

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Sooty28 said on 28 May 2014

This is the first time on this site,thank goodness its here.I wish i could give all you ladies a big hug.But a least we know the symptoms we are having are the changes in out bodies as awful at times they can be. CVW thank you for your post the dry eyes,throat and nose is one of my many symptoms, hair loss, dizziness and very heavy periods.I am 49 years old and am trying very hard to eat as healthy as possible take vitamins and excercise .Hopefully this will help, but at times all i want to do is eat lots of chocolate and have a good cry, so i do.People of mentioned getting a blood test done to confirm that it is menaupause so i think i should do that.Thank you ladies take care and big hugs x

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welshleek61 said on 26 May 2014

ladies I am sorry to tell you but I am 61 and still experiencing some menopausal symptoms
I get anxious have sleep problems have lost a lot of confidence in myself but the worst symptom at the moment is feeling nauseous most mornings not as bad as morning sickness but still unpleasant it seems to go when ive had something to eat has anyone experienced this

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JMac65 said on 22 May 2014

Hi, I am 48 and been showing signs of the menopause, such as very irregular periods, mood swings, hot flushes etc. My last period was in November last year, I have been really worried and have taken numerous pregnancy tests and they have all come back negative, does anyone know if your periods stop all together when so early in the menopause.

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FrancesSummer said on 22 May 2014

Hi Ladies,

I'm 52 and currently going through the menopause. If it's any help, when I switched to a vegan diet with lots of fresh fruits and veggies, my hot flushes stopped straight away and the joint pain almost completely disappeared. Every time I go back to my 'old ways', the problems start up again, so I think I'm on to something here. Trouble is, it's quite a hard lifestyle to maintain (thank god for soya cappucinos, though!).
Google Dr Michael Greger for lots of free plant based diet info - he has a funny voice (he looks at all of the current peer-reviewed research on nutrition and presents the findings in short 3 min videos on his site Nutritionfacts) but he's well worth watching.

Keep smiling - we'll get through this! They say the 60's are the best decade of our lives, so that's something to look forward to!
xx

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Itchywitch said on 19 May 2014

It's called the Men-o-pause for a reason - mojo gone and sex is a distant memory. My poor husband. The periods became irregular at the end of 2010 and I'm now averaging 3 a year and so far they aren't bad. Then the heat came and I tried black cosh and it worked for while. But now I'm flushing every 2 hours and my brain is getting spongy. I went to the doctor who was male and he was good and gave me HRT BUT I haven't taken it because he said when I came off it I would have to go through it anyway. I asked how long I could take HRT for and he said about 5 years. I honestly don't know what to do. As an aside my friend lives in Cyprus and takes HRT and her doctor has said she can take it forever.

I notice on this site most of you have been to male doctors and frankly they cannot have a clue what it's like. Maybe the NHS need to set up centres or combine it with women's clinics where we can get help. I'm just 50.

Can we start discussing what helps us please? Diet and exercise seem to help and black cosh initially helped me.

Thank you xx

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Bramleyang said on 16 May 2014

Hya everyone, my first post on this site. I'm 51 and for the past 18 months have experienced hot flushes and irregular periods but that's been about it. I haven't had a hot flush for 6 months nor a period until last Friday when I started. This week has been horrendous and in fact i'm getting rather worried. I'm still on, passing blood clots and leaking constantly 8 days on. Is this normal?

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deb1967 said on 16 May 2014

Ginger im getting the boils/spots along with about 50 other symptoms im 47 x

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ginger1968 said on 15 May 2014

hi im 46 and know iv stopped crying i can think better ha ! any way ,does any one have boyles down below as no one has said i get them nearly every month along with my usuals realy getting me down along withevery thing else that going on and the fact i can no longer remember how to spell

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ginger1968 said on 15 May 2014

well just been at the doc seems im to young for hrt he gave me this e mail menopause matters and im sitting her in tears as im having most well apart from 2 of the things on this page happening to me and although these things are happening to other ladys out there it doesnt help me and the way i feel now to be honest and what i havnt seen yet is the part where you dont know whats happening to youand want it to stop, but you want to walk out in front of the first bus that comes along ,i didnt know that the constant headaches , tiredness,palpitations .not sleeping and for getting things is all due to the menopause or in my case pre-menopause so from what i can see iv got a long road to travel yet thanks to this page i can now see im not going mad or go some thing wrong with my mind i feel so sorry for my husband having to put up with this to .

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Frankyt said on 13 May 2014

I would suggest a visit to the doctor if you are getting any symptoms lyndseyjeavons35. They can do blood tests to check your hormone levels and see if anything is 'going on'.

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Frankyt said on 13 May 2014

Hi All, Nice to know we're not alone in all of this. I am 44 and have had symptoms for nearly two years now. The anxiety, palpitations, dizziness, hot sweats and feeling like I'm losing the plot. The worse thing for me is the heavy periods which are painful and with large clots. Sometimes I darn't go out for fear of leaking. Anyway the last couple of months I have been eating a lot healthier (need to as my weight has shot up) and walking everyday once or twice, aswell as doing some light exercise with weights and Yoga (all at home). What a difference it has made to how I feel. Don't feel as anxious and depressed. Still get very tired but a walk gives me some energy even when I really don't feel like going for one. Hope that may help a few of you. I also take some supplements of B vitamins and probiotics (make sure they are good quality - Healthspan are good and fairly priced).

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User872049 said on 12 May 2014

I started suffering sever night sweats when I was 36, and am now 42. After numerous blood tests I have been told I am still too young to be going through the menopause.
I am now constantly aching, have just started getting headaches, am up and down with my motivation and mood. I am getting forgetful too.
It helps to read that other people suffer the same symptoms. I can not believe in my head I feel so young, yet my body is telling me different.

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sharon l said on 11 May 2014

It is good to know we are not alone! I thought I was going mad, I started to feel " not my self " about 3 years ago, I am 46 now, just could not put my finger on what it was. I would go back and forth to my G.P for answers but got none. It was only when I discussed my symptoms with my colleague did I realise I was perimenopausal! What a relief to know I was not loosing the plot! I have had two periods so far this year, both have been very heavy, my worse symptoms are the palpitations and vertigo, the vertigo has been so severe on three occasions I had a trip to A&E for an injection to stop the vomiting. The night sweats I can just about cope with, but feeling out of control over my body is too much some day's, really wish I could have some peace from it and get back to being me.

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lyndseyjeavons35 said on 08 May 2014

hi everyone im a little worried as im only 35 and i have all the symptoms listed and am going through hell after reading all your comments and seeing that others are going through the same things i was hoping that you may be able to offer advice to me on the subject thanks in advance xx

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steffi6924 said on 07 May 2014

Hi, just wanted to know if anybody has experienced what I am going through and whether it is normal - I am 51 this year, last previous 2 years suffered terrible with night sweats etc - my last period was June last year (which was the worst one I have ever had in my life) - have had nothing since - but this week I have noticed a show - nothing significant, really mega depressed this weekend which is what I used to be like with periods and feels like stomach cramps again - is this normal (just so surprised that after a year with no period something is happening again)

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pauli65 said on 06 May 2014

Hi, I'm 49yrs old and for over a yr now my periods are all over the place the same with my moods.I can't sleep at for feeling hot all the time , I had 3 urine infection right after one another 'I'm constantly tired and can't be bothered with the outside world.My husband and 2 sons have put up with a lot and I'm now struggling.I have missed 2 periods ' done preg test just to be sure and negative has anyone got the same--im totally confused

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skyflyer27 said on 06 May 2014

Hello everyone. I have been reading the comments below and thinking "Oh lordy that is me"!! I am 46 and have hot flushes, night sweats and insomnia but Oh God the worst thing is the anxiety and foggy soggy brain. I can't remember anything, even my boss is mentioning that I am making silly mistakes at work. I have an appointment with my GP this week to discuss HRT and I am seriously considering trying it. Men don't seem to realise how debilitating the symptoms are and how devastating an effect it can have on your life.

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latin julie said on 03 May 2014

I awoke this morning & I just feel so sad I am 53years old and all the symptoms I am experiencing relate to what I have read except I am lucky in that hot flushes for the time being are not too much of a problem ..........ThankYou to everyone for helping me realise I am not completely mad and losing my mind ! My gp does not agree to hormone replacement therapy due to my mum history if breast cancer but said I could have the coil fitted to see if it helps however as I work in a gp surgery I have seen the bad side effects of coils & as I've never had problems with periods really I decided not to go down that route. My poor husband is so patient & kind & I just feel terribly old & I've lost my mojo I so hope to reclaim it back but how ? Isn't there anything that anyone does or takes to make things better ? I work as a gp receptionist & also teach dance part time we have a nice home & things to look forward to but at times I feel 83 not 53 ! Any suggestions would be very much appreciated X

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CVW said on 28 April 2014

I have been transformed in 6 long years from a tough old bird who can cope wi anything life throws at me & keep smiling , to this physical wreck I am today ! reason the menopause. reading everyones comments I feel less alone with this . but must say help when does this stop.... indeed does it .
from the top I have dry eye , dry nose & mouth , dizziness , migraine . severe joint pain , burning pain in my feet , no libido at all , hot flushes, don't sleep well, cant sit in one position long as I get stiff, a feeling of being in a " fog " all the time low mood , can't see a future , don't enjoy anything in my life at all .
I forget things now , i used to be so organised .i walked away from the cashpoint last week & left £100 in the dispenser oooops. Even my tastebuds have changed i have gone off foods i have eaten for years & now eat things I've never touched & have changed from a smiley person to a bag lady! i go out to the shops & just keep my head down & get home quick as . I just feel old tired ugly & useless .
nasty moods i behave like an experienced contract killer some days lol. i fear if i get through this my partner & son may be long gone !
Am sat here writing this with tears pouring down my cheeks . praying for my life back x

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Edinhetty said on 24 April 2014

It is a huge problem it seems that the menopause causes such misery. It also seems it is not taken seriously which is quite wrong given the impact it has on women's lives and in the quality of life for some.
I have read that women in countries that have a lot of soya do not suffer like women do here, so I have miso soup and miso on toast, also soy sauce, low salt. The other thing I take is sage tea, well sage leaves will do, strained. It is relaxing to drink at night. Sleeping well is a huge problem, while we are expected to do the normal things feeling exhausted which is where women should be setting the agenda for policy on the functioning of the workplace, pigs might fly.
So, try sage tea, it seems to help a bit, and soya, linseed on your muesli should get you your omega3 balanced, but really, it seems that it is something we have to endure without much support or information regarding what to do to ease the symptoms which can be more serious for some than others.

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Kazza47 said on 24 April 2014

Hi, I don't normally comment on sites but after reading some of these I felt compelled to join in!
I too am experiencing many of the symptoms mentioned, it's such a relief to know I'm not alone with this. I am 49 and have noticed a marked change in my cycle in the last 2 years. It began with dreadful mood swings, much worst than usual PMS, feelings of utter despair and hopelessness, total dissatisfaction with my lifestyle and family situation (completely unjustified). My husband is lovely and tries to be supportive but, bless him, hasn't a clue how to manage me when I'm at my worst, I turn in to an absolute monster! I saw my GP who wanted to put me on Prozac but I can't bring myself to take them because I know this is all attributed to the menopause and I feel I should be able to manage it some other way. My periods are very short, 2-3 days long and are increasingly sporadic. I'm stiff and I ache everyday from the top of my head to the soles of my feet, this is more noticeable at night when I can't seem to get comfortable, it's almost like sciatica I imagine...pelvic pains that go right through my lower back and down my legs. I have now also got this bloating windy thing going on, mostly in the afternoons, I've really got to sort that out because my stomach gurgles and moans very loudly at work...really embarrassing in meetings! Has anyone got any more ideas as to something that would help? I can't imagine how much longer this will go on for, will it ever go away?

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moomoo29 said on 24 April 2014

Thank god I thought I was going mad, stumbled across this page by accident really. I'm 49yrs old and have thought over the last 6 mths that I am losing my mind. Feeling hot, not sleeping properly, joint aches and pains, tired all the time, no energy, not being able to concentrate and forgetting words mid sentence, feeling like my head is full of cotton wool. I've been to the GP's more in the last 6mths than I have at any other time in my life and really thought it was all in my head and that I was beginning to sound like a hypochondriac. Had some blood test done and have to go back to GP tomorrow also have an ECG booked. But I must say I am feeling alot better about this already as all my symptoms seem to be pointing to the menopause, still going to be a rough time because if the way I feel now carries on for any length of time don't know what state I'll be in at the other end hahahaha. Just knowing I'm not alone in this and that I am not going mad (well maybe just a little) really helps.

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cruella44 said on 23 April 2014

Hi guys first time on here so a big helloooo and an even bigger cheers....I now don't feel so bad reading all these comments. I have recently found myself convinced I'm having a heart attack and/or mental breakdown because of my symptoms. This only leads to things appearing much worse than they probably are. I do . Suffer with stress and anxiety and have had the . Last year from hell with all sorts of personal issues contributing but I am now thinking maybe the menopause is also playing big part. I am 51 and have some irregular periods but it's the palpitations chest pain and feelings of /indigestion/heartburn that are most troublesome along with the anxiety and stress. Does anyone have any suggestions of how to deal with these symptoms (natural remedies if . Poss) as this . Is beginning to takeover my life and . Not in a nice way.

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nutella70 said on 23 April 2014

Hi Ladies, I am 44 and had been on either the mini pill or microgynon from 17 till 42. I have 3 children and had always had regular periods every 28 days lasting 5 days. Since coming off the pill I have still had regular periods but they are heavier and lasting longer, sometimes 7 days with only the first 3 being heavy, about another 4 days of light pink/light red or brown where i only have to use a liner. I have all the menopausal symtoms eg anxiety, palpitations etc.

My periods started being like this roughly from last December even though i stopped contraception 18 months previous. I started my last period on 7th april so won't be due on till 5th may but i have started bleeding lightly again today. It may be due to ovulation but I feel like i am due on.....so annoying!

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Little Suzi said on 22 April 2014

Hi Ladies, it has made me feel so much less alone to read your comments and advice. It seems I have ALL of the symptoms of menopause in one fell swoop and boy, are they powerful! My daughters have just 'flown the nest' so it's a double blow to be losing my hormones and fertility along with my girls. I feel like I am still a 'person' but the woman has gone. I feel 'de-feminised' and it makes me feel so sad. I have dry everything! My skin has dried up so much. My teeth ache, my neck and shoulders ache, I feel tired early in the afternoon until bed time - I fall asleep fine, but then wake up too hot, put the fan on, then wake up freezing. Hot flushes during the day are helped a bit by black cohosh. I have poor concentration and can be so forgetful. And my libido?...well, I'm lucky if I can even spell it never mind experience it. It's not a much talked about subject I am finding and it's so sad.
There are articles telling me to deal with this 'change' with grace and acceptance, but it's so hard to do when you feel like a dried up old hag.
In the middle of a sentence I search for a word to say and can't find it! It's like I have early onset old age!
I am torn between HRT and just 'dealing' with it. Anyone out there finding HRT has helped?
It's good to know I'm not the only one in this little boat. So hello fellow boat members, and thanks for the company!

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Witch18 said on 14 April 2014

Hi ladies, I'm 46 and feel far too young for the menopause! In the last few months my cycle has gone from a nice regular 28 days to 25/26 days and only lasting 2 to 3 days. The worst part has been the headaches lasting days. Today I feel so light headed and dizzy at times is this a part of the menopause too. My husband and I always wanted children but it beginning to sound like that dream is over. For those ladies suffering with cramps or restless legs try Epsom salts in the bath water, you need to soak for at least 20 mins to enable the magnesium to be absorbed but it is proven to help. Bless you all I hope you all find a way through.

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kaz52 said on 14 April 2014

I am so glad to have found this site. I am 52 and have been up and down for the past 12 months I had a mirena coil fitted for heavy periods 2 years ago and i hav'nt had a period for the past 12months only slight spotting occasionally. It's been these past 4 months that things have gone downhill, having very bad night sweats and very vivid horrid dreams, even if i have a good night's sleep i don't want to get up in the morning i could curl up and sleep all day, i fall asleep during the day, the mood swings are awful , luckily ni have a very understanding hubby, i have joint pains all over even in my heel which was worrying but after reading some of your stories i'm not as worried. Being forgetful and wooly headed and anxious does'nt even cut it, especially when i was driving and i could'nt remember which piddle was the brake the look on my husbands face said it all, and this comes from somebody who has worked all her life in a stressful but rewarding job has alway's been easy going and level headed. At least now i know i am not going mad cause i was getting worried for a time. I think it is a great site and it is good to know that you are not on your own. Thankyou xxx

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BrodieCastle said on 09 April 2014

Thank you everyone for your honest comments. I am sitting at computer trying hard not to cry as I should be focusing on my MA assignment, but felt so bad I looked up 'menopause' again to see if my symptoms are all involved. Yep!! I am sooo tired all the time, sleep anywhere if I sit down. Finding it difficult to concentrate or find the right words when talking to people. I ache and itch and hot sweats are mainly at night, but I keep feeling light headed. Worst thing was I have constantly been thinking about leaving hubby as I couldn't see the point of being with him; this is after 36 years of the best marriage you could have. I know he is fed up with my moods and behaviour, but is a really patient man. The headaches have started recently and are stopping me from working efficiently. I have booked an appointment at my doctors as I really need to check all else is ok, even if just for peace of mind, as my sisters have both had cancer. Trying to stay positive, but today not being very successful. I am on antidepressants so do not suffer anxiety, but boy are my hormones having fun. Sorry for the whinge, I am so pleased I am among others with the same problem.

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stormybird said on 08 April 2014

Thanks to Reikisavedmylife lady. Reiki really does help with all the feelings of helplessness, mood problems ad infinitum.........If you can't afford to go to a practitioner it is so easy to learn to do yourself. I am so much calmer and more positive. I have also been taking Menopace 'Night' which seems to help. Also I have found 'quiet' time really helpful. Also, last but not least, this message board is brilliant because it helps me realise that I am not going nuts! Keep smiling ladies and thank you! xx

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KitKat11 said on 03 April 2014

I am 49 and just a few weeks ago started waking during the night with sweats. I normally sleep like a log and was horrified at the thought that this could be my life from now on. I consider myself pretty physically fit...I usually walk up to seven brisk miles a day with my dog and love it as it helps with my mental health too. Have recently lost almost a stone also and am probably feeling fitter than I have for a long while. I have had a couple of what I think must be hot flushes during the day and have a bit of itching 'down below', but other than a bit of low mood occasionally, don't feel too menopausal, although I know it is most likely going to get worse! Also, this week should be totm, but nothing, so I think this could be the first missed/late one, as I have always been as regular as clockwork. Bit of a worry really as I have always been very fertile and have heard horror stories (would be for me anyway!) of women becoming pregnant at this age and to not have the monthly sign that tells me that I'm not, will be missed. Anyway, I don't plan on taking HRT or anything to get through this, but thought I would share the fact that I started using a menopause magnet last weekend. I was sceptical about it because I am aware that there is no scientific basis for magnetic therapy whatsoever, but I already know a couple of women who have been using them and think they are amazing so I thought I would give it a go. Don't know how/if it works, but all I can say is that the night sweats have stopped completely, I haven't had any hot flushes during the day and my energy is generally up. Don't want to open a debate about whether the magnet is a quack remedy or not as it is not endorsed/available on NHS as treatment as it is a homeopathic remedy...just passing on my feelings about it in case anyone would like to give it a go. It's natural, has no side effects, so far I am so impressed by it and certainly will not be parted from mine.

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maybemad said on 01 April 2014

I think I may be menopausal horrible moods one minute snappy next crying periods nearer together sometimes only two three days long sometimes 7 days , went to doctors 2nd visit she said prib menopausal gave me htrt not going to take av bought menopace instead taken for two days had thyroid check ,, clear had ecg for palpatations came back ok dont know can someone plz tell me if it is indeed hormone related memory rubbish sometimes, one day I can be ok the next can be bad achy joints ,somtimes get really bad trapped wind in chest and feelig of panic but dont know wot about am I going mad or is this menopause forgot to mention dont sleep well appreciate comments plz

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User65347 said on 26 March 2014

I am 33 and think I may be going through the early menopause. I have irregular and excessively heavy periods which have made me anaemic. I have had scans for fibroids and blood tests but nothing shows up (apart from anaemia). I am always hot. People always comment that they would be cold if they wore what I wore - even sleeves in winter can make me hot but I do get flushes too, particularly when stressed. The mood problems are the worst - PMT doesn't quite describe it. As others have commented, I am an emotional wreck a week or two before my period and fine afterwards but I do suffer from mood swings quite a lot generally. Please can someone tell me how they got a doctor to listen to them or get things checked out. If I am not menopausal I am pretty sure I have some kind of hormone imbalance. I feel I am being fobbed off quite a bit. I was given beta blockers for anxiety and palpitations about a year ago, which I only take every now and then since I gave up caffeine.

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Deblewis69 said on 25 March 2014

Hi I am 44 years old and I had a hysterectomy 15 years ago but still have my ovaries . But I an now experiencing bad headaches, tiredness , hot sweats and bad sleeping patterns and also I have totally lost my sex drive . And after reading some of your stories I believe I'm am probably going through menopause ! What helps ?

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addsan said on 25 March 2014

Thank goodness i dont feel so alone i am also feeling low and very empty inside thought it must just be me but 49 and havent had period for over a year but didnt realise it could make me feel this bad so glad to hear im not only one xx

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debz107 said on 20 March 2014

I'm so glad I stumbled on this site,I'm a 39 year old an I'm sure I am going through the early menopause,I feel like I am going a bit cuckoo!I have horrendous hot sweats in the night the week before my period and the week after!I am also so emotional that I feel like I am having a mini kind of breakdown but as soon as my period is over I feel back to my normal self(it's almost like a emotional demon has took over my body) then I return to my happy self),my periods are all over the place even though I have the mirena coil?thankfully I am single as I have no sex drive at all?my doctor just keeps trying to give my pills for depression but I'm completely ok a least a few weeks out the month,after reading what everyone else's symptoms are make me more certain I am going through the early menopause but my doctor won't have none of it because of my age?

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EmaNneercS said on 12 March 2014

Hi Roses12 - i'm 43 and having a period every two weeks :-( i'm angry, irritable, its ruining my relationships at home and work and have had enough already. I'm even thinking about getting an elective hysterectomy, I am booking to see the Dr to see if the implant or HRT is appropriate because theres no way i can carry on like this (i'd be divorced and unemployed and an alcoholic in 3 months LOL)

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roses12 said on 11 March 2014

hi all
im 45 and started the menopause and feel rubbish
please let me know if anyone else is feeling like me I feel so ill all the time my symptoms are:

nausea, feeling tired all the time hot and cold, lethargic,
im now on another lot of hrt as the 1st lot of medication made me feel worse. any tips to make me feel better will be appreciated thanks

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Jax83 said on 11 March 2014

Can anyone help? I am 30 and I have started getting what could be some peri menopausal symptoms. Sweats, heart palpations, extreme low mood two weeks before my period. I am on antidepressants now and beta blockers for my heart, but no answers! I can only assume its a hormone thing as I'm ok at certain times of the month. Are there any tests that can be done?

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Daisy0608 said on 11 March 2014

Hi.. I am pretty sure I am going through the menopause but I just wanted a bit of help.. I have not had a period now for a year, I am really active, ride my horses, run, walk etc etc..although I am carrying a bit of weight I am physically very active. I adore my husband, he is really considerate and caring but I am really worried as I seem to have completely lost my sex drive and I mean completely.. I just dont want him invading my personal space..the thing is he hasa high sex drive and he needs to feel love and cared for and i want to but I just cant..I also feel really depressed and cry a lot.. I am ok at work..I have a great job and I am in a senior position but as soon as I get home.. my mood goes down and i end up being snappy and nasty and I just want everyone to go away... am I normal.. I hate being like this.. is there something I can take?

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grandmaliz said on 08 March 2014

I also have suffered with all the symptoms of the horrid menopause and have been taking Tibalone for 5 years. Tibalone is man made and works in a similar way to hrt but with far less risks. It is only suitable for women who have not had a period for 12 months and I can highly recommend you all ask your gp for it. I previously tried the real hrt and was very disappointed as I still had most of the symptoms. Now I am symptom free and you can stay on it until you are 60, ( I am 56 ) good luck .
PS you can search Tibalone on this website under menopause treatments.

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Grumpy moo said on 07 March 2014

I am so glad I have found this forum. After reading all the comments I now know I am not going mad.
I am nearly 49 and have had a mirena coil for 9 years. At the time I had it fitted to relieve my extremely heavy periods and until recently it has been symptomless. In the last few months I have had horrendous headaches, sore itchy breasts, itchy scalp and legs, insomnia, sore back & neck, short term memory loss and concentration problems.
I don't seem to have any hot flushes but do have intermittent night sweats when there are times I sleep on a towel.
The relief I feel is a weight off my shoulders and I will make an appointment to see my GP to discuss.

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pookatron said on 07 March 2014

Have not had a period for 15 month's, I am almost 54, have all the usual hot sweats,anxiety etc. Wondering does anyone else feel like there going to have a period after this length of time, constant aching low down in my groin like when I was having monthly but nothing happening. I am on medication for restless leg syndrome and I also take Boots Menolieve which is black CoHosh. Don't see how some people find the menopause liberating, I think it's a nightmare!! I hate it with a vengeance, feel like a different person.

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Mellymoo1978 said on 03 March 2014

Just new to this forum so any advice would be appreciated!
Had a hysterectomy 2 years ago but ovaries were left.
I'm now wondering if I'm going through the menopause-
I feel a bit stupid even thinking I might be as I'm only 35.
Suffering from night sweats, absolute exhaustion no matter how much sleep I have, constant need to pee and little chance of holding it in if I don't go immediately! My head itches- feel like I've got fleas! But worse than that my private's itch and I've hurt myself scratching :-(
I can't think straight- my spelling is terrible and it never was! Half the time I don't make sense when I talk as I can't find the words I need so end up saying anything.
Worst of all I feel like a mess and it's depressing the life out of me.

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SouthCoast said on 01 March 2014

I am 52 and periods just beginning to get irregular. No hot flushes at all though my sister 51 experienced a lot of hot flushes the last year or two along with irregular periods. She's had 3 children. I chose not to have children. Is there a link perhaps? My chief symptom is absolute exhaustion, feel like a wrung-out dishcloth constantly. I work full time and it takes 100% of my energy to get through the working week. Also I have aches all over. My husband constantly wonders if I am "ill" but this is me healthy at at my 'best'. My sister has moments of low energy but often fine and able to go out to dance classes in the evenings! I stagger home from work at 6pm and that's it for the day for me. My sister and I have been advised against HRT because both our mother and maternal grandmother had breast cancer. Grandmother died aged 51 in 1966. Mother took HRT in the 1980s to relieve menopause symptoms. She says now she is sure it contributed to her breast cancer, which was caught early and treated successfully. However bad things get I will never try HRT but do feel I have to get through this 'cold turkey'. My sister and I feel supported by sharing stories of our symptoms with each other and it does help to talk and not feel so alone and to compare our often dissimilar symptoms. Its a bit like when we were young and getting our periods though in adolesence we didn't talk about 'that sort of thing' as periods were kept hush-hush in a very small house with 2 brothers as well. Women at work talk about periods. Its okay in the office to say you have period pain and feel rotten but menopause symptoms are never spoken of though most of my colleagues are under 40. I find myself thinking how the workplace needs to take into account this stage of a woman's fertile life. I work in a female friendly environment where going home with period pain is okay and anything to do with pregnancy and children naturally okay to go home, leave work early etc. But menopause?

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Reikisavedmylife said on 27 February 2014

I would not normally post on forums but like so many other ladies of a certain age I too think that the dreaded M word has been banded around my home most mornings for about 6 months now. My morning normally goes something like this:
Wake up after no sleep soaking wet with hair matted to my head feeling like I've been an extra in a war film.
Try to remember where I've left the keys, kids, my life....
Argue with my argumentative husband about a pointless trivial matter, only to feel that he has some how backed me into a very angry corner?
By the time he leaves for work I'm usually sat on the bathroom floor leaking from everywhere! And yes ladies I mean bladder as well as eyes!
Then by chance I heard about Reiki...I kid you not it has changed my life.
Gone are the mornings of panic and tears, banished are those pesky sweats, mood swings like that of a hungry child.
I feel alive vibrant and possibly younger if that's possible. The best is that I don't wake up in a pool of my own sweat/tears. And all by an holistic therapy which is non invasive and can replace the need for Hrt? I'm telling you find a Reiki practitioner in your area and ask about alternative treatment. Help yourself well! Good luck x

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BelB said on 26 February 2014

I am 59 and up until last month had a mirena coil fitted to help with severe bleeding all the time. I mistakenly thought I had gone through the menopause with few symptoms, but due to having fibromyalgia it was hard to determine this. Oh the joy of discovering that I am only now going through it ... so I have the day/night sweats, the anxiety, and most of the other delights except periods thank goodness. Does anyone else get incredibly tender and achy breasts? Also my shoulder and neck muscles seem to be constantly sore and I have no idea whether this is a menopausal symptom or fibro, not that it matters I suppose. Anyway, I'm so glad to have found this site and I hope your day is reasonable :)

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jcice said on 26 February 2014

Hi all, I have been reading many comments and I'm not sure if I am in peri menopause or not !! My periods are now coming every 3 weeks, I get symptoms for my next period approximately 4 days after I have finished one!! I feel very nausea throughout the day and have feelings of high and lows frequently . I am only 45. I feel exactly like a lady that commented earlier and am exactly the same age cupcake69.

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BabyMeyer65 said on 25 February 2014

PHEW! what a relief to join this site. I have felt so alone with these dreadful symptoms. Over the past year or so my periods seemed to have gone to every 3/4 months, but can be heavy with clots which really frightened me. I have terrible night sweats, palpitations, terrible dreams at times too. A dreadful feeling of foreboding. Loads of tears and mood swings, panic attacks. Sleepless nights. Forgetfulness. To be honest I don't think there is anything I haven't felt. Even nausea. Its awful to feel so alone and anxious. So glad there are many of you ladies who understand and have shared your own personal experiences.

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loveable1 said on 23 February 2014

I have read a lot of the comments here and I do sympathise with everyone. I now feel that it's not me that it going 'mad' and that I am not on my own with this awful menopause thing. I am 55 (56 in Nov) and have suffered with many of the symptoms, the worst being very heavy periods (for the past 4 years!). Even had a womb biopsy to made sure there was nothing sinister happening. Thankfully everything was fine, apart from the fact I have got a number of fibroids that are not helping with the heavy periods. Also have to take iron tablets because of anemia. Apart from the iron I'm not taking anything else, I'm just hoping that all the symptoms will go away on their own. Surely at my age it can't be that far away! I don't want to go down the HRT route because of the breast cancer risk so I'm determined to hang on in there.......Anyway 'good luck' to everyone else out there x

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Deb62 said on 23 February 2014

I have come across this forum by reading up on the Menopause, I am so relieved as i also was begining to think something was wrong. I have recently started having palpitations which can be quite frightening and was thinking i was going to have a heart attack. I have noticed that i am becoming forgetful and cant remember things, calling my cat by previous cats name, forgetting simple things and cant get out what i need to say and being aware that i am doing this and getting strange looks and comments and laughter from my children, I had a grandmother who died and had dementia so straight away am thinking i have early onset dementia.
Also having the night sweats but only started recently, I still have periods and have only missed 2 in last few months..Another thing that has been concerning me is i am now waking up frequently during the night after having dreams that are so real, some are quite frightening,, does anybody else have these also, they are quite disturbing and i sometimes wake up more tired than when i went to bed.. Also anxiety worrying about all sorts

I am so glad to have found this forum, it has completely put my mind at ease, i can now rest assured i am not having a heart attack with these palpitations or have dementia and can have some peace of mind rather than living each day thinking i am dying, and worrying about it and suffering in silence

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Angry women said on 20 February 2014

All the comments have really helped, I thought I must have the worst menopause ever but reading these just makes me realise I'm just a normal women going through hell.

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polleypausal said on 19 February 2014

I am a 57 year old confident and positive woman - over the past year I seem to have had a complete personality change. I work full time in a stressful job and don't really have time to write on forums and blogs etc other than the occasional Facebook post. However, having found this site by accident (I was looking up 'Noro Virus' for a colleague!) I have had the most fantastic lightbulb moment. Thank you! As well as the standard hot flushes, night sweats etc etc., the random aches and pains, the feeling of despair and lack of confidence are all........normal!
I have really enjoyed reading these posts and realised that I am not going mad - so I have picked up the phone and made an appointment to see my doctor.
Thank you, thank you, thank you!

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MoodyMrs said on 19 February 2014

Hi everyone, I have been reading your comments and although i hate to admit it, it does make me feel better knowing other, usually strong confident and happy women are going through this hell! I sometimes wonder if there is any of my lifes blood left in me at the end of a heavy period. They are now coming every three weeks and i feel like they are draining me dry. I am 48 and have always had a regular 26-28 cycle, however this last year has gone mad. I never really know when they will happen and the second day of bleeding can sometimes mean i have to spend it in bed. Tiredness, lethargic, depressed are all feelings i have. I can't go on HRT because my mum had breast cancer at 49. Iam wondering about the mini pill. Does anyone have any experience with this when breastcancer is in the family? I have never really suffered with headaches before but this last 6 months, i have been getting horrible ones, the doctor said i was describing migraines and hs given me strong painkillers as paracetomol and nurofen were not releiving them at all. Once my period starts, they seem to stop but i am left with a 'fuzzy, cloudy' head. I get aches and pains and i need to go for a wee a lot! Also i am having terrible wind that i just can't hold in as it makes my stomach sore. I have not started with sweats yet, but i dont smoke and i have read that can help. Ooh i sound like a moany old moo, maybe that is what I have turned into....but for how long?!

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pookatron said on 18 February 2014

Hi everyone, what a nightmare this menopause melarky is!
Have been taking for the last 3 months Boots Menolieve. It's black CoHosh, a natural remedy.Difficult to say whether it's making things any better but can't say things are any worse! My biggest issue's apart from the usual hot sweats is the constant aching in my legs at night when I'm lying down.And the restless leg syndrome is unbearable some nights.Doctor has given me muscle relaxant tablets that they give to people with seizures ( very low dosage).Sounds very drastic but have to say i have had 2 very good nights sleep.Feel a bit groggy in the morning but so much better for having slept. Keep your. Chin up girls, it will come to an end

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lorraine5 said on 18 February 2014

Hi I suffer all the symptoms the menopause has to offer it was worst when I didn't know what it was, my doctor just said I was going through it early and said enjoy your life and be happy LOL .I was 43 when the lack of periods started then several months later my periods came back with a vengeance they just didn't stop ,I went on mini pill it stopped them, but constipated me so I got the merina coil fitted, law and behold bleeding again, but not as bad as It was with nothing atall but still not good, the anxiety and back pain is the worst well palpitations racing heart. I would like to add that I exercise and have a good diet and still cant move the 5 pounds I put on, and I exercise for 20 minutes a day.I hate the menopause my life is rubbish now,and I cant go on for god knows how long.Am I going through perimenapause or am I nearly menausal ?

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Canttakeitanymore said on 15 February 2014

I suffer from approximately 95% of all the listed menopause symptoms and was surprised that there were on two on the list I didn't have. I'm 57 and haven't had a period for three years. I had a blood test recently and the GP told me I was peri menopausal....really, like I needed a test to tell me that.

I have tried everything except HRT and have reached the point where I will be making an appointment next week with my GP to start taking it even though I am very aware of the possible side effects, but I have to make a choice whether I can live like this anymore, or risk getting cancer five years or so down the line.

I can't remember the last time I slept more than two consecutive hours and as a result I feel knackered all the time. If I'm not waking due to feeling like I'm about to spontaneously combust it's because I need to have yet another wee.

My bladders is shot, I urinate only to go again 20 minutes later.

I suffer from nights sweats all day and night and cannot distinguish the difference from hot flushes and night sweats, as I burn up all hours of the day and night. In theory I should only be a size 8 as I have sweated buckets. And it doesn't help when ones work colleagues point out when your having a 'moment'.

At night the muscles in my upper arms ache dreadfully which I can only describe as though someone has repeatedly punched me until I have dead arms.

I have headaches most days. I feel angry most of the time with intermittent feelings of despair.

My libido is non existent and I feel like a dried up old prune. I wish reading the other comments made me feel better, but it just makes me feel sadder as no one seems to have the answer. All I know is that I can look forward to feeling like this for possibly another 11 years...yay!!!

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GillyT69 said on 14 February 2014

Ladies, thank you! Its nice to know I'm not totally crazy! I'm in a weird situation, last year I received treatment for vaginal cancer, apparently my overies should have shut down and I should be going through the menopause, I get occasional hot flushes and night sweats but they are not frequent, I have always been a bad sleeper, I have had period problems for years and now I don't have them at all (Yay!) and my hips ache but i thought that was due to the radiotherapy. My doctor is in disagreement with my consultant with regards to HRT due to the side effects, so I'm currently in limbo. Does anyone know what kind of tests can be done to see if you are in menopause?

So ladies, my mantra is " when you're going through hell . . . Keep going" (Winston Churchill). I'm sure you are all incredible women, we just need someone to tell us that now and again.

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Jayne45 said on 13 February 2014

Hello everyone. Nice to be able to read similar accounts of other women my age (53) which make me feel "normal". I still have regular periods which stops the GP from doing any kind of test but I have been having hot sweats during the day and only about once at night, very muzzy headed to the point where I am now doing too many things at once and making mistakes. I have very little patience and I feel like my body is aged 93 I hurt everywhere. I am bloated all the time. Because my periods are regular still noone will listen to me and help me.

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cupcake69 said on 13 February 2014

Hi everyone,

Can anyone help me, im not sure if it is the menopause or not.... 2013 was a very bad year for me and my family so i was under a lot of stress.... This year has been great so far i just got a new job, moving to a new home, gona be a nanny for the first time..... Im 45 years old, i have mood swings, wake up with headaches every morning, not sleeping, lacking concentration, sweating at night time... My periods have always been funny, i have had a blood test done to see if i have menopause but it came back clear and that was a couple of months ago, but now from what i have read on here it sounds like the menopause ..... Can any one help me x

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twisted sister said on 13 February 2014

At the grand age of 48 my periods are all over place had heavy one then stop and tired days later it started again not good for your sex life i must say had pounding headaches all weekend i an very emotional and the other extreme could swing for folk as my temper is quite up and down just want to sit and cry my back aches arms all my joints an going for oil of primrose this morn as been told it help not looking forward to getting old if this is what it does to you

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allcorn23 said on 13 February 2014

Hi, im 45 and started the menopause 3 years ago and HRT tablets 18 months ago, it didn't stop the hot flushes and night sweats, sleeplessness, and a leaking bladder, i have come to terms with going through early menopause now, but after 6 months of hot flushes i told my Dr, (i left it that long as i have CRPS &(possibly the onset of lupus) and thought the medication i was taking was the cause,but no it wasn't any of the latter, i don't miss not having periods i think that for me was the only plus side of starting the early menopause ,i didn't realise that the bladder leakage was another symptom until i heard Patsy Kensitt on This Morning and also the sleeplessness which i hate with avengance ,that is when i came across this website,the hot flushes and night sweats seem to be subsiding but still go around in strappy tops as i feel warmer even though it is the winter and get aniode with someone puts the heating on as i no longer feel the cold like i used to another plus, and can finally start to wear makeup again as i couldn't with the hot flushes as it always ended up looking streaky so stopped wearing it all together so I am keeping my fingers and anything else i can cross crossed,and another plus my husband says this is the only plus my sex drive increased im not complaining either,so for anyone else who is going through or just started the early menopause even though you don't feel like it,it does get better promise

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crabbycow said on 12 February 2014

It's about 4.30 am been awake for about 2hrs. Feel bloody awful. Emotional, tired, bloated and so full of gas all the time, hot and sweaty, itchy scalp, can't hold a thought in my head for longer than a goldfish (3 seconds for those who don't know!), can't spell, can't think straight, sleeping in spare bedroom - for many reasons but still not exactly sure what they are. What a bloomin mess. This is not me. I hate this person and I don't want to be her anymore. Nice to know I am not the only one - thanks for sharing ladies it really does help to know there are others out there struggling through. Take care and take heart xx

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Carol62 said on 09 February 2014

I am so pleased that in desperation I stumbled across this site, I am 52 and have been off HRT for just a couple of months, I expected the night sweats, the hot flushes and mood swings, but what I didn't expect was the pain and aching in my wrists, arms, legs and heel, I really have been thinking I have something sinister until I read these accounts from other women going through the menopause.. Is this quite common and normal? If so why isn't it listed in with the symptoms???

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withwoman said on 05 February 2014

I guess i have been quite lucky am 56 and just started perimenopause uts the bloody night flushes getting to me and feel knackered during the day also bit of anxiety kicking in which i hate as used to have dissociative seizures due to excessive anxiety due to grief anyway its just a nightmare am on fx menopause capsules so far no relief still having irregular periods and now my hisband is getting the brunt of it he asked if i wanted to watch the little mermaid to cheer me up hahah bless him and as for s.. well thats out the window and makes me feel unattractive oh well heyho on i have to go x

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lalaloopsywoman said on 01 February 2014

Well ive just come across this forum and so glad I have,, reading everones symptoms I now know I, m not turning into this evil scary devil woman,,, I had the merina coil fitted 2 years ago to help with fibroids and its been brill I was also told it would probably see me through the menopause, pfft ive just started with flushes but the anxiety I feel and insecurity is awful and this is coming from sumone whos normally very confident, ive had quite a stressful time personally over the last 2 years and thought it was that but my mood swings are shocking and I feel my own self worth is zero, I want to hide away all the time, ive only just started speaking to my hubby, he did deserve a bit of my anger but I think I may have gone ott, I think maybe a visit to the docs is in order before I do serious harm, what us poor woman go through eh.

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User839978 said on 30 January 2014

See! I am mad. Did nt think it had worked first time so spent ages retyping it. And its on twice now. Grrrrr!

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User839978 said on 30 January 2014

OK ladies, I have taken the unprecedented step of registering on this site after reading your comments.
What a relief that I'm not as mad as I thought. I'm nearly 52. Periods seem to have stopped, last one was end of Oct. Everything 'down below' seems to have stopped to be frank, hot flushes are very much there, but the worst for me is the sleeplessness, anxiety and depression. I feel ok now but over a particularly busy Christmas I got so stressed doing things I usually enjoy, that I had the worst palpitations that led to breathless during both day and night. Obviously I blamed my husband, and felt so unhappy in the new year, when the stress was over, that I suggested we seperate. We have a 12 yr old and a 6 yr old, my family are my MOST important thing, what was I thinking of?! Fortunately the symptoms have eased, we have talked and I have read this site.
I have made an appointment to see my GP, wondering if HRT may help as I don't want to feel as rubbish as that again, but have a feeling that I will advised to try to control the symptoms naturally. I'm looking into dietary changes and supplements.
Good luck everyone it sounds like a long and rocky road. Lets all hold hands and we ll get through it without killing anyone! (Fingers crossed)

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LadygoinGaga said on 28 January 2014

Interesting you should say that ProudBrit. Have always considered that I have at least a mild form of fybromyalgia, was even suggested by a doctor once! But apparently you have to hurt badly in about 17 different places before they will diagnose you! Hope you don't :( Any tips for pain relief?! Thanks for your input - had forgotten about the F word! :) x

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tray48 said on 27 January 2014

Well after 12 months of Monthly agony, and regular cycle since year dot, my period is late, or maybe not to appear? I still have the symptoms, bloating, feeling achy and looking like a dug up corpse week previous! I'll give it another week then visit the doctor, who will prob confirm menopause, I'm 47 and started periods at early age 10/11. If it is the last I've seen of dreaded monthly I don't know whether to be happy or sad. The change ? I wake up soaking wet some mornings, am I changing into a dolphin! ! If had mood swings,flushes,aching muscles,tiredness for over 12 months

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ProudBrit said on 24 January 2014

I read with interest all the comments about symptoms of menopause and without doubt I am in that club too. If LadygoinGaga should read this I think she should investigate whether she might have fibromyalgia as well as being menopausal. I have fibromyalgia and the way she describes her symptoms is identical to mine.

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taylort said on 23 January 2014

I have been reading all these comments and feel everything that I have read. I am 45 and for the last 12 months things have been getting worse. I have hot flushes and when it's time of the month I have terrible night sweats (2 or 3 a night), constipation at certain times of the month, my mood swings are horrendous. I can go from happy to angry to crying, to fretting then back to happy within minutes. My brain doesnt seem to to be working properly and just feels muggy all the time. My back, hips and neck seem to ache all day everyday. The worst part of it all is the tiredness, I just feel like I could fall asleep where I am stood all day long. My periods are still regular like clockwork but are getting heavier and heavier. I have been to see my GP who wasnt very good or understanding at all and the best they could say was that because my periods are regular is definately wasnt the menopause just a severe case of PMT. Well if that is right then why has it lasted literally everyday for nearly 12 months. Could anybody out there tell me if it sounds like the start of the whole menopause process as most days I feel like I am loosing the ability to cope. Fortunately I have a wonderful partner who understands I dont want to feel like this and it isnt my fault (even when he is at the receiving end of my emotional outbursts)

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lizzie63 said on 21 January 2014

On reading all your ladies comments I now am convinced my symptoms are all part of this menopause. I had my last period March 2013, one of my first symptoms was the itching of my neck and arms. Drove myself mad and would scratch my neck all the time. Thank god that did eventually go but then I started to have these hot flushes, it was if someone had put an electric current through my body and my body was heating up like an electric blanket inside me. I still can't get used to them but have excepted them and try to keep calm as they come. Sometimes not so often but then they can come repeatedly. My body also aches and my joints hurt. I turned 50 last year and I feel 50 and more at present, I do not look forward to other symptoms arising but I am sure I will have other ones aswell. My only wish is when the menopausal passes I hope my body feels slightly better in its self, I will try and help by trying to look after myself. Good luck ladies as we join this ageing condition.

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LadygoinGaga said on 19 January 2014

Came accross all these menopausal rants so thought i'd join so I could join in! Am 53 tomorrow and my body feels like its 93! My 81 year old mum has more life in her than me! HRT is fab for flushes but doesn't help with lack of energy, bad memory, bad mood, the feeling of being run over by a tractor every morning on waking, and the general desire to stay in bed forever! I am however cheered to know I am not alone and plan to br an entirely different person when its all over - tall, blonde, beautiful...or maybe it would just be easier to be male? ;) xxx

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Nikki2080 said on 13 January 2014

I have been experiencing irregular periods for 3 yrs now, I am 47 yrs old, my last period was 10 th October 2013, but I constantly feel period pains and bloating like I'm having an invisible period, I struggle to sleep some nights others I could sleep for 12 hours, I wake up with my pillow wet through and have to kick the covers off in the winter, the worse is the dull aching in my inner thighs at night, this drives me mad, I was checked out a in July, but test came back negative, so if this isn't the menopause then god help me, I was diagnosed of having an under active thyroid, this is low, but I am on life medication, not felt much better to be honest, but my moods seem to be few and far between, I forget things and repeat myself, god my dad is 75 and has a better memory, well good to see I'm not on my own, just wish I new for sure it's the end or not, I have a lovely husband who is very understanding and patient, I think a lot of marriages must end through this awful time for women, keep strong!!!

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CambLady said on 11 January 2014

I only found out I was menopausal this week, which came as a shock. I don't have any of the symptoms except my period have stopped due to using the Mini Pill for 3 years to help heavy and painful periods due to fibroids. I have read the other members comments which have helped me with what to expect in the future.

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feelingdogrough said on 09 January 2014

I've just turned 50 and wonder if I could be starting the menopause. On Sunday I woke in the early hours feeling very sick and faint. I felt cold inside but was clammy and my husband said I felt hot to the touch. i am experiencing the same thing again today. My head feels heavy as does my neck and I feel like I don't know what I'm doing at work. I've got my desk fan on at the moment which seems to be helping. I have not got any pain or disturbed vision just this horrible nausea and dizziness and feeling faint. Has anyone else experienced this at the start of the menopause. I haven't had any of the other symptoms?

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Wombatwoo said on 07 January 2014

Wow! I feel better already. I knew about the night sweats, hot flushes and mood swings, but thought it was just me with really clenched jaw all the time, feeling not all here and not sleeping , not to mention expecting people to die all the time ........
Thank you ladies for your posts I really did think there was something if wrong

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Wombatwoo said on 07 January 2014

Wow! I feel better already. I knew about the night sweats, hot flushes and mood swings, but thought it was just me with really clenched jaw all the time, feeling not all here and not sleeping , not to mention expecting people to die all the time ........
Thank you ladies for your posts I really did think there was something if wrong

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LLou1959 said on 07 January 2014

Hello ladies. I have never written on a forum site before, but such is the 'power' of the menopause, I feel compelled to join in and empathise and also to ask a question. I am 53, almost 54 and have been through most all of the symptoms many of you mention since my 40's. I had my last baby aged 41 and she is now 13 and its strange we are both hormonal for different reasons! She on the cusp of starting periods, me at the end.! So I try to understand when she bursts into tears for something trivial! But it can get a bit fraught between the two of us at times! My symptoms started with depression I think, but after a couple of years got over the worst of that, finally just suffering from mood swings, some good days, others a bit black and tearful at certain times of the month. Strangely I did not have hot flushes, which really surprises me, though night sweats for a time. Lots of confusion and woolly head days though! And lots of headaches. I am not sure when my periods stopped as I was on the mini pill until about a year ago. I was convinced my periods must have stopped and blood test said I was post menopause. However, since coming off the mini pill I am now noticing a distressing dark line of hair appearing across my top lip and I am terrified I am growing a moustache! My daughter has told me its not noticeable but I know it is there and I am wondering if anyone else has suffered from that and if going on HRT would remedy it? I am presuming its a lack of oestrogen, didn't realise I could potentially turn into a man! No seriously, its not that bad, but I am panicking a bit. I have a wonderful understanding husband, who has put up with mood swings, lack of libido etc but I still want to remain attractive/feminine if I can. To me it is only faint at the moment and my daughter is being honest with me when she says she hasn't noticed it, but I want to nip it in the bud and wonder if HRT would cure it? Have gone this far without, but this is different!

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claz123 said on 06 January 2014

Have just discovered this site and read all of your comments in floods of tears, tears of joy, as I know now that the way I feel is not abnormal. Thank you to everyone who has commented.
I suffered from very heavy periods about 5 years ago, my doctor sent me to have microwaving removing the lining of the womb. I have only had a couple of periods since. In the last few months I have become very depressed and suffer from a tremendous feeling of worthlessness. I used to be very upbeat and energetic, but now all I want to do is sit in doors on my own. I have put on weight which makes me more depressed so I eat and put on more, this has had a profound effect on my relationship with my husband.
I suffer from the night sweats and have panic attacks and sweats during the day. I feel very emotional and get upset at the slightest thing. I also feel I have become very grumpy with people, I just don't seem to have much patience anymore. Reading all the comments on here has certainly helped, I know this will all come to an end. Don't want to take hrt so will try to do it on my own although I'm not because all of you are out there doing exactly the same. Thanks again.xxx

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Mrs Moodycow said on 05 January 2014

Thanks, Flower Power 14! Your comment made me think very carefully: where does the temper come from... well, all I know is that I never used to throw cups! Or shout like I did the other day. This behaviour is not me! Anyway, I don't want to go down HRT - certainly not before having explored everything else but I do need to go exploring. Any medical or alternative tips much appreciated. Will report back once I have seen my GP next week.
In the meantime, chin up, everyone!

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Flower power14 said on 04 January 2014

If only we knew all our symptoms were linked to the menopause?! I could certainly manage day to day much better knowing all my troubles, aches and pains are nothing sinister and will pass with time.
I've started taking vitamins, so will let you know if I feel any better after a few weeks. Would not want to go down the HRT route.

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Mrs Moodycow said on 03 January 2014

My husband nearly moved out today because he could not deal with my severe outburst of anger and aggression anymore...I have not been myself for about six months, it's up and down all the time. I am 49, I had a coil inserted about a year ago. No hot flushes as yet but I often feel dizzy, and I had an episode of severe vertigo. But above all I am just so moody! Well, I threw a tea cup through the kitchen today that's how angry I was. My husband is obviously very concerned. I promised I would seek help. I am really shocked at what happened today. And I am scared that I can't keep my moods under control. I am planning to see my GP next week but I would be so grateful for any other advice from you ladies out there!

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Flower power14 said on 02 January 2014

Wow, so good to read all the comments and quite frankly be put at ease by the similarities.
I am 51 and feel awful. My periods have always been regular and pain free up until about 12 months ago when I skipped a few months then they started to be erratic. I bled heavily for 35 days non stop then nothing for three weeks then again heavily for one week then stopped.
I am tired all the time, neck ache, back ache, floaty feeling...just miserable really!
Terrible thoughts, like most others women going through the same thing, that something serious is amiss. Probably making me worse but I can't get rid of the negative thought!
I went to the docs (felt like a time waster) who took bloods which came back normal apart from one telling me I am peri menopausal.
Has anyone got any suggestions with regards to a pick me up/tonic ( as my mum would have said) that they have tried and helps?

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eirelav63 said on 01 January 2014

I'm 51 the only systems I have are when I go to my bed at night I waken up sweat pouring out me is this the menopause I have a urge to go toilet all the time

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Jgozz said on 01 January 2014

I am 48 and not felt right for over a year now. I had my gall bladder out in April so thought I would start to feel better but still not right.
My periods are irregular, the last one was in September, I am always worn out and sleepy. My libido has gone. I had 2 weeks of hot sweats in November so went to the doctors, had the blood test to confirm menopause. The doctor gave me a prescription for HRT to start on if the blood test confirmed it was the menopause. The test came back negative just before Christmas so I have not been able to see the Dr and have been worried what else it might be. Dr reception said to start on HRT anyway and see what happens but should I ask for more tests to find out what is wrong?

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tray48 said on 30 December 2013

I'm 48 and for about a year I've had heavy and extremely painful periods, however my last one was unusually light and no pain? ! Along side all this I've had night sweats, neck pain, knotted shoulders,, feeling angry al the time and anxiety attacks just as I'm dropping off to sleep. The last 12 months have been a nightmare, I've forgot what it feels like to be normal, but as women we plod on as best we can because we are good at that!

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lscott1009 said on 30 December 2013

I am 38 and my son has just turned 3. I am constantly sweating and feel like I can't leave the house. I know I am over weight but I have always had a weight problem but never experienced sweating like this. I feel horrible. Does anyone else have this and do you have any ideas? I feel so disgusting. Louise.

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sharonash said on 17 December 2013

like all you ladies its a relief to hear that there are so many other ladies feeling like i do. i am 52i have had 18 months of to begin with lighter periods but regular then every 7-8 weeks then 1 period of light bleeding but for 14 days. then back to 7 weeks but really heavy. every muscle aches this month had an urinary tract infection could cry at everything. feelings of sadness and catostrophic feelings. in between all of this have moments of happiness but its horrid and so out of character.
i have a blood test but it was a month where i was in a 4 week cycle and came back normal. doctor keeps offering HRT but really would like to not have it. he said definateley pre menopausal. have pain in hips feels sore like an ulcer goes after period .
have developed restless leg syndrome which is horrible.
after that moan i wish you all well and im sure when we through it we will look back on this with a smile.

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rhcp23388 said on 10 December 2013

Like many others I find it so reassuring that I'm not alone in my suffering. Like so many others I can list the symptoms 'text-book' style. I don't want HRT because I would prefer to ride this out if possible but I have to say it's a real challenge. I am particularly reassured by the comments made about morbid thoughts because this is a real problem for me. I have had a number of tests this year due to chronic 'stomach' problems. Terrible indigestion, bloating etc. Also chest pains which made me think I may have an hiatus hernia. I was convinced that I had something wrong with me but the tests were all fine. Even so, I still have morbid thoughts about being seriously ill. My insomnia doesn't help because I am tired and irritable, and more recently have started to burst into tears at little things. I want to try some natural remedies but there seems to be so many that I'm not sure what to choose. If anyone has had a good experience with natural products please let me know. Thanks

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Ellasamma said on 04 December 2013

Hi ladies, just wondered if anyone else has had a period lasting longer than normal at start of menapause? Im 41 and was told last year i could be pre menapausal, i have had a light bleed for 14 days now, this is not normal for me. I have had flushings for couple of years now, doc said to keep an eye on this for couple of months and go back and see her. Any advice ladies?

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lisachadenuff said on 03 December 2013

hi ladies,
havin read through most comments on ere here i just had to write my own.im 41 yrs of age and at the age of 38 i had cervical cancer which i ended up havin to have radiotherapy and chemo which put me into early menopause. i dont have periods but some times i get the feeling of it the bloating tum n so on,my symptons of the menopause b must be everything possible from hot flushes and cold flushes headaches not bad but slight, light headness, insomnia,constantly tired, no ethusiams at all,feel worthless,moody, heart palputations, warm skin to aches in my arms which makes me think im havin a heart attack. always gettin morbid thoughts like im dying, its awlful. now starting to suffer with anxiety.i recently found out i have high cholestral of 5.9 and thyroids r high too so that makes me even more worried. i tried to do this naturally as i cannot take hrt due to family history of cancer including my own. a friend of mine recommended a herbal remedy sage ive taking these for a week now and i must say my symptons have calmed down some.i dont feel depressed just fed up with feeling ill all the time. i wouldnt wish this on my worst enemy....

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Chelsea69 said on 02 December 2013

Thank goodness I found this listing!! I have been feeling so emotional over the past 3 - 4 months and have been blaming it all on my back problems, insomnia and increasing weight gain!!
Now I am truly thinking that this may be the answer - thank you ladies for reminding me that I am NOT a wreck, just approaching 50 and going through the same as the rest of you! Lets hope it doesnt last too long

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Nikki1970 said on 01 December 2013

Thank god I'm not alone! I'm 43 and like the other ladies I can cope with the night sweats day to, but I can't cope with what I thought was thrush but it turned out to be a PH in- balance which is just a nightmare ( the smell of fish and the itching is just awful) . I now use a product which is a suppository and instant relief. But I found I use it most days now which is working out to be expensive £10 a week but so worth it. I have started running to help with the moods because that's what they advise don't they, exercise! I don't know if that's working still crying at anything, moody and short with folk which is not good in my job I work in a shop:( any advise please would be welcome.

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Tiggsnic said on 28 November 2013

Help! I am 35 and have every symptom but all I ever get is I am too young to be having it! Just had tests today for cancer but already been told I am clear (this I knew). Can anyone recommend anything for the really bad mood swings as I just get sooo angry and then cry because I felt that way!!! The hot flushes I can live with but it's the moods. Can anyone help?

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C0ttlest0ne said on 26 November 2013

What an invaluable site for us all! I am 41 and had a hysterectomy 10 years ago following the birth of my 2nd child. In the summer I had serious vertigo and headaches. I wake up soaked to the skin. I'm anxious to the point being convinced something terrible is going to happen. I have morbid thoughts. Headaches last forever. My doc has been great and explained that whilst blood tests show my hormones are normal, they take more interest in the symptoms as hormones levels can fluctuate by the hour! Have just had breast cysts removed which is apparently another symptom. Since the summer I have tried to self manage, have lost weight and tried to get fit but to be honest I'm so tired a lot of the time that it's a huge effort. I cannot tell you what a help sites like this are, to help us realise that we're not alone and not going mad!

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Tracyannie said on 26 November 2013

I have started hot flushes and night sweats. Every 4 weeks I get swollen glands in neck and awful headaches, could this be due to menopause. Blood tests show no virus infections. This happens like clock work every month.

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Bo0803 said on 25 November 2013

I am 40 years old and have had a whole range of symptoms starting 2 years ago with chronic headaches (at same time my period stopped for 18 weeks), then came the heart palpitations. Had CT scan and this was all normal. Had a few ridiculous blood results and thankfully now I have been told I am in peri menopause (regular high FSH levels). last 6 months have been hell, regular upset stomachs, weight loss, period stopped for 14 weeks, headaches, anxiety (especially a night), most recently migrane (first one in 26 years). recently had excruciating stomach pain and after A and E visit and subsequent out of hours visit, was told this was pelvic infection, after antibiotics felt great for 3 weeks, no upset stomachs, more energy, no pain!!! a few days into antibiotics had a horrible brown discharge/blood for a few days. I have since had pelvic scan which suggested I have a lot of fluid still and that I may have indeed had a cyst but now gone. Pain started again, now had 3 periods in as many weeks, awful cramp. I am still attending gastro and been offered a colonoscopy in 6 weeks if my weight not improved. Now my blood sugar was high and to get thyroid and diabetes check and referred to Gynaecology!!! so fed up, my family, friends and GP has been great not dismissing my symptoms. just want this all to go away so I can get my life back.

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wilby66 said on 24 November 2013

OMG, I thought I was going mad until I read everyones comments. I'm 47 and started going through the menopause nearly 3 years ago although I didn't realise it at the time. Anyway, had my last period in august 2012 and have felt like I've had pmt for 14 months. Apart from the hot flushes, my whole body ached, especially the joints, crying at the drop of a hat, snappy, back ache, mood swings etc. In all honesty I have become indifferent to everything, I do not have any emotions apart from being emotional about not having any. A couple of months ago I went to the doctor as the back ache had become pain and I felt bloated, had USS and MRI, said I had cyst adjacent to ovary, nothing suspicious but they said this could not be the reason for all the pain I was experiencing. Still felt like I was going mad and couldn't get any ease at all. Then a few weeks ago I had a brown discharge followed by a light bleed for a few days. Following this, I felt marvellous for a couple of weeks, like a new woman. I guessed the cyst had burst. Anyway, its all started up again and I feel much the same, GP sending me for another USS as concerned about the bleed. I know its the cyst returning and on top of all my other symptoms I again feel like hell. I don't think my colleagues understand either, its so difficult. Anyone else feel the same?

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maggi12 said on 23 November 2013

You are right - I felt so much better after sitting my husband down and getting him to read all these comments - as if I had a weight lifted off my shoulders- because when I tried to explain how I felt to him it just sounded stupid! Made him feel better also as like the last lady said he knows it is 'normal'!!!!

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chlo5540 said on 22 November 2013

This is soo refreshing ladies keep your comments coming!! I couldn't understand what was happening to me and as others have said thought I was going mad! I am 51 and have had irregular periods now for some 18 months (having peviously been like clockwork). I have experienced the night /day sweats, sleep disturbance and anxiety (particularly at night) but more disturbingly slight depression. I have always been a cup half full person.and quite honestly have nothing to be depressed about. I have a lovely family , home and job and just can't understand this indifference and lack of motivation about everything, not to mention lack of libido! Finding this website has made me feel soo much better knowing that there are others who understand and feel the same. I am sure my family will also feel reasurred that these symptoms will hopefully pass with time.

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maggi12 said on 16 November 2013

I also am sooo pleased I found this and have passed it on to friends - I too thought was going mad! Can put up with the sweats and flushes but mood swings and anxiety are awful - just deciding where to park at the supermarket is a major decision! I cry often for apparently no reason at all and like the other lady said about accusing her husband - I have times where I think my wonderful hubbie doesnt love me any more. Cant believe I read about the lady with the jaw - I find myself more and more clenching my jaws together to the extent that Im worried my crown is going to fall out! Keep commenting ladies it is making us all feel a bit better!

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susanheer1 said on 15 November 2013

can you help please. i am currently on menopause medication, have been for over a year, and its working brilliantly for me. but this past week my breast have been a little swollen, and a slight discharge on my right breast, and very painful. liken the pain to when breast milk is drying up. Is this part of the menopause?

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elliepop said on 13 November 2013

So glad to have found this site, My symptoms are:
hot flushes ,loss of libido, vaginal dryness and pain during sex, itching, changes in heart rate, headaches (pains in head) mood changes, tiredness, sleeping less, toilet frequently, swollen stomach, weird floaty feeling, eating pattern changed to regular eating every two hours, the need to eat more carbohydrates (not diabetic), weird tightness of jaw, weight gain, I think that's it! I have not been to the Dr's as I have been too scared so I am happy I have found this site. Good to read everyone is going through the same on here.

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Harr1972 said on 13 November 2013

I am 41 and also going through premature menopause. A few years ago I started experiencing very heavy periods that over time got progressively worse. During an 18th month period I had ablation twice and dilation in Feb this year. Whilst the pain has subsided a little each month my periods are still heavy and in the past 4 months I have experienced severe headaches, palpitations and night sweats. Mood swings are horrendous and loss of memory is an awful feeling . The symptoms at times are quite debilitating and so much so I have had the last 5 weeks off work. It has shattered my confidence and that is the biggest challenge I have had to overcome. Sometimes a simple trip to the supermarket is a nightmare . I am soon starting HRT however in the meantime I have been taking Black Cohosh which is a herbal remedy and whilst the symptoms have not gone I can definitely notice the difference and if I haven't taken my tablet by 10am I can feel the anxiety and sweats building. I have also had acupuncture for the pains in my joints which has also helped although is very expensive. Reading the other comments it's clear to see that others are also experiencing great discomfort. More needs to be done to raise awareness so women can spot the signs early on.

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wendflem said on 07 November 2013

OMG ! I am so so glad i have found this site and what a relief that i am going mental ! Im 44 and went to GP last year with heavy irregular periods guessing it was the early signs of MP as my mum started to go through it at same age and he basically told me that it probably was and that was that i was sent away with my tail between my legs ... i now feel much worse but didnt put all my symptoms together until i found this site - ive still got the same irregular periods, wolly head, aching neck, headaches, my sex drive has always been quite low but its almost nothing now and mood swings oh my god my poor husband and children dont know who they are going to wake up with i am usually such a bubbly outgoing person but she has gone and this devil woman has replaced her.
I am going back to GP today and getting something done because i cant stand these feelings and thoughts i am having its just not me.
Thanks to all your comments though i dont feel so alone going through this and actually feel quite 'normal'

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Dorajoy said on 28 October 2013

I have recently read Leslie Kenton's Passage to Power- it is a godsend (given to me in a pile o f someone's book discards). It had so much information re hormones, natural health and the thinking changes that accompany peri/menopause. I now intend to use plants, herbs and natural extracts so much more; and will definitely never consider HRT- though I didn't previously.
It helped me to understand why I am doing the things I am doing at this stage of my life (52yo)- it feels like I am having a second kind of adolescence- a brain rewiring- and validates my "gap year" - working on an Island away from my family (grown kids and husband still at home). It is almost a necessity, and the author of this book has a lot of insight about this. Wish I could find another book in this league. Can anyone recommend a good book about the experience of menopause that doesn't only focus on the physical side and is natural and holistic?

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Maxibear66 said on 28 October 2013

Hi All
So glad it came on here! I thoughti was going mad!been going drs for about 10monrhs now had heart monitor on. Scans, anti depressants, you name it! Only toread this and see I'm not alone! Well last aug 2012 I missed a period which isn't like me as I'm regular as clockwork! Even took pregnancy test! Negative of course! Had the coil fitted too, my symptoms are....
Palpitations
Aching muscles
Headaches
Brownish discharge 6 days before period
Heavy bleeding for3 days
Anxious, tearful, depressed
Bloated stomach? Which I put down to weight gain but not put on any weight? 1 or 2 lb varies?
Itchiness
Broken sleep
Hot in night no sweats though?
Knees ache
Extreme. Tiredness
Bad thoughts that I at deaths door!

I honestly thought I have a serious illness! Till I read this I'm going back to des for yet another blood test for diabetes now! But will sati want another for menopause! I am 47, so could this be menopause? I cannot take hormones as I suffered a stroke 3 yrs ago.
I'm hoping the dr will test me as I honestly want to feel better than I have for passed 10 months, it's driving me mad! I want the old me back:( , thanks again for shedding light on the subject
Onwards and upwards! I hope

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Shirley10cats said on 28 October 2013

Hi, I am 48 and think I'm going through mp. The doctor thinks not as I am too young and don't have hot flushes. However my periods are so irregular it's unbelievable. I am on anti depressants for anxiety have put on weight and now am suffering fro horrendous jaw clenching. The dentist can't find anything wrong and I have read it could be a sign of menopause has anyone else suffered clenching teeth? It's causing really bad toothache, headaches and acid influx from all the pain killers. I have seen an osteopath, got a gum shield but nothing is working. I'm clenching day and night. Just waiting for MRI results but not hopeful. Any ideas? Desperate

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User814135 said on 23 October 2013

It's so weird....I have pretty much all of these symptoms yet I'm only 17, is this even possible!!?? I am especially feeling the hot flushes and my period seems to have just disappeared! HELP

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Lemon queen said on 21 October 2013

Forgot to mention - forgetfulness, "soggy" brain and a roller coaster ride of emotions and mood swings. Probably the most difficult symptoms to deal with because they can be such a public display of what it's like to be a woman of a certain age. I need a bolt hole at work where I can sit and cry for a few minutes.

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Lemon queen said on 21 October 2013

It's always good to know your not alone. I'm having a pretty dreadful time at the moment. I feel sick most mornings (but I'm definitely not pregnant), itchy, achy, exhausted, can't concentrate at work or home, can't sleep properly, night sweats when I'm premenstrual, sore breasts, shooting pains, short tempered, irritable, bowel irregularities, the list is endless. I would say, however, that it's really important to discuss symptoms with your GP. My docs have been fantastic and have sent me for every scan and blood test going just to rule out everything else more sinister. Finally concluded after about 9 months that I am perimenopausal and am now on HRT. Some symptoms have improved slightly but will discuss increasing the dose of oestrogen next time I see the HRT specialist at my surgery. It is also important to be patient and give things time to work - something I'm not very good at! Another tip I've been given having had endless chest and ear infections this summer, is to keep yourself generally healthy. A good diet and exercise are essential as well as keeping up with friends. I always feel 100 times better after a good girly chat which more often than not leaves me counting my blessings. There are people out there who are seriously ill - the menopause can be horrid, but we just have to try and get through it.

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Meedles said on 20 October 2013

I am having a dreadful time too with all the symptoms others have mentioned, but just wondered whether anyone else has suffered from hair loss, change in texture - for me the worst affliction. Can only put it down to the menopause and an early hysterectomy/removal of ovaries. Started after birth of third child and I've seen so many different specialists who have diagnosed me with androgenetic alopecia. This has definitely contributed to the way I am today - a shadow of my former self. I've tried everything - you feel that no one really cares and you just end up thinking this is your lot until,you look around at other women your age and realise the way you are is not normal.
Is there anyway in this site that you can search for answers to your specific problem. I'd love to,hear anyone's thoughts on this. Thanks!

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Najnaj said on 13 October 2013

I am so pleased I've found this site. Reading through the comments I now know I'm not too young for the menopause, still I think it needs double checking because last time 18 months ago I thought I was starting turned out to be diabetes! Please therefore don't self diagnose like i did and get it checked. Diabetes and menopause have similar symptoms. My diabetes was 11.2 at diagnosis and now is 6.3 and under control. I have been back to doctors but the one I saw said I probably was in early menopause, didn't seem that interested, so I will see the other doctor soon. I'm 44 , still holding onto that number for another week! my last period was July 2013. They just suddenly stopped regular up until then and I've had a couple of migraines, bit dizzy and faint and just hot spells in last month or two. I would say mainly between 6pm and morning but some in the day too. Usually after I have just eaten. Not sure if menopause or not so best get it checked. If the menopause I hope this is as bad as it gets.

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Enough is enough said on 07 October 2013

Hi, I am 44 and think I may be starting the menopause. In addition to the usual 'personal summers' I am suffering from a shooting pains in my breasts (feels a little like mastitis) . I am also suffering from bloating and constipation, however a few days before my period (still fairly regular but very heavy and can be upto a week early) my bowels then decide to move about 3 times in 12 hours? Anybody else experienced this? Have recently changed doctors as mine just didn't want to know I am going to ask for a blood test on Wednesday but the bowel thing is really worrying me.

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welshdenise said on 06 October 2013

Hello all.. I'm 48 and I get very warm to hot most nights in bed. I don't get to sleep easily at night either.. When I'm feeling very warm or hot and sweaty, I have to kick the duvet back and get air or stick a leg out of the bed clothes, and I must have a window open most nights just to feel the cold air on my face. In the day time my back gets very hot and sweaty, my head gets hot and sometimes I get little drippers of sweat rolling down the back of my head or the side of my face. I've only just had a period that lasted about 5 days with more blood than usual, I usually only get spotting and period pains,not so much now because I am on the pill (cerazette), before I went on the pill my periods were very heavy, painful and lasted at least a week each time. Anyway four weeks before my last period I have had period pains every morning and it has really got me down, made me very irritable, moody, tearful.. I'm not really sure if all this means that I am going through menapausal symptoms because I'm only 48, but my body is really mixed up, I don't know whether I'm coming or going.. :(

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54robinson said on 05 October 2013

Thanks for all your info. I'm 54 and my doctor has refused to give me the mini pill anymore as apparantly I'm at the start of the MP. Since not taking it for the last month my body has been inundated with symptomswhich made me think I was ill.
Headaches
Moody(even started to 'accuse' my partner of cheating, is that normal?)
Aggressive and that's not me, it's worrying
Aches everywhere, even my fingers
Tired to the point of sleeping at dinner times
Eating excessivly particularly carbs
No interest in socialising(too tired)
I don't want to start messing about with allsorts of HRT treatments so any advice please give.

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sue1968 said on 01 October 2013

Hi everyone, just wanted to share my symptoms with you. Although a lot of women seem to have very heavy periods during perimenopause mine are really light more like spotting really, I can go like 10 weeks with no period then really light period for around 12 days, hardly any pain as well. The only other symptoms I have are insomnia & weeing more, I suppose it wont be long for the other symptoms to follow.

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Grannybee said on 23 September 2013

Hi ladies i'm 47 and not sure if these are the M problems i wonder how i could tell if they are or part of my on going illness (CNS Inflammation) that causes many symptoms the medications i'm on are meant to keep it under control but maybe there not now ...but started with nights soaking up soaking fact me and my husband have to sleep with pillows between us cos i wake soaking meaning he is also soaked due to my heat .. before even getting to sleep i have like a panic attack can't breath and i fight to get to sleep ..once sleeping i wake a few times like panic attacks are waking me its making me so tired then all day i'm so agitated its unreal as if i'm in panic attack all day sometimes worse than others, I have no periods due to having an hysterectomy at age 32 but they left my ovaries so how can i tell if it's the menopause and not a flare to my illness. life is hell at the moment i would like some advice. thankyou

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sandyf said on 22 September 2013

Hi all
Thank you for sharing your symptoms on here. I am so relieved to know that I'm not going mad. Have had anxiety and panic attacks for the last 3 weeks at work and they have really been getting me down. After reading all the symptoms you have all been having I now realise that I'm definitely going through the menopause. Ive been having the sleepless nights and hot and cold sweats etc but didn't realise anxiety was also a symptom. I've looked at other websites and have ordered some of the Wellsprings Serenity cream as this seems to alleviate the majority, if not all of the symptoms according to the reviews. Fingers crossed it works for me.

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Sonraf said on 20 September 2013

Hi ladies, this has been really helpful. I attended my GP last year and blood tests were taken which showed I was premenopausal, I was given an anti depressant as I had previously taken them and they worked.
Lately things have became more heightened for me, I feel as if my body has been invaded, I don't feel the same at all. I am 44 but today feel 104.
I have the following symptoms:
I sleep all night with a fan on my face which definitely helps
My periods have stopped for a few months
I am putting on weight
Headaches
Moody, angry
Extremely sensitive, things that annoyed me before is like 10 times more
Very emotional
Decrease in wanting sex
The list could go on... I have an appointment next week with my GP as I definitely need some help. I am a single mum and have a stressful job. I will let you know how it goes xx

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molly4111 said on 19 September 2013

I am 45 and have had symptoms for over a year now:

My periods, which used to be clockwork, are either 'normal' or missed or extremely light.
I need to pee more often it's ridiculous!
I have trouble sleeping and wake early.
I have heart palpitations, sometimes quite violent ones.
My memory is getting poorer, although it was never very good!
My moods are up and down.
I regularly feel restless and unable to fully relax.

I haven't had a test yet but think the evidence is such that I need to. Any ideas ladies? Does this sound like the dreaded 'M'??

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SL69 said on 18 September 2013

So glad I found this! I'm 44 and have had heavy periods since I started them when I was nearly 17. I was given the pill to help, but it didn't really do much to be honest. Then after having a miscarriage, they found I had endrementriosis... I wasn't given anything as I fell pregnant not long after. 3yrs later, another miscarriage and then another baby. In between I've suffered with PND and severe PMS..was given fluxotine. The way I feel just now runs my family's life at times and was hoping to go through an early menopause. I went to docs about 4 months ago and was told my hormones could be fluctuating and why don't I consider a hysterectomy to help with PMS and periods...I've got two young children, not a lot of people to help with them so this was not an option. I came off antidepressants 3 months ago as my weight was spiraling upwards and this was making me feel even worse.Recently I've been suffering with anxiety, anger, palpitations, foggy head, no concentration, aches in my knees, loss of memory. I've also got reflux for the first time in my life ( didn't have it even when I was pregnant). I'm not a cryer.. I get more irritable/angry and this is just getting out of hand. Periods.. I had two last month each lasting 8days.. before this- they were every 3wks.. I'm so tired and feeling so low just now and feel that I just need help with this as it's completely running my life. I've got an app with a locum doc today... and I'm dreading going. xx

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spikeybetty said on 15 September 2013

Hi ladies,

Thank you ladies, It is so helpful reading the comments.
I am 56 and many of the symptoms you have covered I have been through over the last 10 years. Including heavy bleeding and flooding and clotting with 3 changes of the Milena coil which did help reduce the symptoms. The second fitting only lasted 10 months, The team at the hospital said that our bodies can absorb the hormones more quickly if it needs it. So I felt great for the second half of the 10 months and then the symptoms returned. I was given HRT during my mid 4o's but this isn't suitable now as I have a mass of thyroids and my GP has said HRT can increase this mass. I was told I was post menopausal about 4 years ago, but I still feel in the thick of it with hot flushes during the day and up to 6 per night. Sometimes leg cramps wake me up and generally I wake up early can't get back to sleep and feel exhausted. During the day my energy returns and I get on, but confusion, woolly head, irritability and poor memory hamper my days. I struggle with feelings of not being able to cope. I know some days I really don't cope well at all - others are better. I notice the difference and look at my diet and internal and external emotions and influences to see why the difference. Sometimes it appears simply that hormones alter the way we feel and bring on the symptoms. I would like to know how much longer these symptoms will continue.
I have cut back on tea and coffee - switched to fruit teas, but struggle with chocolate cravings, switched to nature plain chocolate. Sprinkle flack seed on my porridge. Take 50 plus multi-vit and vit.c with zinc. Eat more lentil, beans veg, fruit etc. Don't really know what else to do.

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nix42 said on 13 September 2013

to nixnaxnoo
i couldnt have put it better myself ,ur defnatly not alone
and which you luck with ur tests.im being tested for peri menopause ,thyriod as apparently thay are very similiar symptons .monday cant come quick enough for me and hopefully get the results by the end of the week ....if your anxiety is bad try kalms for daytime and nytol just before you sleep ,herbal tablets so thay are safe ,its working for me as my anxiety was so bad i couldnt do anything around the house or go out and now im on them i can do all that but still taking it easy .good luck

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Kagster47 said on 09 September 2013

Have had persistent Itchy lumps on my upper arms for months so decided to look up out of curiosity. So pleased its just another menopause symptom! Along with dark patches on my neck and forearms.
I too have many of the other symptoms but have discovered that fresh sage steeped in boiling water with a small amount of honey just before bed reduces the night sweats dramatically. Be warned though not to drink for prolonged periods. I'm doing 4 nights out of 7 and can manage a few drinks on the other nights but the reflux/indigestion does get worse if I drink alcohol so best kept to a minimum too!
Good luck ladies! If I discover any other natural tips I will post them.

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Nixnaxnoo said on 09 September 2013

Im so glad i found all this information, I'm 41 and i think I'm going mad! Or starting my menopause, for the last 6 months i have been all over the place, i suffer with anxiety/agoraphobia anyway have done for 19 years, but the last 6 months have been hell, i get hot to the point i feel like I'm going to combust, i then panic because I'm too hot, i can hardly eat a child size portion of dinner as i feel way to bloated and have terrible heartburn after everything i eat or drink, I'm so tired i cant even think straight, i don't sleep well, I'm either way to hot(sleep with my fan on every night) or my dreams are bad and I'm uncomfortable, achy legs irritable, during the day my mood goes from happy content to either so angry i could scream, moody and irritable to wanting to cry I'm so emotional but then i panic with everything, if i move I'm out of breath, My heartbeat is fast an uncontrollable which also makes me panic more, i have a fuzzy head sometimes where i feel confused, i feel sick after food, and itch.......oh my i could scratch myself silly...my periods have always been irregular going 4-5 weeks at a time before periods, now they are every 3 weeks and so painful, one month heavy another light and excruciating pain, in all i feel like i need shooting! But reading all your comments kind of confirms what i might be going through, i have an appointment with my doctor in a weeks time so hopefully he can also confirm it with me and give me something to help, I'm so lucky to have found this page and it is also good to know I'm not alone and a lot of us seem to be suffering the same!

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nix42 said on 04 September 2013

i forgot to mention mouth ulcers ,absuses in my gums,infections in my right boob 6 times since xmas which is when it all started xx

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nix42 said on 04 September 2013

iv been very poorly lately and came across this site and reading all these comments has made me feel im not alone and have insisted at the doctors to be tested ..im 43 and my symptoms are
anxiety
weight lose
feeling sick after eating
very bad headaches
hot and cold sweats
pains in my hands and elbows
broken sleep at night
just exausted in the day time
my periods are just a tiny bit and mostly brown
im never felt so bad ,it seems i have it full on .just waiting for the bloods to be done to know for sure ....xx

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amc282 said on 27 August 2013

I have been having the same symptoms as igglepiggle2 said on 08 August 2013. Major joint pain. Sometimes debilitating. Nausea, feelings of confusion and sadness. Overwhelming feelings of fear, metal taste in mouth, dizziness. Iam still having a period and the symptoms seem to increase during the week of ovulation approximately a week and a bit before my period. I have also been struggling with acid reflux. The joint pain has been coming on for a few years but the reflux came on literally overnight.and it is awful. Good luck everyone try to stay positive.

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17m said on 26 August 2013

Has anyone else experienced fainting episodes as a menopause symptom? I have fainted several times in the last few days and thought it was all part of migraine which I have had for several years. GP suggested it might be peri menopause but not done any checks for that yet. Had blood pressure & other blood tests checked after first faint and all OK. I am 48 and don't really have menopause symptoms other than tiredness, depression and irritability but I put these down to the fact that the migraine has taken over so much of my life and I can no longer work or have a social life or plan anything..

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sofa2 said on 18 August 2013

Found this site whilst looking through the internet for some info and reassurance about the menopause, as over the past week I have had a couple of episodes of night sweats (where I wake absolutely drenched in sweat), and bloating & wind pain. I have also had really heavy periods for the past year or so and I had wondered if I was beginning to experience the first signs of the menopause as I am 46, but needed a bit of reassurance that this was the possible cause of my symptoms before popping off to see the GP. I was relieved to see that piano14 had also experienced bloating and wind pain in the week before the expected period - I had begun to think I was suffering from IBS or something. Oh well, I suppose its just one of those things that we must endure - and look forward to life being more settled when its all over & done with!

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Carlie87 said on 12 August 2013

Hi I'm 26 year old & am starting to think I may have premature menopause,reading the information above & the symptoms I have most of them,my periods are extremely heavy & very painful,I don't sleep at night,I have very little to no energy on a daily basis,I was tested for thyroid as it runs in my family but it came back negative,I was also tested for anaemia because of my periods but that was also negative! I have terrible headaches at least once a week that can last up to 2-3 days sometimes & I have to be sick for it to ease off! During the night I have to have a fan on me all night long even in the winter months as I get so hot & recently I've noticed I become very hot & sweaty all of a sudden during the day even if it's not very hot & I haven't done a lot! I have no interest in sleeping with my boyfriend lately not like I used to,it's worrying me now could this be what I have? Please help?

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piano14 said on 08 August 2013

Lots of helpful comments here, thank you. At 49 I have many of the symptoms mentioned, but the one that gets me down the most, apart from extreme bloating, doesn't seem to have been mentioned by anyone else, so maybe it's just me. It may sound strange, but in the week, or maybe longer these days, leading up to a period I am often in agony with wind. It usually feels either like a bar across my waist or like a football in the middle of my abdomen. My doctor has confirmed it is 'just wind' and I have tried all the recommendations about avoiding certain foods etc. but nothing has helped. The only way I can get any relief from the pain is either to bend double or to lie flat on my front with a hot water bottle under my tummy - not helpful when you need to do a day's work. If anyone has experienced similar or found any solutions it would be really helpful to know. Thanks.

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igglepiggle2 said on 08 August 2013

I am 39. My mum was peri at my age and on HRT by 43.
My symptoms are;
•Major joint pain, mainly in hips, knees & wrists.
•Palpitations.
•Dizzy spells
•Dropping/throwing things accidentally.
•Major lack of libido (for yrs now)
•2 UTI/Kidney infections in 7 months (NEVER had them before).
•Weak bladder (prev had really strong pelvic floor). If I run on the beach & giggle I get a tiny amount of leakage & I need to 'go' more often/during night which isn't usual.
•Terrible memory, fuzzy & forgetful.

I am on the coil & I don't get periods so unsure if they're erratic & I've always had migraines, I usually now only get migraines 'once a month'
I have gained weight around my middle and my skin gets itchy that I think something is crawling on it but there's nothing there.

My Dr reckons I'm too young & has poo pooed the idea. I've been referred in the past to a physio for joints and had 24hr tape (ECG) for palpitations which was negative. The dizzy spells were dismissed. Now I just figure that I'm going to self help myself.

I just want to mention that some people have been given 'anti depressants' but want HRT..they do use some anti depressants as a form of HRT to help with the hot flashes, which I don't get.
So.. With the above symptoms am I going mad or would you all agree that it sounds like I've started early???!

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Jan9969 said on 06 August 2013

I'm 43 and believe I've been going through the menopause for 2+ years, I have pretty much most of the symptoms, hurrendous heavy periods lasting 4 weeks or more or nothing at all, night sweats, mood swings, insomnia, heart palpitations, bad hair and skin, memory all over the place to name but a few. I've recently had scans which showed nothing but my blood tests keep coming back negative.......I'm so frustrated as my doctors insist I'm not going through the menopause, both my sister and mum went through it around 40. Any ideas where I can go for help or supplements that may assist, I feel like I'm going mad !!!

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Steph2811 said on 03 August 2013

I had a 20cm ovarian cyst removed December 2012, my right ovary and tube were also removed. Since having this op my body has been so different & I have been told I am peri menopausal. I have such erratic periods, some 56 days apart and others 9 days, they always last 7days whenever they arrive and are pretty heavy!! I find myself very tearful at times and OMG how tired do I always feel!! I thought there was something wrong with me until I read the comments above as I too get halfway through a sentence and then forget what I am saying! I've also started to have sweats but thankfully they don't seem to last too long. My sex drive is non existent because i'm never in 'the mood'.. thankfully I have a very understanding partner. I put this down to vaginal dryness (another wonderful symptom) and is so bad I alone could keep KY in business!!! I look forward to actually getting through the other side of menopause so hopefully things will go back to how they used to be :) Just keep telling myself its not forever...

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McFluff said on 31 July 2013

I am 42, and have not has a period for 6-7 months. Only problems are that I am exhausted all the time, get occasional joint pains, and get very easily irritated by things that are trivial and wouldn't have bothered me before. Noticed my exhaustion and irritability before I knew I was menopausal, but figured that I probably was anyway. Blood tests by GP confirmed this - and he...yes, HE....couldn't have been more helpful.
I'll be happy if I can sail through it with being just knackered, achy and a bit crabby.

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winner 71 said on 17 July 2013

I'm 42, and I'm pretty sure I'll have no idea when the peri-menopause starts with me.

I have bipolar 2 so mood swings? My usual self.
I have acne rosacia so I've had hot flushes since I was 20.
I get migraines.
My tablets make me incredibly absent-minded and killed my libido.
I've always been an apple shape. I've been getting congratulated on non-existant pregnancies since I was 19, inspite of a BMI of 23-26.
I'm a lifelong insomniac.

My hope is actually that after menopause I'll feel better than I ever have. At the moment I'm like clockwork, but some months its light and some it is heavy.

So I've decided to just think about other things and not worry until I stop having periods. I've asked my GP if he'll do a blood test to see where I am with things but he said I'm too young.

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calinselene said on 08 July 2013

Oh, and forgetful confusion...did I mention forgetful confusion? I don't recall...

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calinselene said on 08 July 2013

Hi, thank you all for writing - it has helped me so much! I'll be 38 in August. Had a cystic ovary removed and the other one is 'clamped'. Shortly after the operation i was certain I was going through early menopause - hot flushes, moods, crazy periods etc. I panicked and started taking Evening Primrose Oil and that helped normalize things. It's now 3 years later and I think I am now finally going through the process. I didn't even realize all the symptoms I've been having could have anything to do with it till I read this site! I kept thinking I've got the flu or my IJD was just acting up! (To be fair, that could be part of it...)
These are my symptoms:

1) Very tired all the time, need naps in the afternoon
2) No desire for sex
3) Struggling to sleep - too hot, and fidgety. Haven't slept under covers for months!
4) Irregular periods - long drawn out spotting and browny blood, or sometimes madly heavy. Missed a few too.
5) Occasional urinary tract infections.
6) Dizzyness and vertigo
7) Severe lack of patience and snappishness, tearyness
8) Itchy, irritated vagina
9) Always had very fair hair on my legs and underarms - hardly ever had to shave. Now I look like a Yeti!
10) Sore, stiff joints (however, as I said - that might be the IJD. Maybe they set each other off? Who knows....)

Have been to the docs for tests and all came back 'normal'. Haven't been for hormone level tests yet though. Might go soon.

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jss28 said on 05 July 2013

hi, I'm 28 and this page has given me so much more help than my doctor. I had my cervix removed due to cancerous cells and my tubes tied. Despite having everything else still in tact (sort of) i have began my menopause (post maybe) until this i didn't even know there were stages. the only information i had from my doctor was it was expected and like my treatments i can take it step by step. i had the horrid taste in my mouth for months and had no idea it was a symptom i kept going dentist sure i had gum disease or something. its quite scary i can't even talk to my mum because she's not even started hers yet. and until a year ago i was the active mum doing sports day etc playing football etc, now my kids don't understand why mummy is always tired and going from telling them something to shouting it at them, from happy bubbly patient mum to psychopathic head case. my partner is understanding probably to scare to not be actually but i feel so rubbish so often our relationship has been effected. i have gone from size 8/10 to size 14/16 and can't sleep a whole night in the same bed because i get to hot and sweaty.

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blairso68 said on 28 June 2013

hi all, i'm 44 and going through the pause as I call it, last November I started getting the sweats during the day and night sweats in bed,i could wring myself out with the amount of water that comes of my face and body. i have not had a period since last October but they were irregular long before that. when I was 40 I was told that I had stage 4 endometriosis so I was kinda glad when they stopped, or so I though better the devil you know and all that.lol I have been taking black cohosh for the sweats and also to boost my mood and my now not so dry vagina,lol my partner has been great hes said that he loves my new sweaty body,but hes not to happy when I throw the quilt off the bed or turn off the heating in the winter,lol well ladies we all have to keep are peckers up cos we are a strong breed. men could not cope with any of this ,

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Leeena said on 27 June 2013

I will be 49 in October and am certain I have been in perimenopause for about 2 years - despite my GP saying I am 'too young'. I am a shadow of my former self and feel absolutely ghastly all the time. Here are just some of my symptoms:-
1. One very heavy, clotty period, which lasted for ages and had to be stopped with Norethisterone. SInce then -a 3-day heavy period every 3 weeks, with yukky light brown discharge most days between.
2. Terrible anxiety and increasing tearfulness.
3. Constant fatigue and fuzzy-headedness.
4. 'Memory block' - I can be half way through a sentence and my mind goes blank.
5. Sleep problems: Weird dreaming all through the night. Racing heart waking me through the night.
6. Bad Palpitations - 'Missing' or 'Extra' beats and episodes of fast heart rate.
7. Sore, Red Gums.
8. A buzzing, vibrating sensation down my left leg.
9. Migraine and Vertigo.
10. Panic Attacks
Surprisingly enough I have had no hot flushes!!
Over the past year I have seen a neurologist for my migraine - and a cardiologist for my palpitations. Neither attribute my symptoms to menopause .... but I am convinced they are linked. I feel awful and pray for my periods to stop in the hope I will get some relief.

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Voni12 said on 07 June 2013

Voni12 Hi, I am post-menopausel since the age of 52 and am now 58. At the age of 31 I had a hysterectomy but ovaries were left intact. Now for the past year or so I've been feeling very anxious, moody, shakiness, hot flashes and night sweats and insomnia. I thought I was dying this morning and my husband and girls can't understand what's wrong with me, neither can I!! Also depressed and cry for the slightest thing. When I came on this very interesting site and read different stories of other women, I changed my mind immediately and thought 'Ah, I wonder if this is not related to the menopause...which I think is!! I was on HRT before but stopped about 2 years ago. Has anybody had a similar 'story' to mine?? Please, I would like to know as I'm desperate to hear from you that I'm not going crazy. Thank you! I also have zero energy!

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Eden65 said on 02 June 2013

Eden65
I'm nearly 48, just in first stages - irregular periods, some slight hot flushes over the last couple of months, weight seems harder to shift than it used to be. No major moods swings yet (my husband and sons should be relieved :) It makes me so mad to hear of some women saying their GP's aren't taking them or their symptoms seriously. Girls, kick them to the curb and find a GP that is sympathetic to you and your concerns. We are not second class citizens to be waved away like little children! We are STRONG, AMAZING women who know our own mind and our own bodies - who better than us to know if things are not right with us? If you're not satisfied with the response or attitude of one GP, don't waste your time with them, find another - and another, if need be!!! We simply need reassurance that all is normal, not patted on the head and told we're depressed, too young, too old or too ignorant to be in menopause.

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JJ500 said on 27 May 2013

I became perry menopausal at 46. I was very surprised but later discovered that in rural China the average age for the menopause is 46, this is due to the fact they are by their circumstances, vegan, i,e, no animal products in their diet. They also suffer far, far less than us from all the major western diseases such as cancer, diabetes, heart disease etc. I was vegan for two years prior to being PM so I assumed this was why. I follow a very healthy and conscientious version of vegan diet - ensuring I get enough of all the nutrients I need. I also exercise at least 4 times a week and I tend to drink alcohol moderately. As a result my symptoms are very minor. I experience most of the symptoms described here but only very gentle versions of them. I have since discovered that being vegan is directly connected to a moderate perry menopausal experience. The only thing that got worse recently was aches in my joints but consequent blood tests showed I was very low in Vitamin D (I live in the UK and the past 6 months have been very dull and wintry). I am now taking Vit D supplements. Anyone who suffers aches should get tested for this. It's very common and often undiagnosed according to my doctor. Apart from that I feel great! Really. I can't recommend a vegan diet enough in relation to this. I also love food so you don't have to suffer - just get some good cook books and learn new recipes.

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Boating girl said on 21 May 2013

I'm so pleased I've found this site, I thought I was going mad and starting to blame my poor husband for just about everything! I'm 53 and think that my symptoms started about 12 months ago. My periods became irregular (always having been like clockwork) and are now patchy, sometimes lasting just a day, sometimes for about 10 days. I don't really suffer the hot flushes too much, just enough to be irritating at times, but my mood-swings, boy, this is something else! I'm getting grumpy at stupid things, picking holes in everything my other half does or says. I also get quite depressed, bored easily, disinterested in things that used to keep my attention and feeling pretty sorry for myself, when there's nothing to feel sorry for. I also find myself dissolving into tears at the drop of a hat. I drink very little, exercise (walking 2 - 5 miles a day) and eat pretty sensibly. I asked my doctor if he could tell me if I was going through the menopause. He told me that if I was having really serious symptoms, they could probably help, obviously mine weren't serious! It's great to know I'm not alone and that I'm not going mad. I'm going to research this more and go back to my doctor to see if there's something that will turn me back into the level-headed, cheerful, interested creature I once was. Thanks ladies for being so frank, it's really helped.

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carolesname said on 11 May 2013

In response to WRM said on 11 July 2012.
I am 51 and started getting flushes on and off at 50 they are exactly as you described. They happen with out a warning on and off but mostly the sweats are of a night.I have been suffering from insomnia for a while now as I also have anxiety and depression and other medical conditions too. I have found that drinking more water is helping and also avoiding yeast products these seem to make the flushes and joint problems worse. I have not had a period since 2008 when I had a OP to combat heavy bleeds and pain. I never really had any menopausal symptoms after the OP so I was lucky though I rather wish I did then as would be over the menopause by now..
Its good to know that this site is available to the many ladies who are going through this alone. I like to think there is a light at the end of this hormonal tunnel of femininity.

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JJayLeeds said on 27 April 2013

I found High Phyto Soya to be good for hot flashes. I checked on medical databases and the Daidzein in it is the key element. It doesnt completely stop the flashes but has made massive difference (and is much more effective than ordinary soya supplements that I had tried). Also I have Ayurvedic herb called Shatavari which def helps.

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Fireball666 said on 22 April 2013

I have extremly sore breasts, last month had a period for the full month have been having hot flushes but not sweats, for several months, but due to having naturally very heavy periods have been offererd the choice of mirena or hysterectomy, i chose mirena but if am going through the change may well opt for the hysterectomy, anybody any helpful info on if i am going through change and about hysterectomy best option as i heard they do keyhole to, thanx :)

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debruth said on 11 April 2013

Hi, I just turned 50 this year & was so relieved to come across this site & see other people's comments on the menopause. I started symptoms when I turned 40 & my doctor told me I had stress & anxiety which would have related to my work conditions at the time. Since then I suffered on & off with anxiety until approx 2 yrs ago when my periods also started playing up, brown yukky stuff, then no period for 6 weeks, then became erratic & then the heavy bleeding started, one episode lasting over a month. I went to the doctors they gave me norethisterone to stop it which worked - great relief. I was sent for a scan found small fibroid, referred to hospital, they suggested removal of lining of womb. My own decision not to have general anaethestic not to have it done. My symptoms continued with hot flashes as they call it, this affects me at night when my whole body can be cold and then within 10 mins become boiling hot. I'm not the same me as I was 5 years ago, I feel very down a lot of the time, tired, palpitations are worse more recently. I've started getting headaches on the right hand side of my head. I still bleed but I've had a myrena coil fitted about 8 months ago which has helped slightly and now I don't bleed anywhere near the extent I used to where I needed to sit on towels and change my clothes regulalry when bleeding. I still bleed approx every 28 days for up to 10 days at a time. I feel angry sometimes for no reason, I feel mega emotional sometimes. Things that concern me is losing part of the lovely personality I used to have, my lack of patience I used to have a great amount of patience & time for others and feeling angry. I moan more lol, my daughters & hubby probably get upset with me because of it at times. Unless you've been/going through this, it's very hard to appreciate/understand. I don't want to go on HRT but I feel that I will need something very soon so that I can cope better!

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foofers said on 07 April 2013

Hi I have hot flushers ( I don't have the sweats ) and my periods are very random, 1 week 3week 2days sometimes only having a 4-5day break between them. But the thing tat is bothering me most is itchy skin, for the last 3 months or so I have had certain times of the month where I am very itchy all over to the point where I cant sleep as I am scratching all night and then all day, I have taken allergy tabs but they only last for a few hours. Has anyone else had the itches?. Im 55 by the way.

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Amandadada said on 27 March 2013

Does anyone know any remedies for a bad taste in the mouth. I have had this for about 4 months now and have eliminated every other explanation. I am 44 and after reading these comments think that an explanation could be the menopause. I am 44

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Shaz33 said on 14 March 2013

Ok where do I start. Im 49 .symptons started about 8 years ago .went to my then GP,asked him if there was any chance I was going through menopause, thought being a nurse he might take me serious, but of course a male GP knew better told me to "catch myself on". Suffered on for a few more years and then decided to get myself a proper GP. Symptons by then was severe night sweats , at on stage thought I was allergic to the bedroom ie the minute I walked through bedroom door at night the sweat would roll off me. Sympton gradually got worse .no periods at all memory got worse couldn't remember what I was. Supposed to do .mood swings got bad crying ,didn't,t know what I was crying about .Husband just thought he had married a complete NUT. Constipation also became a problem ,didn't go to the toilet at times for maybe 10/15 days at time. Anyway went to this brilliant GP who said "let's do a blood test" 2 days later she rang me to tell me that while she was not into HRT that I would need to start same. Anyway I've been on HRT now 5years with close supervision. By my GP. Most of the symptons have improved greatly but the sweats are still a problem at night leading to insomnia. Hope this helps someone who thinks they are going mad .

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bogglekaz said on 07 March 2013

wow- well ladies, thanks! so glad im not alone! im 48, suffering for past 6 months with periods being erratic - now every fortnight, night sweats, aching joints, weight gain, erratic appetitie, bad teeth for the first time in my entire life (obviously calcium deficiency), tired all the time, depression, feel unable to cope, palpitations.............. been to GP who told me i was too young (!) for menopause but ive insisted on a blood test, so having it next week!! My poor other half has gone through hell, bless him

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Jules641 said on 21 February 2013

I am so pleased to have found this site makes me feel that I am not alone. I am nearly 49 have had hot flushes for about 18 months. For the last 5 years I have had a marina coil in situ this now needs changing, I don't know if it's a coincidence but now it needs changing I have had terrible vaginal dryness, loss of libido and feeling anxious all the time. I have just had a blood test to see if I am peri menopausal, my dr thinks I probably am. I am feeling really nervous that if I am which I think I am what my options are as I really hate feeling this way I have always been an out going person but now I am feeling like I can't be bothered. Would love to hear from other ladies feeling like this.

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LAR1 said on 14 February 2013

Shaz42, i dont no us women go through hell. Your symptoms seems to be as mine other than i also have fiberoids. Well at least your Doc says its menopause mine tells me im to young daft are what. Well i went for blodd test yesterday so waiting on results. I was speaking to a nurse the other day and she mentioned that she had problems with periods etc decided to have the big opp, said it was the best thing she did. Im now thincking on this one. Well hope all goes well at the docs let us know. Lar1x

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EAL said on 14 February 2013

I too am like the lady who is 36 and missed periods. We tried for a baby from the age of 30-33 unsuccessfully & I had raised FSH levels (9 & 11) but was ovulating. Then had laparoscopy which revealed mild endometriosis. Advised would likely only conceive with IVF but our local PCT stopped funding IVF around 5 years ago. We initiated adoption process during all of this & are fortunate enough to have two beautiful children. However, I was advised my a friend about a diet which can boost fertility but is expensive (have to buy very expensive vitamins each month for you & your partner) & takes a lot of effort. Thought I'd check my FSH & whether I'm ovulating first. FSH was 13 which is definitely peri-menopausal at very least. My day 22 blood test revealed I was not even ovulating (1.8 I think). I'm now on day 37 and no period yet. This is the first one I've missed (I think). Pretty gutted as at only 36 I'm at least 12 years younger than average age start & I still longed for having own birth child. Feel low & depressed most of time (although Ive suffered with depression in the past). Not really had much desire for sex for several years now & this doesn't help my relationship. Not really had hot flushes yet. I do get painful boobs from time to time & also have had some palpitations recently. Nearly always suffered with headaches but at the moment I do not really get them. I am anaemic at the moment. I have very low iron levels. i don't know if this could be a symptom. I'm a bit fearful of symptoms that are yet to come especially as I've just gone back to university to do a masters. I hope I'm lucky & don't really get that many. My mum didn't go through early menopause but did have a hysterectomy at age 40. My sister didn't have children but isn't very open as to reasons & hasn't mentioned problems to me but that's not unusual! Wish you all the best of luck & hope you get through it ok. Is there light at end of tunnel!

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shaz42 said on 13 February 2013

Hi glad this site is here.
Im 42, my periods were always regular, until Dec when i had my period for 23 days. Had severe pain, brown discharge, clots, heavy bleeding and even thrush too top it all off.
Now on my 13th day of my period, and same as last time. Was told in Dec that it was the menopause, and seeing the doc again tomorrow, hopefully will be given something too stop my periods lasting for so long.

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LAR1 said on 12 February 2013

Hi bunun49, im in the same place my freind and it not nice. Im 48 next and have thought for over a year i could be going through menopause however after visting my GP was told that I was to young, laugh how silly I no of people at the age of 34 going through. Anyhow last year amitted to hospital lost to much blood on my period had a blood tranfusion. Lots of scans test to find that I have large fiboroids. So my period loss is now taken care of with tramoxiacid tablets which do work, however I have now been on a period for 22 days. Been back to GP today and going for blood test tomorrow to check if i could be in menopause stage. I no how you feel many times I just sit and cry, it really gets to me . Im a very active person I train every day but this long period messes things up. I just want to no if i am cos you can deal with life a lot better . Please reply it would be good to keep chatting helps all get through this . From Lar1

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LAR1 said on 11 February 2013

Hi to all, what a site to come across. I was looking through to try and find peace of mind really. I have always suffered with my periods. Last year I was admitted to the hospital because of the amount of blood loss in my period. I had to have a blood transfusion which i was really scared about. I had lots of bloodd test, swobs, biopsy and scan, along with a internal scan to find that I have large fiboroids. So I have tramoxciacid tablets to control the period loss and was told that when i start to go through menopause the fiboroids would shrink, but I have been told and read that they dont however now I have been on my period for 22 days and counting also losing clots, what a to do. Im thinking i may be going through the change I carn,t say I have all the signs but I feel blown up ,short temper, ichy skin, and some days can just sit and cry. Its really getting to me know so Im back to the docs tomorrow see what can be done. If anyone can offer support I would appreciate this.

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Nettyspagetti said on 08 February 2013

I am waiting for blood results to see if I am perimenopausal but am feeling really tired all the time. The main thing with me is my breasts are sore. Got to have a mammogram next week because doctor felt three lumps but thinks it may be cysts. The pain is only worse before a period but I never had any problems with breasts before. Feel really down a lot of the time and my libido is zero. Is this normal.

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Denisekango said on 03 February 2013

I am 50 in a few months and had a hysterectomy 6 years ago they left behind 1 ovary
I have night sweats but my main problem is at night I wake up with my head spinning, it feels as if I am on a really fast roller coaster or being very drunk. Does anyone get symptons like this. I think I will see my GP

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angecwll said on 01 February 2013

What a relief also to find these people going through a similar situation.. I am 49 and have had episodes of Vertigo, giddiness, mood swings and I also have an underactive thyroid (although I've had thyroid problems for nearly 30 years). For the last 3 years my periods have been every 3 weeks or 3 and a bit weeks. But 3 years ago I missed a period, and then last year and now this year. Also they only last 3 days and then I have a flood!! Hence I am also on iron tablets as well. Sometimes I just generally feel groggy but I was fairly overweight. decided to join weight watchers, and I am now within half a stone of my ideal weight (under 10 stone - I am 5'2") and I must say I feel a lot better for it. I also have dry skin.... but I have also recently been prescribed a "preventer" inhaler for wheeziness but only in the last three months due to allergy but I don't know if anyone else has this problem or it could be just coincidence!!x

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Bloojules said on 26 January 2013

I'm 44. Had terrible night sweats on and off for months, plus awful joint and muscle pain, headaches, depression, anxiety, absolutely no libido whatsoever... Etc etc. Been to the doctor several times, had loads of blood tests, etc, but basically been told there's nothing wrong, some people 'just aren't very strong and can't cope very well'. On anti-depressants which have helped a little. Have looked lots of times at (pathetically small) information on menopause, but now finally found all you wonderful ladies telling me that I am not alone, not hopelessly weak and useless, not 'past it' or doomed to feel like this forever, but sharing these horrible few years with thousands and thousands of other slightly demented but perfectly nomal women! Thank god for the internet, and all you bravely outspoken girls. But really, ladies- if men all went through these kind of symptoms, would we not have world-wide forums and dedicated magazines and probably some sort of reliable medical treatment for it by now?!

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lovehats said on 22 January 2013

Im 48 and believe I started the menopause 5 years ago, but was told it was stress from my dad dying.. after being tested twice negatively the GP finally told me I was 'well into the menopause' less than a year ago.... i was having serious flushes through the day and night, very negative, suffering with depression and anxiety....I now have not had a period for 9 months, I am on HRT so the flushes have stopped, but still feel very negative and serious anxiety and mood swings, this is the worst part of it as far as Im concerned, but its great to know that you other ladies experience it too and its comforting to know Im not going mad!! Its exhausting trying to get through the day and remain upbeat....
Good luck to everyone...........

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Maharic said on 04 January 2013

I am 48 years old, 49 in a few weeks, my periods are very heavy for 3 days then its a brown discharge for 2 weeks maybe more, i have not been sleeping well, the sweats makes me feel as if i will internally combust, i open the window to cool down then im freezing within 2 minutes, so i cover myself back up only to find within 30 seconds the whole cycle of sweating starts again, its driving me looney. as for my mind and emotions well!!! im not sure who i am anymore, i just live in the moment and experience who my mind brings forward each day and flow with that personality, eg: Mrs Tearful, Grumpy, happy, Sad, can't cope, can cope, forgetfull, mushy head, and the list go's on. what really works and gets me back to my old self is Meditation!! Ladies you have to try it and keep it up, it really works. I teach it now too. It really helps with Mood swings, high blood presure, anxiety and Depression and loads more please try it and be persistant. take care and Heal yourselves xxx

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notgoinmad said on 30 December 2012

Hi i'm 48 next month, and have been struggling to cope for a few years. I thought it was depression. went to drs regarding my forthcoming marriage and the fact that i would be on my period, and broke down in tears. She prescribed mild anti depressants which have helped a little. I also have pain in my hips n have started having night sweats. I feel very woolly headed. Was made redundant last dec and managed to get a maternity cover job for 6 mnths. Found it so hard to concentrate n things just didnt make sense, wanted to do u turn n go home really had to force myself to go just want to stay at home. Job now finished relived but stressed as hubby lost his job n now has a very low paid 1 so cant pay bills. I also feel like a lot if you with this impending feeling of doom n gloom end of the world is nigh n kids are going to have an accident hubby goin to leave me etc but knowing that its the signs of menopause n not me being mental or going mad has helped. Cant stop eating!! Not sleeping too well due to anxiety n night sweats therefore tired emotional!! Vicious circle knowing not alone has really boosted me tho thanks ladies for letting others know the symptoms. Its ok to feel down just remember it wont last 4ever n we are stronger than we think and if we can live with men we can survive this lol.

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stablegirl12 said on 24 December 2012

I am almost 52 and have felt ill for the past 5 years, from heart rythmn problems which give me palpitations and then they speed up to 150 beats a min, sometimes i feel giddy, can burst into tears at the drop of a hat, my periods are bang on every 28 days, but heavy for at least 3-4 and last up to 7 days. I have gone off sex, have achy joints, and have now discovered a spot on the side of my tongue which I now am worrying is cancer, also feel like i have a little spot in my throat when I swallow so think that this might be something sinister too, started a course of hrt but they me feel awful so now just feel so down I cant wait for this to be over, please help

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nellienoonah said on 09 December 2012

Hi, I am sooo gladI have found this site. I really thought I was losing it til I read this!
I am 48 and had to have a hysterectomy at the age of 41 due to increasing heavy periods which in the end were lasting for 3 weeks out of each month:( - they kindly left my ovaries to spare me an early menopause and told me they would have a 'shelf life' of approx 2-5 years - how nice!
Last year I noticed that I would have some disturbed sleep and the odd hot spell and sometimes felt a little weepy, but did a lttle reading and have been taking 'black cohosh' tabs to help combat any menopause symptoms. Which I must admit have helped.
Earlier this year I had a minor stroke after knee surgery and although no long term damage remains - i have been left a little confused especially when tired. After having had a very stress ful few months with bereavement and family worries, I did believe that this was why I have been very emotional and worn out.
I am now not sleeping well at all, am very weepy for no apparent reason, have achey joints, am sooo tired and find concentrating hard, have low self esteem and as for my libido well it popped out to the shops and has not been seen for months!
After googling tiredness and weepiness into google and finding this sight I WAS SO RELIEVED to read that i'm not going mad at all- THANK YOU ladies!
I am going to see my gp this week and seek advise - wish me luck!!!

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sharamy said on 06 December 2012

Hi ladies, aged 45 my periods started to come closer together until I was having them every other week! My moods were terrible and I constantly had the munchies so I put on loads of weight. After a year of this I went to my G.P. who did a blood test which came back negative. However, he said this is quite common as hormones can be up and down all over the place during this time. He recommended I get in touch with the family planning clinic (I ask you!) and as it was miles away I couldn't be bothered (another symptom!). Finally I went back again (far more grumpier and fatter) and he did another blood test, again negative, but said he recommended going on the pill to regulate me. I asked to go on the depo jab and he agreed. Hey presto no periods! Also my moods levelled out and I was able to go on a diet. As I was sooo fat I opted for lighter life. As my weight came off I began to feel so much better - I felt I was returning to the old me. A side effect of this diet is no night sweats which was absolutely brill as I could then get a good nights sleep at long last. After 5/6 years the doc said I should come of f it and see what's going on, reluctantly I agreed and did and no periods! I did feel better on the jab and I reckon I look older now but I'm keeping the weight off, making an effort to get out and about etc and even tho I don't feel like it I make an effort in the bedroom (with lubricant) as I figure one of us should be happy there!). I have to say it results in a happier hubby who shows me lots of affection other times which really helps when you're going through this difficult time. So my experience? Gett the G.P. to listen, don't be fobbed off, drag yourself out (you'll feel better for it), give the old man a good time (who wants to live with a grump) and fight back cos lets face it life's too short and the next stop is o.a.p. home - don't know bout you but I'm def not going quietly!! So good luck ladies, onwards and upwards!!! xx

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69donna69 said on 18 November 2012

hi im new to this but ive not missed any periods but tend to be either every 3 or 4 weeks but just lately started spotting first thing in a morning then nothing mood swings and disturbed sleep patterns but always tired are these symptoms of menopause

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bunun49 said on 09 November 2012

I am 49. For the past 18 months have suffered from fibroids, heavy periods mood swings etc. Normally every 28 days. Now they are very irregular. some heavy, some very light. Last month normal period, 2 wks later 5 days very very light, Then spotting since then. Also have feelings of dread about death etc. Not pleasant so dont talk to anyone about it. Seeing doc next week and will ask for blood test for menopause. Isnt it great to be our age! We have to deal with all this plus teenagers looking for work, elderly parents recovering from cancer ops, coping with an special needs child, keeping the house oh and also going to work part time. Anybody else feel as fed up as me??
By the way would love feedback as this is the first time i have ever left a comment online!! thanks for listening.

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Mehitabel said on 09 November 2012

My biggest worry about menopause ... Is that I have had no symptoms at all! I'm 51 and haven't had a period for 18 months. But other than that.... Nothing. Am I the only one?
I'm certainly no health freak and I've done nothing deliberately to avoid the usual menopause symptoms..

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imisslieins said on 04 November 2012

So glad I came on here and relieved to see some of my mad symptoms mentioned! I'm 36 & haven't had a period since May this year. Only missed a few periods on 2 occasions prior to this so quite stunned to realise now that 5 months on at this age I prob can't have another child. Should say my mum's meno began round this age - wish I'd given that more thought in the preceding yrs. Saw my gp who sent me for bloods which showed raised FSH. He said repeat in 6 mths so demanded apt with a gyno as not prepared to wait that long. Had ultrasound and technician said I appear to have less follicles than expected for my age - no idea what that even means? Now awaiting amh test results in January.
So, on to symptoms! What I've not had is hot flushes. And as opposed to vaginal dryness, I've actually had a huge increase in discharge. But did have the itchiness. I was so relieved to read one woman's note about the throbbing she felt. When my back is against the sofa or bed, I can feel my pulse all over upper torso. Obv it's not painful but v irritating and weird not to mention mind boggling. I wonder if that's along the lines of palpatations? I've had the feeling hungry even when just eaten that's been said and some constipation, headaches and bloating but it's all been v intermittent. Anxiety and mild depression have always been a symptom of mine so nothing unexpected there. I did have 2 horrible episodes of vertigo and dizziness is pretty regular ocurrance these days. Can become easily tearful too.
On a lighter note, someone jokingly asked if a twitching eye is a symptom. Well I had one for over a week recently?! Huge help to read all yr comments. Feedback welcome and good luck to all xx

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Lulu1959 said on 01 November 2012

Great place to come and share this truly awful but natural condition.....
These are my symptoms and y,all may experience these.

1.itchy labia

2.Heavy floods lasting 3 days but period lasts 6 days

3.Missing periods up to 2 months

4.Very tearful lots of sobbing.

5.weight gain and a passion to eat chocolate and cake and ice cream.

6.More hair fall and dry texture.

7.Under-active thyroid.

8.Headaches and fuzzy feeling .

9.Tiredness the need to sleep in the afternoon.

10.Horrendous night sweats and leg cramps..

11.high blood pressure followed by irritability

12.No sex drive(but not really bothered about this as i have lost interest completely..

13.Stopped going out prefer to stay indoors.

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frances1958 said on 01 November 2012

Hi everyone this is a great place to come and discuss menopause symtoms .I am a 54 year old have experienced the night sweats but not too many and the very heavy periods.
The phase i am now in is no period for 2 months then a very light period lasting 21 days. I have started getting day sweats but not sweating as such more like a fevrish feeling especially when i am active house cleaning or something that requires active movement.
These sweats i find uncomfortable i am now thinking i should just adapt and make good of my situation until it passes. I know there are herbal remedies i have tried them all but they are not working anymore.
The tiredness is really horrible it force,s me to bed in the afternoon but i also have an underactive thyroid as well..
I have not worked since 2005 because of failing health my partner annd i get along fine on his salary just about.
I had my thyroid medication with drawn due to the fact i am not paying national insurance....

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iamwhatiam said on 23 October 2012

I'm 47 and have started waking up during the night feeling very hot (although not necessarily sweating), have become restless during sleep, still have fairly regular periods, but recently became worried by severe tiredness and overreactive moods. Reading the comments on here has made me realise that I'm not alone nor am I going mad or just suffering from 'a bit of stress'!! Thank you all for sharing as it has made me feel a bit more stable. I have found that using herbal tablets have taken the edge off my moods and helped me to sleep better. There are also definite benefits to exercise (which I'm not a fan of but when I make myself do it I definitely feel better) and I also bought a meditation CD which helped me to breathe better and this made me more relaxed. Keep sharing as it will help many other women in the same situation :-)

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Lorna52 said on 19 October 2012

I've always had heavy periods but the last few months have been worse and losing clots and spotting between periods. Have become anaemic due to blood loss. I came onto the site to see if this was normal but have been amazed by how many women suffer joint pain - I've been kept awake for weeks by pain in my hips. I have an appointment with my GP next week and was planning to ask to be tested for menopause, will now make sure I mention the joint pain.

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wendicarro said on 19 October 2012

Omgosh,
I am 47 have underactive thyroid,missing periods,mood swings,very weepy have just had procedure for atrial fibrilation,now continuous feeling that I am brewing a uti,is this the menopause?
what a brilliant web site

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kostarlight said on 17 October 2012

Crying with relief reading all your comments. I have been taking anti-depressants for 2 years after suffering with anxiety and weepiness! Only had 2 periods this year and suffering the night sweats, flushes and mood swings. My husband makes me feel like a psycho and I really can't help it things just irritate me sooo much! He has MS and am his main carer and feel that I am going mad! Doctors visit for me asap. Thank you for sharing your symptoms.

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carlo12 said on 13 October 2012

I am 47 and have been told by my GP after having bloods test that I am in peri menopause. Although not experiencing any hot flushes or night sweats so far, I am suffering very badly with joint pain, mood swings and changes in my periods. I have suffered with IBS and gastric issues for many years and take regular medication to control acid reflux. But over the last couple of years I have been experiencing a very bitter taste in my mouth. I recently had an endopscopy to rule out anything serious in my stomach and was told it may be bile reflux. The medicine I was prescribed didn't help at all so I have stopped taking. The taste does seem to intensify around the time of my period and I was wondering if anyone had experienced this or other taste changes during peri menopause?

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mrsairhead said on 09 October 2012

To Jellyhead24
I am really relieved to read your post as it sounds like we're very similar. I'm 44 and am starting to go through the menopause - no periods for most of last year and this and apparently have raised FSH levels. I have been experiencing vertigo over the last month and it's been worrying me but it never occurred to me that it might be related to menopause. I have also been on 10mg of citalopram for years due to anxiety and insomnia but the irony now is I sleep really well but spend all day feeling exhausted which I have been finding equally worrying as I'm only 44 not 94!
I was wondering whether you had been told whether you can go on HRT whilst taking citalopram?

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Jellyhead28 said on 04 October 2012

Hi ladies. This is the first time I've been on this site. I'm 47 and have just been told by my GP that my FSH levels are way high and I'm definitely in the menopause. Couldn't tell from the periods point of view as I have a mirena coil fitted and so no periods. However, did have a light period recently with typical period pain and very tender boobs. Already taking low dose of Citalopram long term for anxiety but still having some mood swings. Was really worried about going through menopause as my mum had a bad time and I always had bad PMT and have had depression in the past. Think the Citalopram is warding off depression - if you need antidepressants, have them. Relieved to hear so many others suffering joint and muscle pain - feel like an old croc! Will these go after menopause, does anyone know. No hot flushes but wake up after about 1 hour's sleep and always shattered. Also getting vertigo, drop and throw (involuntarily) things and memory is hopeless!!! At least I now I'm not battling alone. x

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Jeannette49 said on 28 September 2012

Hi ladies. I'm 49. Not had period for a year. But oh the side effects. Aching hips, knees. Stress, constipation. Bloated. Vaginal dryness, weight gain, nite sweats, approx 1 every 40 mins. Don't sleep. If I manage to fall asleep will wake up within hour of dozing. Period pain including back pain? Feeling so sorry for myself majority of time. All doom and gloom and have had times off feeling quite suicidal. Declined anti depressants cos in past found they made me very verbally abusive to loved ones. Was given HRT but too scared to take because of links to cancer. Love this site. Makes me realise I'm not alone.

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ladsmum66 said on 23 September 2012

Hi all,new to this page,but reading some informative stuff...Not sure if i'm going through this dreaded thing or not... No mood swings,cramps,moods or anything... But periods are changing...This time last year didnt have a period for 12 weeks then bammm back as normal over the year,then 11 weeks ago stopped again,. Then yesterday bammm back again.... Have had a few hot flushes over the year also but nothing major,. I quit smoking over 2 years ago and i'm not overweight,and the sex part is fine,now I got rid of the EX for a younger model haha......... So for you that have gone through it,or going through it... Is this IT or just my periods being awkward...... Thanks in advance :-)

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Daftdeb said on 01 September 2012

Sunflower52, i am feeling exactly the same. The worst symptom I am experiencing is anxiety. It wakes me up throughout the night, feelings of dread, catastrophising everything, heart racing, nausea. I get the spaced out feelings at times too. I've had this for over a year now. It mainly started after a hysterectomy last year. I have so far resisted the anti depressants. Just terrified of them. I tried Citalopram but felt so so tired and had a few problems with heightened anxiety coming off of it. Trying to keep down a responsible full time job too is torture, but needs must. It was a bit of a relief for me to find this site and to hear that I am not alone. There should be menopause support groups set up. Anyone live in the Brighton area???

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angel49 said on 29 August 2012

I am nearly 49 and ive always had bad periods, endometriosis, fibroids etc, i also managed to have a child by Gods grace. I then had a miscarriage 2 years ago. Since last year suddenly I started bleediung twice a month and very heavy, then suddenly once in 3 months and now theyve completely gone. I have had a lot of vaginal dryness seems to be the most problem.
Yet i feel much better as all those painful periods have gone, i suffered terrible pain everytime i had periods and nothing gave me relief. sex was bad, didnt enjoy it either. Now ive met a 37 year old man, and i feel like e vereything hjas changed, i am enjoying sex and the relationship and no more pain. Just worried that i cannot have any more children. But i am happy nevertheeless.. Any natural remedies for vaginal dryness would be appreciated.

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JooliaBG said on 25 August 2012

Thank you all for helping me through my symptoms. It seems that a woman's suffering in the menstrual cycle is relentless! I'm 50 in October and am under the Gyne consultant.
I'm also a qualified senior mental health practitioner and feel it necessary to discuss Citalopram and other anti-depressants mentioned in this thread.
Taking these tablets does not provide a "quick fix". Unlike medication such as paracetamol, valium, zopiclone, anti-depressants. They can take several weeks to build up in the body to reach a "theraputic level", and even then there is no guarantee that they will be effective.
If you believe that by taking Citalopram as a one off when you feel especially low, is working for you, I'm afraid this wont be the case..you may as well be taking Smarties.
If prescribed an anti-depressant, please read the info leaflet and persevere with them for at least 3 weeks. If after a month they aren't working go back to your GP.
There are loads on the market. Don't give up! Also look at NICE guidance for menopause. Loads of useful info. Good luck ladies. We need it! Xxx

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sunflower52 said on 21 August 2012

futureself said on 12 April 2012 I would like to say i have every symptom and feeling you do If you read this I would like to contact you.

I am so glad I found this site as I too thought I was going mad. I suffer with mood swings and terrible anxiety. I worry me or my children will die and this affects my life. I am so anxious I don't really do anything. My muscles and joints hurt some mornings it hurts to get downstairs, i am only 52 what will this all be like when I am older/

If anyone has found something that works for moood swings I would love to know.

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julybabe51 said on 18 August 2012

I was trawling the internet today to get some answers, I am so pleased I came across this site. Now I have read some of the symptoms, I can honestly say that I have most of them, especially the aching joints and muscles. My periods were as regular as clockwork, every 26 days until about 18 months ago, and then I started missing odd ones, then 6 months, now I am 3 months without a period!! My main concern today was a feeling of vertigo, dizziness, like an out of body experience, it is really frightening me, but now I have seen some of you have the same feelings I feel much better. My weight also has gone through the roof, I am following a healthy diet plan at the moment, but its a slow process!! I wonder is there a way we can converse directly to anyone?

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hongkongphooey said on 12 August 2012

Looks like everyone has their own experience which probably makes it difficult to 'treat' but I've never been one to dwell on my hormonal cycles so I pretty much ignored that I'd been experiencing pre-peri menopausal symptoms. They dropped from 4 to 3 weekly cycles and have just now stopped, it would seem. So it was a little bolt out of the blue to realise recently that I'd probably gone through the menopause. I haven't had sweats, aching joints, and I'm fairly physically active and that has usually been what keeps away the Black Dog - as Churchill used to refer to depression. I can really recommend (from experience and as an ex-nurse) keeping the intake of coffee/ black tea/ anything with caffeine to an absolute minimum. I get my liquid through herbal / fruit tea

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debbie1962 said on 03 August 2012

I'm 49 years old and have not had a period for nearly 3 years. I first noticed signs of the menopause when I was around 44 (missed a period the first year and several the next). I suffer from Hot Flushes and have tried 3 types of low dose anti-depressents for them. They helped but made me feel tired and spaced out so decided to stop. I use a fan every night to sleep. Since Feb I have also suffered with insomnia which is awful so have been taking Zopicone occasionally but as these cant be taken regularly I decided to try HRT. I also feel my joints are stiff - like I have aged 10 years! I was prescribed Tibolone (a synthetic oestrogen) and have just taken my first tablet. They take 3-4 weeks to kick in so will re-post when I emerge as a new woman (wishful thinking). Praying my hot flushes and insomnia improve. Other symptoms I have are weight gain which I'm finding very difficult to shift and I'm more irritable. The joys of being a woman!

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User701649 said on 01 August 2012

I will be 50 at the end of the year and over the last year to two years have missed an occasional period, have also had periods come too soon and they have been heavier. I am still having periods, but over the last 2 months, I wake up many times during the night feeling too hot and I am so tired all the time. Just this past week, I have had hot flushes at work, every half hour or so - I didn't think this would happen until my periods had stopped? I am currently losing weight due to being on a diet and I am glad that I started this weight loss plan when I did as it may help me to not gain menopausal weight. I also have some joint pain and my feet are very sore when I get up out of bed. I'm not planning to go to dr yet, will see how the flushes go but if they get too bad, I would rather go on HRT. Does HRT just delay symptoms though? Wouldn't like to take it only for the symptoms to come back years later on stopping HRT. Confused! Please help answer my queries if you can, it's good to talk to other ladies and not rely on doctors.

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debi66 said on 26 July 2012

Wow what a great site, it's nice to know we are not alone with this dreaded part of our life!!!! Wouldn't it be lovely if we had a button to make it all stop, I know my hubby would. At the moment I'm not taking anything apart from rescue remedy to help with the anxiety but for all you women on antidepressants good on you if i need them again i will be on them straight away. Ignore all them people who condemn them if they work and help bloody take them. It doesn't make you a weak person remember that !!!! Good luck to you all and keep talking :)

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Marchbabe387 said on 23 July 2012

Just found this site today - thank goodness! It means I'm not going mad I'm just on the road towards the menopause. I've been having symptons for a couple of years now - bad sleep patterns, night sweats, aches and pains in my joints, tearful and emotional, weight gain and lack of concentration. I've also had shorter but more painful regular periods but just came on today and its only 3 weeks since my last period.
I really don't want to take any medication to help me through this and would rather change my diet. Has anyone got any advice about what to add/remove from diet?

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kirsty1962 said on 21 July 2012

I woke the other day, the room was spinning like I was on a wheel, it was awful. I slowly rose and was soaking wet with sweat, then the palpitations came, almost like a bad panic attack. After breathing slowly and calming myself down, I tentatively showered and got ready for work. On arriving at work I felt this inner/outer body sensation all day. I couldn't move my head without spinning and was shaking, it was so bad it gave me several bouts of diarrhoea. The following day I woke with the same spinning but not so severe. I convinced myself it was vertigo. That evening I came on, very heavy for me. I am 50, have a coil, to assist the menopause so heavy bleeding is unusual for me, although I do spot most of the time. I feel as I have been going through the Menopause for approx. 3 years, has anyone else ever encountered such an experience related to their periods/menopause or am I readly going mad. Now some five days later I still feel shaky, anxious, unconfident and very headachy.

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ruralgirl said on 13 July 2012

Hello. At the age 0f 50, I now feel that I have reached the menopause. I have not had a period for 10 months-I understand it should be 12 moinths to be officially classed as menopausal-and they were erratic for 18 months prior to this. I am generally speaking an even tempured person, not given to erratic, emotional behaviour. Of late, I feel tearful for no reason. I am lethargic, and ofter just want to sit about doing nothing. I have no enthusiasm one day, but am fine the next. I am forgetful and distracted half the time, and worried about it when I am not.
I have put on over a stone and a half over the last few months. I have joined a slimming club, but cannot focus on my eating. I feel that I am wasting my money, but would probably be worse if I were not paying a mointh in advance. I hate the way I look and feel, but cannot seem to get a grip.
Interest in sex on a scale of one to ten is minus three, partly i think, because of how I look.
My skin has become dry and itchy, despite years of battling with oily skin and all it's problems.
Aches and pains-what can I say. If it is not one thing it is another.
There is comfort in reading other peoples accounts of their problems/symptoms, and it makes me realise that I am not alone, but there are days when it gets me down a bit. How long will all this go on? I know I/we will emerge the other side at some point, but hey, it is not much fun at the moment. I suppose feeling like this is not at all in my nature, and try as I might to combat these feelings, it is not always easy.
As the song goes 'things can only get better'.

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WRM said on 11 July 2012

I'm 53 years old and am lucky enough to have bypassed the majority of the symptoms other ladies on here are unfortunately suffering. Basically, I caught glandular fever at the age of 42, I was very ill for about 4 months, lost a lot of weight and my periods stopped. A few months later, doctor did tests and said that nothing was wrong, my hormones, etc, were fine and to wait for my body to get over the virus, but still the periods didn't return. Ten months later and still no periods, further tests were done and I was told I'd gone completely through the menopause - with no symptoms - doctor was amazed. He said it was something that rarely happened and he never expected to encounter someone "achieving" it - like it was something I'd set my heart on doing!!! Anyway, now out of the blue, I've started to have hot and cold sweats and flushing on my face and neck. This usually happens during the day, rather than at night. Apart from the odd twinge here and there, I've got no other symptoms and am in reasonable health. I have inherited high blood pressure problems from my father's side, but this has been controlled by medication since I was in my late 20's. Has anyone else experienced flushes such a long time after going through the menopause? I feel hot usually around my face and head and start sweating. Then it feels like cold water has been poured over my head - then my face and neck go red and blotchy.

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Anonymous said on 29 June 2012

I am 47 and quite distressed as I think I have started Peri menapause or full blown menapause. The reason for distressed as met a man aged 37 and am happy after 20 years of a bad relationship and 2 miscarriages, therefore no children. Now its too late... I read everyones comments and it has helped that I am not alone, but I need to accept this is the way it is and get on with it!!

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butterfly1960 said on 25 June 2012

Hello butterfly 1964! If you look through this site as much as I have you will find joint aches are mentioned.... but as to why? and how common? I have not found a good answer so far.... I have been referred by my (male) GP to gyaeny at last! I was put down the route of rheumatology to no avail at all!! I kept on insisting it was hormonal and hope to be proven right.... but as with all NHS depts, I will have to wait...... In the mean time I'm trying the usual supplements along with the codeine and citalopram prescribed by my GP. I also had the chance of seeing a female GP when my GP on hols..... she gave me a bit more detail about hormone levels, but said basically we are all unique in our symptoms, but some more common than other. The joint pains for me are all over, but started with my knees.... I have always had terrible knees... sound like bags of crisps being scrunched!! But I noticed the hips and ankles joined in soon after.... and other joints are becoming increasingly painful. I loved my part time job as post office assistant (practically ran it alone on occaisions) but the need to concentrate over the pain became too much.... I have been on ESA since oct 2011, that causes stress all by itself!!!
Hope you find relief from your symptoms soon! x

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butterfly1964 said on 23 June 2012

I have stopped having periods ( I think) and am experiencing some of the obvious symptoms of night sweats and rashes etc. I was very interested to read butterfly1960's comments about joint aches! I have just started to suffer with this. Is this a commen symptom of menapause do you know?

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sallykay said on 22 June 2012

Hi I'm a newbe to this site. I've looked around on hee and my questions arent answered. I wondered if anyone could help. I'm 44 started my periods at 15 then didnt have another until a year later. Since then they have always been irregular at 3 or 4 a year. I have managed to have 2 children within this time. My problem is for the past year I have been having a 4 or 5 week cycle which is foreign territory for me. Within the past month I have had 2 periods.
Is this the start of the dreaded menopause???

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butterfly1960 said on 20 June 2012

Hello! Still suffering with the joint pains.... no luck with rheumatology dept, so I am now being referred to gyaeny , at last!!
My poor hubby still has to put up with the ratty old version of me at mo.... trying supplements to balance out hormonal changes.
We poor women are all going thru similar symptoms, but tailored personally to ourselves....!!!
Luckily I do not suffer from dryness during sex, but for those who do.... there are lots of gels/creams etc available over the counter from chemists.... (hope this helps "unprepared50"?)
My problem is finding comfy position for sex, as I am not as supple anymore , also suffering from sliding hiatus hernia (acid reflux!) and the joint pains cause havoc too!! But where there's a will there's a way!!
I can get to sleep ok, but can't sleep more than 2/3 hours straight... either need the loo, or joint pains or my stomach acid reflux will wake me up.... and difficult to settle to sleep again! This does not help with the memory/confusion problem!! Also leads to irritability!!!
Good luck ladies!

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unprepared50 said on 19 June 2012

So glad to find this site. I am 50years and although my period started to disappear when I was 49year I ignored this because I was fed up with them and the site effects of back pain etc was distracting. Now I get hot flushes sudden rise in body temperature and burst of sweating. I guess I can manage as I have not gone to see my GP yet. As long as this does not get worse I think I can manager however the problem is my partner I tend to keep away from him because has suddenly gotten a bit tricky I find I am so dry and although my sex drive is still there I get nervous because I am dry. Does anyone have any idea as to what I can do. I am seriously considering giving up on sex, but i gues there's got to be another way.

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waternerd said on 18 June 2012

I am a water anorak and I've noticed that compared to others my hot flushes last less than a minute. I am positive my body recovers more rapidly as it is more rehydrated. When I don't have enough water, they last longer and are more frequent. I never have urine infections because my urine is colourless or very very pale.
I guess I am even more of a caffeine free anorak than a water one. So far I've convinced 3 people male and female to give up caffeine, they now sleep better, are less grumpy, don't have otherwise unexplainable (ie. shower shadow or washing powder) itchy skin and are considerably less fidgety.
My palpitations are worsened massively by caffeine and chocolate and lovely lovely chocolate and caffeine stop me sleeping. Caffeine has a half life of 8 hours! Next time you're lying awake at 3 in the morning wondering why, it'll be that teatime cuppa or evening drink with coke or red bull....

Do your body a favour, drink decaf tea, coffee and loads more water......go on go on

I do hope this helps someone : )

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HK1989 said on 12 June 2012

I am about to turn 23 and i worried that i may have early manopause. It is painful when i have sex, I am often very dry, i have random mood swings and i can have problems sleeping, i also have a lack of a sex drive even though i am in a good relationship. Please could you give me some advice as the possibility of this is upsetting me

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butterfly1960 said on 04 June 2012

Hello! I last left update on 3/5/12..... tried HRT with mild antidepressant. HRT is not for me!! Terrible emotional swings, my poor hubby!! So, I stopped the HRT and 2 days later I had my first period in months!!
And 2nd day no joint pain in hands, wrists and ankles... still in knees and hips tho.... but pains back in all joints next day! Still using codeine phostphate 30mg.... helps tone down worst of sharp jabs.... still using self hypnosis to help with pain control. (Works well for me) Also had appt with rheumatology to get to reason for joint pains.... waiting for results on numerous blood tests ........
I only take citalopram 10mg now and again when things get real bad and ugly!!! (Thats the mild anti depressant) Purely so as I can keep my husband!!! I am nearly 52, started periods age 9..... surely it will all end soon! (Not the end of life as we know it!?!?!)
Good luck ladies!

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meebs said on 20 May 2012

just turned 44, never suffered from headaches before but started having them in the last few months. Also having rushes of emotions at silly things and tears automatically coming to my eyes. Been getting very angry with the kids and really shouting at them, but anger over in a few seconds and crying when trying to explain how proud I am of something they have done. Quite often, seeing accidents in my minds eye, usually myself falling down stairs etc. Hot some nights but thought it was from leaving elec blanket on but now not sure! Periods still normal so not sure if menopause symptoms???? any advice please

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shazneyfike said on 04 May 2012

Hi, i am 37 years old and have always had terrible times concerning my periods, often very painfil and heavy and irregular, the last few years i have had hot sweats and more pain then ever, bloating, the need to urinate alot and extreme tiredness plus weakness, my last period was last week and i was stuck in bed for 4 days in agony and no energy plus i could not stop crying, my period ended and i had another week of painful breasts, cryi.g, anxiety with depression and no energy. Its an effort just to move, i am at the end of my teather, so far this morning i feel ok, have a little pain in my joints and am starving hungry even though i have eaten already, i can't put up with this much longer. Should i ask my GP about a test to see if i am having an early menapause? Do u think i am going through the change? Something is defo wrong and i am a mess....thanks.

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butterfly1960 said on 03 May 2012

Hello! Here as promised my report on HRT... had 2 weeks of Elleste Duet and suffered such emotional turmoil that I went back to GP (male!) in tears! He suggested a mild form of antidepressant (citalopram ) along with 2mg version of HRT. I can take uto 3x daily of citalopram but so far only needed 1 per day with breakfast. I also suffer from chronic joint pain (poss symptom of menopause) and my GP prescribed codeine upto 8x daily but warned that they are addictive so I try to limit it to 2 per day if poss. I have been trained as an Holistic therapist and prefer to try alternative treatments rather than chemicals.... but needs must under extreme circumstances... I have used aromatherapy, reflexology, acupuncture, hypnotherapy and meditation. Of these, all are relaxing! Hypnotherapy was best for pain control (Magic!)
I hope this info can be of some use to you!
Good luck in whatever you try to ease your tough times!

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7yearsandready said on 02 May 2012

So glad i found this site today, for 7 years i feel like i've been going bonkers!
I went to my GP when i was 29 and gave a list of symptoms and she listened and was really very good and carried out tests immediately which showed that my FSH levels were sky-high, we were then referred to fertility clinic who carried out further tests and i was diagnosed as peri-menopausal and crushingly told that my only option for family would be egg donation and that i would never conceive naturally. So, at 31 we married as we'd been planning and ruled out egg donation as an option for us.....i now at 36 have 2 beautiful, healthy and naturally conceived children aged 4 & 2 years. NEVER give up hope!
All the while i have been suffering menopausal symptoms and they are gradually worsening, my periods are so heavy that i'm floored and in bed for 2 days at a time every 8-9 weeks or so, i'm depressed, bloated and battling weight gain, dizzy, night sweats and heart palpitations. I look at my beautiful family and wish i could enjoy them more and not have this ever-grey cloud hanging over me. I am not on HRT and my GP (we have since moved regions) will not take me seriously saying that i am just a sleep deprived Mum and i should get a job to occupy my mind. Can anyone advise me of alternative therapy's that really work, i'm a great believer in self-help and PMA and willing to give anything a go.
Oh and my Mum started menopause at 27 back in the 80's and was laughed at then too so not much has changed really, think the key is finding a sympathetic GP.

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emma29 nearly30 said on 17 April 2012

Hi, im 29 i'll be 30 this year. I have been having a rough time lately, i have been badly depressed and anxious i've had to have my tablets put to a higher dose, but still nothing seems to change, i get banging headaches and dizzy spells, always go hot and cold, and wake up hot in the middle of the night. I don't sleep to well either. I had a misscarraige 2 years ago and been trying ever since to get pregnant but nothing seems to work. ( i do have a 9year old daughter) I thought i maybe going through some sort of hormone inbalance but the doctors have said they can only test for the menopaulse but he says i am too young to be going through it. Lately my periods have been all strange i was coming on later and only bleeding normal for a day or 2 then it dies down, then i came on earlier but the same bleeding normal for a day or 2. This month i had spots of bleeding when i was due on for 3 days then my period came again normal bleed for 2 days then slowed down. Along with a banging headache dizzy spells, urinating more and hot sweats. I also suffer from low ferritin levels and i am on iron tablets. Has anybody had my symptoms during the menopause and does this seem simular. Anything would help if there is any advice going. Thank you.

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butterfly1960 said on 17 April 2012

Hello again!
I have left 2 other comments..... Thanks to the responses! Always nice to know that I'm not suffering alone.... I just read a comment left by mandm63 (27/2/12). I have had poor sleep patterns since Feb 2009.... I put it down to my general poor health at that time, but now I'm thinking maybe that was one of the 1st symptoms of menopause!?! I had to give up alcohol cos I had gallstones! The gall of it!!! That was removed via keyhole surgery Nov 2010..... My latest symptoms are the irritability and mood swings.... don't look at me funny.... you won't like me when I'm mad! The hulk ain't got nothing on me!!!
As I said previously; I have been prescribed HRT Elleste Duet 1mg (2 weeks ago) & there has been a slight improvement to the joint pains..... not a lot, but still early days. I went back to see dr cos of mood swings, and after I finish the 1st month of 1mg HRT he will put me onto the 2mg version.
I'm game to try practically anything within my vegetarian lifestyle.... now trying hypnotherapy..... I responded very well to auto suggestion!! Has anyone else had a go at the alternative therapies with any success??
Thanks for reading, and good luck! x

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me1961 said on 13 April 2012

missed a few periods 2 years ago, 51now thought it was stress as they came back normally, then have now only had 4 light periods in the last 18months, saw the doctor and bloodtest confirmed menopause. controlled night sweats for 12 months with tincture of sage. then went to see a chinese medicine doctor as sufferred with bloating and have a mix made from dried herbs etc. 2 tsp a day, no more bloating or any nightsweats,no pmt, headaches, no symptoms at all, if I feel a little off I tell her and she tweeks the mix accordingly,It may not work for everyone, but I didnt want it to control my life,having been to china,have a little faith.
they have used these medicines for thousands of years, and have no problems with the menopause, but have an independant mix made not off the shelf, then its more precise.

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futureself said on 12 April 2012

THANK YOU SO MUCH... thought I was going mad. So down, numb emotionally or in floods of tears or ratty to my family which is really mean. Anxious, planning to die in the next couple of years - weirdly morbid???
Erratic periods, painful boobs, MASSIVE weight gain - basically comfort eating as well.
Usually very positive and extrovert and don't want to go anywhere or see anyone - this is starting to effect my business.
Ache all over, all the time - shoulders, joints, chest. I walk a couple of miles each morning, have recently taken up a proper sport and still piling on the weight.
I can't tell you what it means to have read your comments. Whilst I only have a couple of periods a year I have the sweats to look forward to ...
anything you can recommend for everything else???
I will try the ladycare, evening primrose, magnesium and black Kohosh but any other advice would be great. I WANT MY LIFE BACK. If men had this, there would be a cure by now ...

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butterfly1960 said on 12 April 2012

Hi there!
Thanks to Caz5052 (12/2/12)
I have just had an awful couple of months, still have painful joints. Atlast I had a blood test that came back as menopausal!! My male dr not too bad as they go! I had been taking Norethisterone to control irregular heavy painful periods. When I missed a few periods i a row, dr suggested I stop tabs and see what happens.... that was last August 2011. Since then the painful joints have been getting worse, and I had to give up my parttime work which I loved. I have been taking glucosamine sulhate but didn't notice any improvement. Then tried flaxseed 500mg capsules (suitable for veggies!) no improvement to the pain but less stiff!! My dr has recently prescribed HRT and I take Elleste Duet 1mg daily tab (Memory shot, so my husband reminds me to take it!!) I have been given a 3 month supply to try.... apparently I should notice an improvement in everything in a few weeks!!! Ladies watch this spot!! I will keep you informed how I get on!
Good luck to you all with your troubles and woes! x

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kasinpink said on 06 April 2012

Reading all these comments this morning has made me feel so much better, and no longer alone. I think I started the menopause journey about three years ago at the age of 44 when I broke out in an almighty sweat and then my period was late. Mother said I could be an early starter as she started at that age and so did my nan. Periods have since become erratic, I break out in hot flushes and feel tired and pee more often. Now after no period for six months I had a light one three weeks ago and have just come on again and am literally flooding. Does not feel nice at all but at least now I no longer feel abnormal. And I have a wonderful partner who does not mind running to the shops to get emergency sanitary products. I dont yet feel liberated but think I am grieving the loss of something that has been a part of me for a long time. I have children and do not plan on any more, but there is a sense of loss in no longer being able to do something as opposed to choosing not to do it. Guess it will take a bit of time to get used to.

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shortstuff61 said on 26 March 2012

Hello ladies,
I am so relieved to have read your stories & find i'm not alone. I have been peri-menepausal for about 2-3 years. For the last year having a period every 3 months then flooding when it does come. Now its been 4 months. Like all of you just about coping with hot flushes & night sweats, bloating, painful joints & sore muscles, weak bladder, waking 2/3 times a night. Spent a lot of last year at gp's to no avail. At my lowest I could barely drag one foot in front of the other. Thankfully that has passed. My newest symptom is increased appetite, I just want to eat all the time & not just sweet stuff, cant do so much excercise because of painful knees, shoulder & neck. Chin up though fellow sufferers, we will get through it just imagine what would happen if men had to go through it :).

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Midge50 said on 22 March 2012

I have been having missed periods for about 5 years now, along with all the symptoms of sore breasts, feeling bloated and aching everywhere. Haven't had a period now since July last year. Hope I have now been through the worst of it. Can just about cope with the flushes which are really awful at the moment. Said at the start that I didn't fancy taking any medication from the doctor - would try to cope on my own. My doctor probably wouldn't be that helpful as he hardly looks at you when you go to see him. Anyway, good luck to all you ladies who are struggling. Try to grin and bear it if you can. I will say I have found it liberating not having a period. Started my periods when I was 10 years old so I think 40+ years is quite long enough!!

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Rattyjax said on 21 March 2012

Hi, 51yr old here. Up till 4-5yrs ago m periods were always like clockwork, not heavy or painful. Then I started missing periods, then I'd have two in one month sometimes slight bleeding constantly for a month at a time. Then the hot flushes, night sweats started. My message is, hang in there ladies. I've seen loads of drs but they don't like to confirm or deny that these symptoms may be due to the menopause, just in case there not! Despite feeling like crap most of the time I did some research, I take black cohosch with Angus cactus which helps me with the hot flushes and night sweats, it doesn't eliminate them altogether but it helps. I joined a gym and so far have lost over 5kg, exercise really does help. Now I feel like I am in control of my body as I go through this change and that in itself has helped enormously as before I felt like my body was in control of me. I now haven't had a period for about a year but still get odd days of lightheadedness, nausea, aching joints and all the rest of it but when you try to remain positive it really does help. Not saying its easy but it worked for me, doctors are necessary but in the end you know it's happening and you just have to find a way to cope with it that suits you and your lifestyle. Good luck x

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mrs bjp said on 20 March 2012

What a relief to read all the stories - I almost feel 'normal'!! I am almost 51 and have trouble sleeping, sore boobs, awful bloating and weight gain, lack of energy and aching joints. Only 1 missed period and no hot flushes. Good to know Im not alone.
Feel that its a little too early to go to the doctors - does anyone have any tips/vitamins that may help?

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chickenpie22 said on 16 March 2012

Can any of you advise me? I am 34 and used to have regular monthly periods, then came the start of 2012!!!
The week leading up to my next period i was experiencing dull, cramp like pain either side of my pubic bone this went of for a week, then my period came which lasted 10 days and was very heavy (tampon and pad was required). 3 weeks after this i had a 2 day spotting then nothing until now (approaching 8 weeks later), i am very light at moment (am closely monitoring this), i have been feeling tired now for 3-4 weeks, feeling down, i have been weepy and the slightest thing and just not being myself. On top of all this my vagina has decided to go through that dry stint!!!
does this sound menopausal to you?

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travis30 said on 14 March 2012

hello i am 51, my periods have been irregular for months now, and i have noticed i have been very agitated and anxious over the past 4 weeks, i am also experiencing feeling nauseous and dizzy and the feeling of feeling faint. I have pain in my upper arms and back, and waking in the early hours of the morning and sometimes having hot sweats. could this be menopause my doc doesnt seem that interested, and im just wondering what herbal or supplements i can take to help me

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Floorahorse said on 13 March 2012

I think I'm in the same boat, constantly got stomach cramps, extreme bloating, can go up or down 2 dress sizes, but I simply don't come on. Been 3 weeks this time, last time 3 months of lugging round a sluggish bloated body, then came on so bad I was floored, spent a week pain free, then the PMT symptoms returned. It's badly affecting my lifestyle now, I can't make plans as when 'it' happens it's so bad I'm in bed for 2 days, am so hot I'm changing the bed all the time and can only wear black as I sweat at the tops of my legs to the point where it looks like I've pee'd myself. Anyone else like that? Don't sweat anywhere else, or have the hot flushes Putting on weight like you wouldn't believe and often look pregnant (and I'm not and never have been).

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queenofrage said on 11 March 2012

Reply to Donna 1981,
Donna, your story set off alarm bells. 20 years ago, my friend, aged 30 went to her G.P complaining of menopausal type symptoms. Her G.P laughed and said she was too young to be going through the menopause. He attributed her symptoms to stress. A couple of years later when having a routine smear test she told the nurse that she had not had a period for about a year. The nurse took blood tests. The results showed that she had already passed through the menopause. Apparently it was too late to treat her with hormone therapy to maintain her fertility. She was 32, childless and longing for a family. It was devastating to her and is something she has never really recovered from.
My advice to you is keep going back to your G.P, see other G.Ps in the practice, talk to the practice nurse, be persistent. In my personal experience G.P's can be somewhat dismissive if your set of symptoms are not text book or fall outside of the norm. But if you keep on going back they are more likely to investigate further - but it may take a number of visits from yourself.
Good luck.

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mrs palmer said on 07 March 2012

Can anyone advise? I have just been prescribed Ortho Gynest pessaries (14 day supply initially) to relieve the symptoms of very painful intercourse. Has anyone used this medication and how long does it take for the effects to work? thanks

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mrs palmer said on 07 March 2012

Can anyone help

Going throught the menopause and apart from the usual night sweats etc, feeling very low at the thought that I am now "past it". Just been prescribed Ortho Gynest pessaries, initially 14 day supply, one to be administered each day. Has anyone had experience of this medication? The reason for it is that I am finding intercourse so very uncomfortable, painful in fact. I was wondering how long it would be before I notice any difference/benefit.
Thanks to anyone who can help

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nell123 said on 28 February 2012

I began the menopause about 3 years ago, and have not had a period for a year now (I'm 47) but have had a discharge that is dark brown for the last three months. Been to doctor, and awaiting test results. I'd like to know though, when anyone else has gone through the change, did you still get symptoms of period, ie pmt, sore breasts, depression, irritability, etc without the bleeding? Doctor said she may give me eostogen cream, what will this do? I'm not sexually active, no husband or partner.

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mandm63 said on 27 February 2012

I am 49 I have always suffered from bouts of anxiety but for four years this has increased, I was on Citalaprim but stopped taking them as they affected my heart rate. i put on weight and was constantly tired. I decided to try my own self help remedies. Firstly i increased my activity I lost a stone and a half, and the exercise included swimming that has helped me to relax
I suffer from disturbed sleep, and still get over tired during the winter months. I get less palpitations since I stopped drinking alcohol. It is hard and not all of my anxiety has gone, and I cannot imagine a life free from that. I suffer from irritability and so does my family, I am snappy and moody and sometimes downright horrid. I find talking to other women a comfort if nothing else. I get the painful breasts just before my periods that although regular are very scant. My behaviour can sometimes be compulsive, and irrational and this has an impact on other ares of life. It is a tough cookie .

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cyrus2 said on 22 February 2012

Wow, thank you ladies, I am not alone. I'll be 44 next birthday, and believe I've been perimenoposal since about 39. I went from having regular monthly periods to on occasion having 2 in a month to 1 every 3 o 4 months and playing the guessing game, will I, won't I have a period. In the begining I didn't have a clue what was going on, because in my head I was 'young' and thought missed period meant one thing, pregnancy, which is far fetched, having had the procedure. Yep the hot sweasts came with a vengance, and still come and go, although not as bad now. Waking up like 2, 3, 4 in the morning even though I'm knackered, ohh and the joints thing. I was told I have arthritus, my knees grind better that a salt an' pepper mill, not forgetting neck and shoulder pain. Oh what else is there, migraines, yeh, the dry skin, mood swings, thank goodness the libido is unaltered. I must say my GPs have been good, tested my blood over a year ago concluding that my 'hormone levels' suggested perimen. To affraid to try HRT at this point, but not ruling it out. Tried Sage leaf but gave me palputations, just take evening primrose. I also get a twitch in my eyelid, is this part of the package? Chin up ladies, things can only get better.

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Caz5052 said on 12 February 2012

In reply to butterfly1960, yes, I've had terrible knees over the last 2-3 years, I'm 50 by the way, along with other joint pains and the usual other symtoms such as hot sweats (mainly at 3am), forgetfulness, anxiety and odd period cycles. I have now not had a period for nearly 3 months, although at times I feel as though I will start one but then it passes. At the moment I feel like an old crock! I've been trying to increase my exercise routine but the painful joints make it difficult at times, sometimes I can't do anything at all. My doctor seems to dismiss any accounts of joint problems, I've been fobbed off with worthless xrays and been told I have arthritis (what a surprise) and I have to live with it. I've been taking glucosemine 1500mg for a couple of years that do work for me (as the pain is much worse without), Omega 3 1000mg & now 25mg vitamin D. If anyone can suggest anything else that might help please let me know.

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donna1981 said on 12 February 2012

Im looking for advice, I'm 31 and for the past year had very irregular periods, some very painful, some heavy, some months non at all. I have 4 children and always been regular before. Some months my boobs swell and are so sore I can't hug my kids properly. I have hot flushed my face and chest go red and blotchy, I wake sweaty, I have dizzy spells and have recently started having nose bleeds, my skin has changed I get greasy teen looking spots. I feel constantly hungry any bloated. I believe I'm on the change but when I went to the doctor's 6 months ago he laughed at me and said I'm too young!! Instead he thinks I have depression!! What should I do?

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boitoult said on 08 February 2012

hi everyone i have written in before now with various syptoms of the menopause but the one that is really getting me down is the bloating, i feel so full up all of the time even around my ribs.
does anyone else feel like this ? please let me know as i worry all of the time about the things that are happening to my body. scared of my own shadow these days. many thanks

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sallyeh said on 03 February 2012

I am 52 years old and have been experiencing what i now believe to be menopausal symptoms since mid January of this year. I missed a period for the first time and have been suffering muscle and joint pain in my upper back and shoulders and soreness in my chest and boobs. I have been to the doctors several times and its not been suggested on any of these occasions that it could be the menopause, despite seeing two different doctors.(male)
I have also been waking up several times during most nights. I have been told to take ibuprofen 3 times a day and blood tests have returned normal, I have also had xrays on my back which i am awaiting the results. Does anyone else believe this could be the menopause and why on earth havent the doctors suggested this could be the problem.( i have also experienced dizziness and anxiety.)

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jabd88 said on 27 January 2012

So interesting to read everyone's personal journey.

I have suffered with menopausal symptoms for the last 5 years (from the age of 40). Unfortunately, this has never been taken seriously by the doctors I have seen. I was fitted with a Mirena coil 4 years ago which they said would help. I did in the first couple of years, but it's effects gradually wore off and the menopausal symptoms returned more strongly.

It is only today at 45 (soon to be 46) that they have reluctantly agreed to put me on a 3 month trial of HRT (Elleste Duet 1mg). Here's hoping it works!!

I would encourage other sufferers of an early menopause to keep visiting the doctor until they agree to take your situation seriously. I wish I had been a bit more persistent. Don't suffer in silence.

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franachy said on 19 January 2012

Aged 47. Have period only once a year for the past seven years, usually at Xmas or as I leave to go on holiday! Always hot, have taken to putting a fan in my handbag when out as fed up of being hot and sweaty and trying to look good. No breast pains, gradual weight gain over the years. Fed up of GP not knowing if im meopausal and him not being concerned. Arent I supposed to be looking after myself if I am. Take iron tablets every so often for a low Hb and fed up of my GP saying its my age and heavy periods! Wish hed read my case notes once in a while. Am I so different to everyone else with my lack of periods and why arent I having those heavy, elongated periods, not that im complaining ladies. Am I menopausal?

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whimsk said on 18 January 2012

I started having eratic periods 6 months ago and also suffered extreme tiredness, dizzyness and difficulty sleeping at night. I was tired all the time, barely able to do anything more than eat and get dressed. My doctor took a blood sample which proved norma, took my blood pressure which was a little higher than normal, checked my breasts for lumps and thenafter hearing about all my symptoms he prescribed magnesium supplements. After about a week I began to have increased energy levels and am now in a good frame of mind, positive and optomistic, whereas before I was quite depressed.

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User634594 said on 16 January 2012

I will be 46 in a few weeks and I think I have been going through the menopause for some time. But the doctor said I was too young! Too young for irregular periods, last one was in October but previous to that I would have one every other month. Too young to be sitting there when suddenly from my neck up, the heat heat was unreal! Too young to be having mood swings ( would just like to apologise to my other half now! )
I also thought that because i am overweight, that that was the reason that my joints and muscles ache. I have difficulty getting out of bed in the morning and even climbing the stairs first thing.. And to top it all Ive been getting an increasing amount of headaches, one last week that turned into a migraine. Does anyone know how long this all goes on for? And apart from the hot flushes, does anyone feel the cold?

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boitoult said on 11 January 2012

hi just to say how sorry i am for all of us women going throught he menopause at the mo, especially the younger ones. i have suffered for years with anxiety and it did start to get better however the last couple of years it has come back and i think it is just one of the symptoms of the menopause........... along with many others the night sweats got so bad i didn't no what to do so i got the magnet from lady care and at the same time started to take black cohosh, they have improved but i'm not sure which one of the above have helped although i did run out of the black cohosh at xmas and began to fell bad again.
i haven't had a good nights sleep in months and feel so tired all the time and don't have an ounce of the energy i used to have. my memory is bad which used to be good i feel bloated a lot of the time and the painful boobs seem to go from one to the other.
i do have horrible black thoughts about death ect which isn't too nice and then that makes me panic.
i need to go to the loo a lot which i never had to before and a lot of the time have dizzy spells. i trying to think of something good to say !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
still it seems wea are all in the same boat and it does give you a bit of comfort to know we're not alone in this.
hope you all feel better soon.
julie 54

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feeling old said on 10 January 2012

After having a baby at 41 and breastfeeding for a year, my periods had only just started up again when they stopped for 6 months. During that time the hot flushes and night sweats kicked in. Had blood tests which showed my hormone levels were raised but not significantly. Periods started up again, irratically, then stopped again for 4 months and have just started up again! A female locom at my practice said I should give serious thought to HRT but I have been bounced around like a hot potato by my male GP who told me I was simply depressed and gave me anti depressants. That did a lot for my mood swings I can tell you! I have little energy and patience works on a minute by minute basis! I now find I am having a lot of trouble with my joints aching and have developed a muffin top! I have, however, been using the product Lady Care day and night and have not had a single flush or night sweat since. All I wanted was my GP to reassure me that this was all perfectly normal and advise me how to deal with it, instead I've been left feeling like I've just about lost the plot. So, Thank you ladies for the reassurance you have given me and for helping me realise I'm not the only one banging their head against a brick wall.

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butterfly1960 said on 06 January 2012

Hi! I'm 51. Since 2009 my health has taken a beating! Eventually diagnosed with gallstones, and gallbladder removed 2010. End of all my problems, yes? NO! I was taking Norethisterone to relieve painful and heavy irregular blood loss.... a wonder drug! Then after a few missed periods, over 6 to 8 months my dr suggested stopping norethisterone tabs.... no real menopause problems, memory a bit mushy after being sharp as a pin! But suddenly, very painful joints, especially my knees.... I was wondering if anyone else noticed arthritic type symptoms with their menopause? Would love to hear from anybody out there! Many thanks!

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sharonlc said on 31 December 2011

Hi Lisat38 your symptoms are exactly the same as mine. I too had a hysterectomy nearly two years ago for the same reason (I'm now 42) and are having all the symptoms of menopause but without being able to judge, by not having any periods, it's difficult knowing if it is or not. I do remember reading that after a hysterectomy you will go through the menopause within five years...so I'm pretty certain this is what's happening now.

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lisat38 said on 30 December 2011

hi,I am a 38 year old woman with menopause symptoms,because of my age the doctor refuses to do any tests.I had a hysterectomy 2 years ago due to cancerous cells,,,,a few months after my hormones dipped and i became depressed.My doc did place me on anti depressants,which i didn't want...........since the two years though,i now have plenty of grey hair,painful breasts,night sweats and headaches.I feel very low and my doc still refuses anything but anti depressant,he won't even do any tests.I looked on this site for help and advice,i know im younger than most but this sounds defo like the change..........................any advice anyone???????????

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KarenJ63 said on 27 December 2011

I would like to thank you all for posting on here regarding the menopause. I am 48 and have always had regular periods, until recently that is. Now I seem to be constantly in period mode. Started off with two days really really light, two days clear and then whoosh two heavy weeks followed by wipe bleeds and spotting ever since. (About 3 + weeks now). I was getting worried thinking.i was ill and feeling sad inside. Just like jester housework is a no no, just.do what i really have to. I am normally very friendly.and chatty but can't be bothered a lot of the time and just want to be left alone. I don't mind being on the change, end of periods, fantastic - eventually. Thank you all for talking.

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Jetster said on 25 November 2011

I've just turned 48. Up until a couple of years ago periods were regular & light. They then became extremely heavy with clots, so much so that the 1st time, my husband & i both thought i was miscarrying. Tried Tranexamic acid to help flow but this just prolonged the period so decided just to battle thru each month. I was so heavy & painful that the 1st day of each month was spent in bed. I should point out that i am on fentanyl patches & oramorph following spinal surgery 5 years ago but still the 1st day gave me considerable pain in my back. I put up with it, & the odd flush & night sweat until my last period, 9 1/2 weeks ago! Since then, i initially experienced a couple of weeks dreadful hot flushes & night sweats & now am just warm in general. I have had some spotting on & off about a week ago. No sore boobs or bloating, tho i do feel flabbier around my midriff ( i'd lost 2stones on my medication down to around 9 stone & am now about 91/2) no loss of libido!!! I'm so extremely tired all the time but had been blaming my medication til reading the above comments, & have gone from being houseproud to barely lifting a duster & despite feeling so lazy & guilty, just couldn't do it. I don't work as was medically retired due to my condition & my husband never moans if his tea isn't ready - he'll just get on & make it! Iron his own shirts if i haven't "managed" to do it. I'm so thankful women have taken the time to comment as reading the above has made me feel so much better. I'm just worried as to why my boobs aren't sore & bloated & why my sex drive is ok - am i going thru the menopause or not?! Oh 1 other thing, whilst i don't feel depressed as such, i do think about death a lot, be it mine, my family, even the dog & just know i would go to pieces if even the dog died at the moment. Can anyone confirm if this is it please! Thank you

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will38 said on 17 November 2011

im 38 and suffer with my thyroid, I too have had problems with my period, didnt have one for 3 months and then when it showed up it didnt stop for 5 weeks, had to take the pill for it to stop and now its a no show again, I get sweats which are embarressing, i have bad mood swings, can be happy one minute and the next burst into tears. I suffer from headaches, i find it very hard to sleep, lack energy, i have swollen ankles and hands, I have gone from a size 14 to a 22 in a year, My Dr thinks im not going through early menopause and i should wait for my period. What do you think?

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Budkin said on 15 November 2011

I'm 46 in March, and haven't had a period since Christmas day last year. i had a blood test 18 months ago because of irratic periods, nothing showed up. i have just had it repeated, testing hormone levels, thyroid, kidney and liver function... i've been having period symptoms, sore boobs, and pains in my womb, i do get the odd hot flush. apparently until hormone levels reach a certain level, the menapause isn't detected,
fingers crossed for a happy result,
Budkin

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Wovens said on 06 November 2011

Just completed 51. Had a few ocasions of hot flushes at night and mood swings before my period gone for a break 2 months ago. Also had low energy levels and lack of concentration. Libido was on a stand still for yonks. Then all of a sudden everything changed! That is what worries me! My sex drive has gone up the chimney. I do wake up in the night but with heat elsewhere but the face. Get powerful whole body contractions that wake me up immediately, 3 or 4 times a night. My appetite reduced and I've lost 4 pounds in one month. Could never shift 4 pounds come hell or high water before. Everybody is noticing me now as before I was invisible. Quite intimidating really. Had never had anything like that before. Like I was put on an scientific experiment without me knowing it. I seem to be melting by the heat and it can happen anytime even at work. My menopause is upside-down now! Should I worry? Quite bizarre! Not taking any medicine or HRT. Just vitamin E and joints tablets. Has anybody had similar experience?

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Donna P said on 24 October 2011

I'm 45, not pregnant but my period is a no show. I have period pains and painful boobs and sometimes my chest feels sweaty when I wake in the night and mornings. Reading the other comments, many of you other ladies have the same symtoms, painful boobs, period pains but no period. Is this the start of the change, and are these symptoms the norm?

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makenna said on 23 October 2011

I'm confused... you see I'm 40yrs old soon to be 41 and for the past 3 years I had implanon fitted, now I have it removed but haven't had a proper period for 3 months.. I've done tests and know I'm not pregnant so could it be the menopause starting? My symptoms include mood swings can be very happy to flood of tears in less than the time it takes to boil the kettle,every night I get night sweats,starting on my throat moving down to my chest, I find it very diificult to go to the loo, it's too pain. After exercize when I go to the loo I pass blood sometimes (not all the time) even if I've only been walking a short while. My joints ache, and although I am overweight I am trying very hard to lose weight. I'm really scared to go to the Doctor incase she thinks I'm an idiot, please help as I don't feel I have any kind of life at the mo! Makenna x

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nannynain said on 23 October 2011

I`m 51 and still having regular periods which are getting closer together and heavier. I wish they would stop as I hate having periods, they ruin any chance of a half decent social life. I don`t get many hot flushes but I do get night sweats, insomnia, aching joints, weight gain, constant tiredness and a lack of enthusiasm for anything. Boobs are sore all month although sex drive not particularly affected, older husband is losing his! I feel mildly depressed much of the time and don`t have the energy to exercise etc, I also have mood swings. Went to see a male doctor who refused to take me seriously and I came away feeling stupid.
Is this what the perimenopause is like? If you can get HRT apparently you feel like a new woman within days! Will have to keep trying until I find a doctor to actually help.

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Grumpunzel said on 21 October 2011

Kimberley
I am 48 in a week's time and what you say sounds so familiar!
I used to be a nice slim 9 stone 3 and am not a hefty stone more (not that tall).
I have had incredibly erratic periods in the last year - 5 in 4 months, then nothing, then regular monthly ones over the summer and nothing now since end of august,
I feel permanently bloated, painful boobs like my period is about to happen.
I am grumpy moany, depressed, liable to cry when driving or alone, gone right off sex (husband not happy).
And tired - all the time!
I exercise 3 to 4 times a week aerobically and weights so i cannot believe the weight gain and tiredness!
I hate this stuff happening to me.
I feel like i am standing on the precipice of being an old bag - gone off nice clothes, having to force msyelf to make an effort.
and hungry all the time though trying not to eat too much!
at least otehr people seem to be going through this stuff like me!

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Kimberely said on 04 October 2011

I'm 47, have no sex drive, can't be bothered with housework, moody, ocassional hot flushes and night sweats but not too bad.

The problem I have is my periods, they can be as little as 21 days or like right now I'm 37 days and counting!

Does anyone else suffer from painfull boobs and period pains but no period! I don't think I'm pregnant but getting a little concerned now.

This has happened once before but came on at 34 days.

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debsd said on 30 September 2011

My poor husband!! weve only been married 2 years and Ive changed so much! Moody, tearful and gone right off sex!! Im 51 and put it down to menopause. had no period for 6 months then bang! day we were flying out for 2 weeks in the sun!!.

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Krissy3 said on 26 September 2011

I am 53 and have been in the menopause for a couple of years. My symptoms are; aching muscles, aching joints, stiff joints: of the neck, back, shoulders, arms; bad sleep pattern, pain in my back where my kidneys are at night making turning over in bed very painful..this pain mysteriously disappears once I am up and out of bed. .. Calmness one day, anxiety the next, exhaustion, lack on interest or enthusiasm some days, hot, clammy face but no flushes thankfully yet... the list goes on and on.

I go to the gym at least once a week and tone my muscles and use the treadmill and rowing machine to strengthen my muscles. I cycle every day to work which is a mile each way approx and have quite an active job. My libido was nil about a year ago so my doc put me in touch with the menopause clinic and I am now on testosterone implants which really help with the libido but of course does nothing for the constant aches and pains. I don't want to go on HRT mainly because I think all it does is delay the inevitable. I take vitamins and iron as my once heavy periods made me anemic. I try to eat a healthy diet. Dont really know what else to do except to try to eat healthy, try to maintain a healthy weight for your height and age, get regular exercise and take supplements if needed. I also use Rescue remedy to help me sleep and if does help.

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wassiewoo said on 24 September 2011

Am 47 1/2, still have regular horrific heavy periods every 28/30 days but have terrible night sweats, waking me 7/8 times a night at least. Im am 8hr+ sleeper normally and am finding myself unbearable! Grumpy, so tired need to go to bed at 9, and cant be bothered to do anything! Have started to take sage tablets, iron tablets and now waiting for a miracle! Also started hot flushes during the day but can deal with these.
And dont even get me started on my zero sex drive!

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homelands girl said on 19 September 2011

hi i am nearly 46 and i think pre menopausal does anyone else have slight depression very tearful i have had this problem for the last few days anyone got any tips. thanks

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kitten01 said on 19 September 2011

I'm 47 & have started going through the menopause. Everything ok at the mo. Missed a few periods & have developed a slight bladder weakness. My main problem is very sore boobs does anyone else have this problem with the menopause? LOL

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Enajod said on 29 August 2011

Can anyone help with acne?

I can cope with sleep disturbance, hot sweats and the mood swings but acne is tipping me over the edge.

I have tried an exfoliator, Freederm and have stopped using any other cream, in the hope that if I stopped adding oil it would help, but the acne appears to be spreading, if anyone has any suggestions I would be so grateful.

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old kent girl said on 18 August 2011

I am perimenopausal and have some odd symptoms, I have very vivid dreams almost every night (but no night sweats) and when I'm not having the usual hot flushes I have a throbbing sensation in my face and upper body....a bit like the feeling when you have been out walking on a cold day or after exercise. Also struggling to keep my weight under control. Does anyone else? I'm not depressed but do get very over emotional and sentimental about the past.......don't even show me babies, puppies or kittens, I just weep!! I don't feel like 'me' anymore and I do feel 'old' .........

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ziggyplayedguitar said on 29 July 2011

hot flushes, painful joints, nightmares, dark moods - im sad to say are a few of the symptoms im finding, my periods became irregular at the age of 37, and at the age of 48, it is eighteen months since my last period. My GP would not test me until i was 45 as he said that i was too young. I continuously told him that my sisters were young when they started with it, but he didnt listen and had me examined with cameras etc to find out what the problem was. He is an excellent doctor with everything else, but with this, not very good. my depression gets quiet bad at times but he will NOT give me hormone replacement. God girls - if men only knew what we went through.

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shirley49 said on 20 July 2011

I have found since starting the menopause that some of my symtoms are, my ears start to to burn, then boy do i sweat. But i have come across an thing called Lady Care. It's a magnet that you clip onto your knickers. It does not claim to work for everyone, but has sure worked for me.

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allaboutme said on 24 June 2011

I use to have a healthy active sex life but since the start of the menopause this has reduced dramatically (if I'm honest it's none exsistant) I just done seem to have any sexual urges any more, which I feel really sad about. my poor husband is wondering what the heck is going on, have any of you other ladies experienced this, & if so please can you share your experiences with me, and especially if you have any idea's on how to return to an active sex life.
Thank youx

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Brenda24 said on 21 June 2011

The second tip is to follow a balanced diet. Menopause is most likely to occur when the estrogen levels in the body drop drastically, so in order to prevent this from happening, eat foods that boost estrogen levels. In this regard, foods such as soy and whole grains can help as they are rich in estrogen while herbs such as dong quai and black kohosh too have been known to postpone menopause symptoms.

http://www.nhs.uk/Conditions/Menopause/Pages/Symptoms.aspx

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Michelle68 said on 24 February 2011

no night sweats, slight infection, no chance of pregnancy and no periods for 2 months now. will be 44 next birthday.

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midnight_poison said on 17 July 2010

im confused i have no symptoms at all

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BBHH said on 11 October 2009

''sleep disturbance may also occur as a result of......... insomnia''.

So what causes the insomnia?

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